Hi all, new here! Thanks in advance for listening...
My daughter turned 3 in May, and boy did we turn a corner fast. For the most part, I know she's three and just pushing boundaries when she tells me NO or doesn't listen to me. However, when it comes to things like running off, or running into a parking lot or street I resort to yelling because she just won't stop when I say STOP! ( We don't really use NO.) She's never been a child of tantrums, just whining about the smallest things. FYI, I'm a SAHM.
This week, that changed. For the past 3 days, like clockwork, at 11 am she has a bit of a meltdown. She won't listen, she's defiant, angry, throws things, yells "NO", "I DON'T WANT TO" and "I WILL NOT BEHAVE" for about 20-30 minutes straight. The first time it happened we were at the zoo and I had to split from our group because she was so out of hand. She almost ripped the canopy right off her wagon; I had to remove it. We just sat there the whole time until she calmed down. (She was belted in) Once she did, she was as sweet as they come for the rest of the day. This has happened 3 days in a row now. Day 2 was at an empty burger restaurant with grandma, today was at a local garden where she was allowed to walk around and view all the flowers, gardens, and fairy residences.
By 11 am, she's had breakfast, a snack, and plenty of fluids. Different snack every day, so I'm pretty sure it's not anything food related. We get plenty of exercise & socialization. She has been, for the last month or so, skipping a few naps a week and just having "quiet time" in her room, because she just refuses to fall asleep some days. However, she does not ever make up the sleep. Her Ped tells me this is fine and normal. The only other thing I can think of is that my hubby just left Sunday on a business trip and maybe she's finally realizing what's really going on when he leaves. (He travels about 1/3 of the year, randomly) But the same time every day? Anyone else ever run into a "scheduled tantrum" like this?
We don't spank, we do time outs or take away toys, but even that doesn't phase her anymore. I keep my cool during her meltdown, but if she runs off I don't have much choice other than to yell her name and so forth, or she keeps going. I hate yelling at her. My father always yelled at us at the top of his Sicilan lungs, or used "the belt", and I don't want to be like that. (I would never consider hitting her, but yelling isn't much better.)