Do we have any other blended families here? How are the the 'step' children taking it (no offense meant!)? What about ex-partners? How is it affecting the pregnancy for you? Plans to help bring everyone together?
I'm divorced and have a three year old DD with ex-DH1. He just had a baby with his new fiance and DD is handling it surprisingly well. She was figured out that Mommy also has a baby in her belly but anyone who hears it puts it off as a confused three year old talking about her new brother. DP is also getting divorced (they've been separated for a few years) and is finally reaching the point of almost being finalized. He has an 8 year old son and a 2 year old DD that's he's chosen to love. The 8 year old is just not getting that his parents are not getting back together (despite years of separation although a large part of that is his mother using him as pawn) and doesn't understand what DP and I living together means. He just calls me Dad's roommate despite all evidence to the contrary and us telling him that we are a couple. Luckily, all of our children get along great and genuinely seem to like each other. My ex-DH1 I think will be truly happy for me. He knows I wanted a large family and that it was really hard for me when his fiance became pregnant though I never said anything and did my best to be helpful when asked. We've reached that healthy point in the divorce (most of the time) where we are able to put aside our differences - his only concern is how it'll effect our DD and since he knows from personal experience she will handle it well, he'll be fine. DP's ex on the other hand is the reason we can't tell anyone. She's immature and manipulative. If she finds out then she'll do everything she can to stall their divorce, mess up his life, keep the kids from us, etc. Just every nightmare thing you can think of for an ex to do in a divorce out of sheer jealousy and spite (she's done it before when she's not gotten her way). Because of THAT and DSS's attitude toward the whole divorce, I'm really worried how he's going to take it. DP said he was just fine when his little sister was born but that was different - it was Mom's, kwim? I love the little guy and I don't know how he's going to take it and I don't want to cause him any hurt. Of course the two year old won't understand when she's told. The only thing I can think of to include them is to take them with us to the U/S so they can see the baby and maybe ask him to help look for names? Honestly, I'm just really down about the whole thing because here's this beautiful little miracle I'm growing and because of other people, I can't share my joy or start helping my family enjoy the coming expansion. Am I alone in the blended family category here?