I just had my first ever real discipline moment with my 2.5 year old. Of course I've given minor consequences before but nothing major and it all worked out fine but i feel worried i did it wrong, this is all new for me! I feel guilty lol.
So DD just finished lunch (a sticky PB&J) and it is nearly nap time so we go to wash up as we always do after lunch. Well she says in a whiny voice (slept bad last night; overtired, up to early) "i don't want to wash my hands!!" and i explain that her hands are sticky and that we have to wash up because we can't touch everything with dirty hands. I try to get her up on the step stool but she goes spaghetti legs and wont stand up. While dangling there she says "i don't want to wash my hands i just want to go potty!" We just started potty training and she earns a jelly bean for success so she is determined to go pee and get another bean even though she just went. So i say ok well i will give you more time. I know good and well she is just stalling her nap. I go off and fold laundry for a bit and then next thing i know she is up walking around off the potty. I say "do you have to go pee? you need to sit down on the potty if you need to go potty" and she runs back to the pot. I give her more time and i say-ok enough is enough and it is time to wash up. I try to calm myself down and i look at her in the eyes and say "you can either wash your hands, or your dollies (barbies) will go bye bye on the top of the refidgerator for an hour" insert more whining about not wanting to wash her hands and then more explaining by me about how she wont be able to take her doll to rest time with her unless she washes her hands. She says the dollies can go bye-bye she doesn't want to wash her hands. So i say ok but i still need to wipe the sticky off and i get a cloth and wipe an she does NOT like this she is trying to rip her hands away from me. I just get it done fast and put on my happy face and put her down to nap per usual but without her doll. I think she whispered for it once but otherwise no big fan fare. She is still in there now singing to herself though i know she is exhausted from bad sleep. I know this wouldn't have happened if she wasn't so tired but is tired really a good excuse to allow her to behave badly?
Did i do this right? Is a toy time out appropriate in this scenario or should i have done something different?