I am currently pregnant with baby number 4 and have never used a Doula.
This was largely because I got epidurals and thought Doulas were only for natural births, but anyway
I am planning on giving birth at a birthing center this time around and going natural of course
so I am debating hiring a doula.
My main concerns are 1)My husband is not sold on the idea at all and was honestly offended that
I didn't think he was enough support in the delivery room (his words). It really isn't that, I just think female support is important,
especially from someone who has supported women through births professionally.
2) I am worried a doula won't be worth the money and totally unnecessary.
Please explain to me what a doula does really. Is she like a friend and helps you make choices or plan things during your pregnancy? Does she just show up at your birth and coach you through it? Does she leave right after the birth? Does she visit you at home and help out there?
Would my midwife be sufficient? With past pregnancies I had midwives but they were unable to remain in the hospital room with me
and weren't much support or comfort, but would a birthing center midwife be able to do so and make a doula unnecessary?
Thanks for any advice!