I'm having a DAY. One of those days when you just want to scream and shake everyone and say "Why don't you GET IT?!"
I thought it might help to vent and to write out some of my top things I wish people would just. quit. saying.
1. Glad I chose X, Y, or Z, then.
As in, glad I chose to birth with this midwife, or this doula, or to birth at the birth center. The implication being that making all the right choices/moves ensures you can avoid a cesarean. And mamas who've had one just didn't do their homework or make the right choices. Nothing like statements like these, with their incredible privilege and hubris.
2. The baby's healthy.
Yeah. I'm not. You want to see my scar? It still hurts 15 months later.
3. You can have a VBAC next time.
Who says I want a next time? And thanks for making any future births all about fixing the first one. No pressure or anything. Sheesh.
4. She believed she could, so she did.
I believed too, and then I didn't. Belief is powerful, but it does not trump physical reality. My son was good and stuck, and no amount of faith would *believe* him out of my vagina. Trust me.