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post #21 of 72

I would like to have it done and I'm fairly certain it's standard practice for my OB's office but I won't know for certain until I ask on the 11th.

post #22 of 72

I will be having an ultra sound done because my last DS was born with a cleft lip and palate.  I would just like to know ahead of time to be able to plan ahead of time.

post #23 of 72
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Originally Posted by montanamomof3 View Post

I will be having an ultra sound done because my last DS was born with a cleft lip and palate.  I would just like to know ahead of time to be able to plan ahead of time.

 

Can they discover cleft lip/palate at the 20wk ultrasound?

Just curious, because I didn't know this was one of the things they check for.

Actually, doea anyone have a list of all the things they check for at the 20wk anatomy scan?

post #24 of 72

Here's a pretty good list of what's checked, if anyone else is interested.

http://www.babymed.com/pregnancy-tests/anatomy-ultrasound-pregnancy

post #25 of 72

With my DS it was found at my 20wk us.  It was a very big blow to me cause I didn't know too much ab out it.  But I was able to meet with the specialists ahead of time to ease my fears.  Also found a really good support group.  I'm not sure if that is something that they were looking for, but if the baby is in the right position then a cleft lip is very noticable.  The palate is a little harder to see.

post #26 of 72

we are having an 18w Level 2 U/S here. We have had one with the last 3 children. My husband has multiple members with issues (missing kidneys, missing trachea, spina bifida, and one baby being born with anencephaly) we have also had at least one baby die in the family from a serious cord defect. It wont change the way I handle things as termination is not an option here. 

the other side of that is i NEED to see this baby. I have this deep and overwhelming longing to see this baby moving on the screen... is that weird?

post #27 of 72
I don't think it's weird at all, kittn! I'm pretty sure it's far weirder to be like me and feel almost the opposite. smile.gif
post #28 of 72
I have an ultra sound on Thursday. I'm around twelve weeks but because I'm being forced into yet another c section (3rd) they need to have a more accurate recordof how far along I am. Plus might be twins lol. I have a 5 yr old boy and 2 yr old girl..the sex doesn't really matter but id still like to know so I can plan accordingly.so ill have the 20 week u/s aswell hut that's all the testing I need/want.
post #29 of 72
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Originally Posted by kittn View Post

we are having an 18w Level 2 U/S here. We have had one with the last 3 children. My husband has multiple members with issues (missing kidneys, missing trachea, spina bifida, and one baby being born with anencephaly) we have also had at least one baby die in the family from a serious cord defect. It wont change the way I handle things as termination is not an option here. 

the other side of that is i NEED to see this baby. I have this deep and overwhelming longing to see this baby moving on the screen... is that weird?

Not weird at all!!!  

post #30 of 72

i have an US scheduled for this friday. i am excited. planning a hb. I feel somewhat anxious about this pregnancy (my second born) and the u/s feels like a safe option for checking things out. we had one last time and it was very satisfying. first we asked for black and white only and for a minimum time (about 10 minutes total). i do want to find out the gender if presented and know where the placenta is and just that overall everything looks ok. i live close to a hospital, but would still like to be best prepared if hospital care was necessary. 

 

also my husband and i have been struggling a lot and i think it is a chance for both of us, and him especially, to make a connection with this baby. the connection is there no matter what, but i was surprised last time how impactful it was! and honestly it was the only time i ever saw my daughters heart beat, and her bones/organs as we have never had to x-ray her or do any medical interventions of any kind. that was pretty amazing in itself.  as interventions go i feel a one time ultrasound is pretty minimal and what we can find out is worth it. 

 

counting the days. ! 

post #31 of 72

My MW isn't a big fan of them, but I really want to know so I can sew. It's like I'm unsettled because I want to make something for baby that doesn't involve ducks. And, being older, I'm nervous that something will be wrong (not that I'd change anything). We're not doing any of the tests, but every visit they would bring up my age and the risks and now I'm nervous, when I was so sure of myself early on. 

 

With the last 2, the U/S really helped my husband connect with the pregnancy. Knowing how he will react once he's seen baby, I don't think we could skip it. 

 

Mine is scheduled for Friday, Oct 12th. We picked the last appointment they had and then we're going out to eat on a date. :)

post #32 of 72

It really seems to be a common experience that husbands/partners (particularly) benefit greatly from seeing an u/s.  It makes total and complete sense to me on a logical level-- they don't get m/s, their breasts don't get tender and bigger, they can't feel baby moving (at least not until later)...  It just hasn't been my experience.  Well, duh-- it wouldn't be... it can't be, by design... since I am getting no routine u/s. 

 

But I guess I am wondering if people can elaborate on how their husbands/partners changed after seeing a u/s, how their attitudes or actions changed, or... what they mean by how significant the u/s was for partner bonding...?  I am genuinely curious!

post #33 of 72

My husband's attitude changed. He seemed more excited, wanted to plan for baby and get things ready. It was like a giant light switch, especially for our first child. It's hard to wrap your head around how your life will change after baby without having the major changes to your body. In fact, he became more compassionate about my changes and a little more forgiving of the mood swings. 

post #34 of 72

Interesting!  If anyone else wants to weigh in, I am all ears!

post #35 of 72

I'm getting one at the end of the month, I'll be about 19 weeks.  Planning a home birth (and VBAC) and want to be aware of any potential issues.  Hopefully this will be the last.  DP didn't come to any of my u/s last time (he works in another city and it's not practical for him), and likely won't make it to any this time.  I brought home still images for him.

post #36 of 72

My DH is really looking forward to the ultrasound.  I think it does just help partners get excited about it and feel that the pregnancy is "real" - and it's one of the few aspects of pregnancy that dads can experience right alongside moms in exactly the same way.  We can feel and sense so much of what is happening in our bodies, they have the same genetic investment and look forward to the same decades of interaction and dependence, but I think frequently partners feel like they're "behind" because they lack the intimacy of carrying the child inside them as it grows.  But an ultrasound gives them a window (almost literally) into what's going on inside you.  It's true that humans got along fine without ultrasounds for millions of years, but, y'know, not all all progress is bad, not all technology is harmful... I think this is a rare case where the moderate use that most people make of this does a lot more good than harm by letting partners feel like equal participants, however briefly.  Also, gadgets!  Cool gadgets! 

 

My ultrasound is in 3 weeks - I'll be just past 19 weeks at the time.  I'm really looking forward to it.  It's just really *interesting*.  I love being able to have a peek inside my body.  I've had an ultrasound done of my heart, too (for a suspected murmur that turned out to be nothing) and that was really cool too. 
 

post #37 of 72
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not all all progress is bad, not all technology is harmful... I think this is a rare case where the moderate use that most people make of this does a lot more good than harm

 

I just want to clarify that I totally believe this to be true!  At least in the majority of cases, when used, as you say-- moderately or judiciously.  It was a really close call for me on this decision, had little if anything to do with just not wanting to see the baby (for philosophical/spiritual reasons), and I don't know if I'll make the same decision for every pregnancy.  I also am highly unconvinced that a couple of u/s or doppler readings are likely to do any harm in themselves (d/t radiation).

 

It makes loads of sense to me that it's an experience that both participants share in equally, by design... 

 

IDK what it is...  Maybe I'm delusional, and honestly I am a tiny bit surprised by DH's enthusiasm and apparent genuinely equal or near-equal excitement about things which only one of us can experience (such as movement-- right now, he can't feel it from the outside).  Obviously, much of this is not technically something than can be experienced "equally" by both of us.  But there is some truth in a weird way when I joke that DH is more excited about this baby than I am.  I mean, not REALLY, but...  I guess it's hard to imagine a significant change in him after seeing a u/s, though there's no way for me to know (probably no way, in this pregnancy).  And logically, it makes total sense that it would have an impact-- likely a greater impact than it would on me...  It's just hard for me to imagine, and I'm the kind of person (as is DH, actually-- HUGE pet peeve of his!) who hates hearing men say "we're pregnant."   

post #38 of 72

One thing I appreciate about pregnancy in general is the opportunity to tap into my women's wisdom and intuition and to find my unique, truthful path. I have many friends who didn't have any ultrasounds, including my midwife, and other friends who had half a dozen. I trust myself. I trust my knowing and my choices. I have declined almost every test, intervention including doppler use unless truly medically necessary. Yet I choose to have one ultrasound mid-pregnancy. I love myself for looking deeply, doing lots of research, talking to folks, and making choices for myself and my family that feel honest, loving, and authentic to who I am and where I am at. 

post #39 of 72

We are, actually it will be more like 21/22 weeks. While I agree in trusting your gut, etc, there is something to be said for outside reassurance too.

 

I'm a VBAC and there are some things that are important for me to know that I don't know can be determined another way. I need to know where the placenta is, that it's not growing into my scar (a rare but possible thing that happens in subsequent pregnancies following a c-section) and we do like to know the gender. I have already had 2 (one dating one that was absolutely necessary, I had no clue how far along I was, and the OB's had nothing to go on either, other than guessing by the external palpation of my uterus (which especially in a 3rd pregnancy so soon after my 2nd can be deceiving)  - the other was bc we weren't picking up the heartbeat on doppler, and while I felt things were fine, I also felt a quick peek wasn't really harmful either.

 

I see nothing wrong with women who choose to not have ultrasound or doppler. I don't like the idea of getting one every appointment without absolute necessity. But in those cases, it's not my body or pregnancy in question.

 

With my prior 2 pregnancies, I had more ultrasounds than I thought I would, because both went past my due date, and I needed BPPs toward the end. the "risk" of a BPP to me was much preferable to an earlier induction or a RCS.

 

I'll end with the un-crunchy fact that I love seeing babies on ultrasound. I love seeing them wiggle and move - especially in the first half of pregnancy when you aren't feeling that stuff yourself as much.

post #40 of 72

Our insurance doesn't pay for an ultrasound, so it would be out-of-pocket, which we really can't afford right now.  DH also doesn't want to know the sex.  :(  I do, but I guess I can't find out because I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret from him even if I tried.  He keeps telling me, "You can find out, but I don't want to know..." Um, yeah that would work so well.  I would slip and say "he" or "she" or something accidentally, and if everyone else (family, friends) know that I know, they'd beg me to tell them.  If I tell anyone else, it would get back to him.  So basically, he's taking away my right to know by saying he doesn't want to know.  irked.gif

So, is there any point to trying to find the money to do it?  Part of me thinks it would be a good idea to know ahead of time about any problems there might be (though unlikely), but then I worry about ultrasound waves and all of the controversy with that.  We had 3 ultrasounds with DD - one early one because I was spotting, the "gender scan", and a last one when I was 41 weeks to check the fluid levels.  I definitely didn't *want* that many, but that's how it turned out.

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