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[kateadelle]

Originally Posted by csvam 

I am not especially used to work people, strangers touching me without my permission- so the other day when another emloyee walked up to me and said, oh now you're really showing...then she reached out and touched my bump WITH BOTH HANDS!!! and told me I was having a girl. Um, not so much...apparently her ultrasound quality hands must need a tune up.

A customer looked at me the other day and announced really loudly. "You are having a boy!". When I told him the baby is a girl, he said "well, you know they can be wrong". I did not even know how to respond to this short of whipping out an ultrasound photo of the baby's labia!

[lulubikes]

Originally Posted by kateadelle 

I think the most bone-headed thing anyone has said so far was when I told my dad I was pregnant and the first thing out of his mouth was "On purpose?". Um, hello, dad - I am a lesbian, we don't often get accidentally pregnant. I think he was just shocked! He has actually been super supportive and excited. He called me early in my pregnancy and told me how excited he was and got really emotional on the phone. 

OK this is my friend's story, I don't think she'll mind my sharing this. On the topic of lesbians getting accidentally pregnant... I have some good friends who had been trying to get pregnant for over 6 months with known donor sperm. They had actually had his sperm tested last fall and found out he was sterile. They took a few months off and he did some things to boost his sperm count (less alcohol, smoking and underwear I think). They were debating whether to test again or just try again - they even were considering frozen sperm... then my friend ovulated a little earlier than expected. So they decided to go ahead and try - so he brought the sperm over & the inseminated. They had been planning to have him save up for a few days and because of the short notice he wasn't able to do that. Then due to circumstances, they only got one dose in. Low and behold that was the month she got pregnant! She had had so much disappointment, she didn't test for like a week after she was late. She figured it was just another false hope month. She jokes about how they're the only lesbians to accidentally get pregnant, LOL.

[purposefuldoula]

Originally Posted by lulubikes 

OK this is my friend's story, I don't think she'll mind my sharing this. On the topic of lesbians getting accidentally pregnant... I have some good friends who had been trying to get pregnant for over 6 months with known donor sperm. They had actually had his sperm tested last fall and found out he was sterile. They took a few months off and he did some things to boost his sperm count (less alcohol, smoking and underwear I think). They were debating whether to test again or just try again - they even were considering frozen sperm... then my friend ovulated a little earlier than expected. So they decided to go ahead and try - so he brought the sperm over & the inseminated. They had been planning to have him save up for a few days and because of the short notice he wasn't able to do that. Then due to circumstances, they only got one dose in. Low and behold that was the month she got pregnant! She had had so much disappointment, she didn't test for like a week after she was late. She figured it was just another false hope month. She jokes about how they're the only lesbians to accidentally get pregnant, LOL.

Aww! I'm so glad they were able to get pregnant! 

[nhklh]

I had my first stupid comment this morning :) 

I was at the markets, and the women at the fruit & veg stall I frequent asked if I was pg.  They'd been talking about it, apparently, wondering.  And I got the "hoping for a girl?" comment.  

[Mamabeakley]

I do get asked if DH is the dad of all of them, although with slightly more justification than others, maybe - my two oldest call him by his first name, while DD calls him Daddy.  This is the fault of the oldest cousin (3 mo older than DS1) who, of course, called him by name, and DS1 called everybody (except me) whatever she called them.  DS2 followed his big bro.  DH really wanted DD to call him Daddy, though, so he's worked on it with her and she's obliged.  They definitely all look like him, though, so . . . I know people don't mean to be rude.  But yes, he's their dad, ALL of their dads, AND this ones, AND we've been married for 14 years AND known each other for more than half our lives. 

And do you know, I don't think I've ever been touched on my belly until this pg?  And this time it's been by little kids, who just don't know any better, and whom I really can't bring myself to slam.  I mean, what do you say to a cute 7 year old you've never met before who runs up and puts both hands on your belly and says with stars in her eyes, "Do you have a *baby* in there?!!?"

[michellerivera]

Home Birthing Comments: 

"Do you not care if your baby lives? Something will go wrong you won't have enough time to get to a real Dr. ....."

"What if she's born really early, do you think she'd survive a home birth?" (WHYTF would I Have a home birth if she was born really early!?)

"Water causes infection- why would you do a water birth?"

First Trimester Comments:

"Yeah, you'll probably miscarry- it's really common- I had like 4 miscarriages."

"You'll only be sick until around week 12...." (EVERY WOMAN is different- my nausea didn't stop until week 23!)

Comments on My Weight:

"You're a big girl so you probably won't even show."

"You can't have a home birth with a midwife- you have serious health problems" (What!?)

"You won't need to get bigger clothes, you're already plus sized!" (LOL- ok... if only this were true. I was outta my awesome jeans by week 11)

Generally Rude Comments: 

"Having a baby sucks- they piss and poop all over you and all they do is cry..." (mother of 3)

"There goes your entire life..." (father of 1)

"Childbirth is unbearable- you'll hate it" (Yeah, I'll bet it is on your back with bright lights in your face and your whole family in the delivery room)

"I miscarried at 22 weeks- it can be over at any moment" (she said this to me at 9 weeks)

"Don't get fatter while you're pregnant- it's impossible to take that weight off" (Yes, she said fatter)

This along with lots and lots of unsolicited advice and certain family members who are offended that I'm not calling them and constantly asking for advice... The only person I want advice from is my midwife, honestly. I'm trusting two of my girlfriends who are very holistic and just had babies this last year. - and they always understand if I decide to try something else. 

My general conclusion: That if you don't raise/have your child exactly like someone else does then it's because you think they're bad parents..." (WTF)

[travelmumma]

hahaa! yes to alllll of the above!!!!

"Oh your so selfish for having a homebirth!"  Lol yes please tell this to the woman my midwife attended last month who was in ACTIVE labour for 3 whole days.. Golly how selfish is she to go through all of that time and ?pain? just to keep her babe out of a hospital filled with sick people, so it can start its life with no drugs in its system in a nice calm environment!

Lol oh so selfish!

[cieloazul]

"Huh, my DIL is due in Jan and she's not showing at all!" Was that rude to me (belly too big) or rude to DIL (belly too small)? We're two different people so it's just crazy that we don't look completly.totally.exactly.the.same.

[segolilymama]

Michell - that is SOME list!

TM - I have heard that one before. Yes, there is an element of homebirth that is all about what I want to experience when giving birth. But the primary reasons, when you do the research, have NOTHING to do with selfishness. In fact, I happen to feel it's selfish to go to a hospital where you are putting your baby at more risk, just for the opportunity of an epidural (I also respect other people's choices in this area, I just know for me it wouldn't work - and was awful when I had to experience it!).

cielo - I was at my brother's wedding last weekend - his new SIL (bride's sis) is due about 3 weeks before me, and her belly is half as big. It's her first, my 4th - the main reason we look so different. I cannot tell you how many stupid comments people made about that. I loved what my dad said, though - he overheard someone saying that I must be eating poorly, as I've gained so much more weight (size maybe; weight who knows) - which annoyed the heck out of me, since I had been talking to her about her diet of fruit loops & taco bell a few minutes before. My dad just said, "My daughter grows the healthiest, most beautiful babies you can imagine." Whoever it was shut up fast :) Go dad!