We literally just got our foster care license last week after 6 months of paperwork, home study, classes, etc, The first call (which was 1 day after we were approved) was for respite care for 3 girls, aged 11 months, 2 years, and 3 years for Labor Day weekend. I said yes, thinking this would be a great way to get our feet wet with fostering. 4 day weekend.
We didn't plan on taking in 3 kids (we already have 3 bio kids 12, 13 and 15). Today I got a call from the kids' caseworker who asked me to consider them longer. He said the original foster family had just asked for removal. I am completely torn. We really expected 1, possible 2 kids. Not 3. I told the caseworker that I couldn't decide until we made it thru the weekend. He said he understood. Part of me wants to say no, other part yes.
I was leaning more towards a younger baby, but who knows when that might happen. I guess I'm already a little perplexed with the UNKNOWING of foster care. I really am not a fly by the seat of my pants gal, but I'm not a strict schedule planner either. I'm pretty much smack in the middle of that. But then my brain starts going... what if I take these siblings in and miss out a potential younger placement? What if I don't take them in and don't get another call for several months? (Although this seems unlikely because I've gotten 4 calls in 7 days. Does the guilt from saying no ever go away?)
The foster family we are doing respite for has had them for 2 months. They asked for respite for Labor Day to go on vacation that was planned prior to placement. Prior to that they were with Grandma for 2 years (removed due to a violation). Caseworker said that the family is overwhelmed with the girls, but that the girls are angels. I didn't think to ask him what the long term plan is.
I guess what I am rambling about is this: how do you commit to something without really knowing what you are getting into until it gets here? Do I hold out for a younger placement? I haven't used car seats in 9 years. I keep having horror flashes of taking 20 minutes getting into the van, as opposed to 5 seconds. LOL I am so excited, but freaked. I'm going to sleep on it. I hope I'm not coming off as a babbling idiot...