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Wasn't meant to be

post #1 of 12
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Had my first OB appt and u/s yesterday, I should have been 9 weeks 2 days, the baby measured 4-5 weeks and no hb. I had hcg levels drawn and will have them repeated, but it's really only confirming what we already know. The OB said there was a small chance we were having trouble visualizing everything due to my retroverted uterus, but deep down I know that's not the case. It was a transvaginal u/s and I have felt all along that something wasn't right. My dates can't be off, I tested positive 5 weeks ago and I am very regular. I wish I had listened to my intuition and gone sooner. I had only one episode of very very light spotting a few days ago, no bleeding or cramping, I still have my symptoms...this sucks. I'm grappling with the decision to wait out the natural process (which my body does not seem to be doing) or go for a d&c. I'm going into a couple of brutal weeks at work, all overnights again starting tonight, and I just want to curl up and die.

post #2 of 12

Oh, my goodness, I am so sorry!  I've been through that twice now and it is so hard.  ::hug::  Praying for wisdom for you in your decisions and  for some really great support from friends and family to help you these next few weeks.  Take it easy-- can you ask your doc to put you on disability from work for a week or two?   

post #3 of 12

P.S.  you can PM me if you want to discuss natural mc vs. D+C.  I had a natural mc that ended up with a D+C for complications and another natural mc.  There are benefits and disadvantages to both options; it is a very personal decision.  Whichever one you choose and feel most comfortable with is the right one for you.  So sorry, again.   

post #4 of 12

I'm so sorry Becki

post #5 of 12

I am so sorry, lots of prayers for you. Sending you positive thought about your decision on the D&C, not an easy one.

post #6 of 12

I'm so sorry.  I was in a very similar situation just a few months ago. Hugs and PM if you want to talk going natural vs. D&C. 

post #7 of 12
I'm so sorry. hug.gif thinking of you! candle.gif
post #8 of 12

So sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you. hug2.gif

post #9 of 12

Sooo soo very sorry.  Be gentle on yourself as this is not easy... but knwo you are not alone.  When you are ready, I suggest visiting the pregnancy loss board on MDC.  



post #10 of 12
I'm so sorry honey! Big hugs.
post #11 of 12

hug2.gif So sorry.

post #12 of 12

thinking of you, I'm so sorry *hugs*

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