We realized recently that buying a new house is still a ways away for us. We currently rent a newer home with 3 bedrooms and a great back yard. We moved here about 6 months ago when I was pregnant, and between us we have 3 other children we have split custody with, plus the new baby. Since we co-sleep etc with the baby we felt 3 bedrooms was fine, and figure he will share a room with us for awhile. my two other children share a room in our house- and have typically always shared a room. His one other child has their own room- and always has. We figured that by the time the baby was old enough to "move out" of our room we would buy a larger house... Renting a larger house is kind of out of our budget. However looking into home buying right now I feel like the reality is we won't be ready to buy a house by the time the baby is outgrowing our room. Trying to move into a more expensive rental after living here such a short amount of time seems like it wouldn't be worth the stress on our family... our kids have moved a lot between households, and they are all under 7.
I made the sort of obvious suggestion that when the baby is about 18 months he can begin to share a room with my partner's other child. They are biological brothers, so it seems like the natural order of things? My partner seemed put off by this idea- which i had figured before hand since there was so much discussion of needing a "bigger house". Even if we did have a 4 bedroom, I would more prefer to use the extra room as a much needed office space and look for a place with an extra common space for a playroom. I know there will be more discussion on the matter soon, so i wanted to ask other blended families how they handle rooming situations with bio, step, and "half" siblings. They are all boys, and my partner's son is 5 and a half years old. We have him 8 overnights a month. What are your thoughts on your own blended family's room-sharing- do you think a child who has always had their own room should be able to keep it that way, or a child that age in general ideally shouldn't share a room with a toddler? I know personal space and belongings are important to a child especially in a blended family, but I also don't want to have a general rule of exclusion because thats what they've always had.