How to not be outed at a party...... « Back to Group Discussions

[Cali2SC]

So with DD some close friends of ours guessed that we were expecting before we were ready to tell, because I was not drinking wine.  Even my "dehydrated and headachy from working on the farm all day in the hot sun" excuse did not fool them for a minute.  

Fast forward to this pregnancy.  We are only 5 weeks 1 day and not ready to share.  Going to a party this afternoon (Same group of close friends).  DH and I are working on our strategy to not get outed early.  Any tips?  I really want to wear my cute cargo maternity pants, but I think I will have to suck it up (literally) and wear my jeans, just to be safe that my wardrobe does not give me away.  Also not going with the I don't feel well enough to drink approach.  Instead, I plan to fake drink, and switch glasses with DH every so often, so he will be drinking for two.    

We also have not yet told our DD (3 years old) because she repeats everything.  It is possible that she does know, because we have not been super stealth talking in front of her, but so far she has not spilled the beans.

Any other tips?

[Lisanne]

That sounds like a good strategy :) A couple sips won't hurt anything too if you need it to be more convincing. 

[IronMam]

Would they believe you if you said you're on a diet?

Downside would be that you'd have to eat like you're on a diet and turn down a lot of the usual party foods.

[Cali2SC]

I think our secret is safe for now!    I chose comfort ended up wearing some of my maternity clothes (As long as you couldn't see the waistband they looked normal.)  I was too bloated to wear my jeans and I didn't think walking around with my pants unbuttoned all night was a good option.  Besides I need to do laundry and these were clean.

Hubby drank for two and we switched margarita glasses back and forth.  I took some faux sips to throw people off my trail (mostly I just got salt off the rim of the glass )

I certainly did not eat like I was on a diet!  I am hungry all the time!  So much that I joked to our host about my tapeworm that I am feeding.

I think claiming to be on a diet would have gotten me punched in the face.  Ok maybe not but that would have certainly raised some eyebrows as I am 5'4" and weight 116lb  (maybe 120 now).  Last pregnancy it looked like I was trying to smuggle a basketball under my shirt.  

I think the key was the fake drinking. Especially since that is what gave me away last time. 

[Cali2SC]

Oh and one of our friends who was there is a doula and doing her midwifery training.  Last pregnancy she knew before I did!

[Virginia884]

I've used "I drank way too much last night. Just water today." convincingly before. Glad no one found you out!

[Cali2SC]

Originally Posted by Virginia884 

I've used "I drank way too much last night. Just water today." convincingly before. Glad no one found you out!

Oh, this is good.  I like it.  Though I dare say that DP did not seem to mind drinking for two!

[Greenlea]

I had my 30th bday party over the weekend. We had been planning for weeks on going to a dance club and bar hopping, then we found out about the pregnancy the week before the party. We did not want people finding out so I still went to the bars / dancing.  But like you, my hubby drank for both of us. I'd take fake sips of my beer and switch with him when he finished his.  As long as I always had a drink in my hand, regardless if I was drinking it or not, no one seemed to notice.

Although by the end of the night when I was super tired and wanted to go home, my sister kept saying - "but you don't even seem drunk!" I kept telling everyone too, that I was taking drinking really slow that night as I haven't drank in mths due to trying to lose weight, which was true.

But then we went to my in-laws house on Sunday, and my mother-in-law guessed i was pregnant anyways! We still denied it.  But she had the same crazy intuition with my 2nd baby too.

[TIFF4NY]

Just wanted to say happy birthday Greelea! I turned 30 last Friday. =)

I don't drink alcohol ever so I have no problems with being found out. My main issue right now is the whole nausea thing and trying to hide that from people.