I am constantly fighting with my DH about the house as well. He wants it spotless and blames me for EVERYTHING that goes wrong, and all the trash and everything. I will admit I am a slight hoarder, I save everything and then once or twice a year do huge purges of stuff. My crafting is the worst, but most of that is in my crafting room so he can't even see it. What makes me mad is he claims that he picks up after himself and never leaves anything out, he says that I don't ever throw anything away. But our house is full of beer bottles and caps, on the counters, on his nightstand, in the bathroom, anywhere he can find to set one down he just leaves it there. He leaves takeout containers on the counter all the time. But he doesn't see any of that, all he sees is that I leave food in containers on the counter when I clean the fridge or empty his lunch box. Really I try to keep my house clean, but its overwhelming! I have a 36 inch by 48 inch calendar in the hallway that I write everything on to help me keep up with it all, it has all of my cleaning that I need to do, when I need to feed the snake, when bills are due, when we are going out of town or have a Dr appointment or anything that needs to be known. It is by far the best thing to happen to my house in a while, at the first part of my pregnancy I was so sick I think I went 3 full weeks without vacuuming he complained about it but he didn't actually pick up the vacuum to help me. I figure if he is not willing to help me he cant complain to me, but he still does.
This is my cleaning schedule that I came up with:
Sunday: Bedrooms and Bathrooms day this is the day I change sheets, vacuum the bedrooms, take out all the trash, dust, its like deep cleaning day for these rooms, bathrooms I scrub the toilets, tubs and showers, sinks, take out all trash, restock towels and stuff like that.
Monday: Living Rooms day, we have 2 living rooms, again its like I deep clean the room and vacuum and make sure its all nice. I also clean the snake cage on Monday because its in the living room.
Tuesday:Kitchen and Dining room - I clean all counters, make sure all dishes get done, clean out fridge, plan meals, refill the spices, make shopping lists - I am really bad about leaving the big pots and pans for a few days until the kitchen day comes along and then I have to clean them. Sweep and mop floors.
Wednesday: Hallway and Laundry Room - deep clean these rooms - sweep and vacuum - I work out of the house on Wednesdays and Thursdays so this is the easiest day for me
Thursday: 20 minute whole house clean up, I set a timer for 20 minutes and try to get DH and DS to help me pick up all the stuff and put it where it goes, mostly they don't help at all though.
Friday: Living Rooms - same as on Monday except I feed the snake on Friday.
Saturday: Kitchen and Dining Rooms again.
Things I try to do every day:
make breakfast lunch and dinner
make snacks for me and DS
feed the fish
take out the trash
feed all scraps from kitchen to the chickens
take DS outside to play
water the trees outside every other day
water inside plants a few times a week
keep up on laundry
plus my work
*all animals do get fed everyday* its the dishes and laundry and playtime and trees and plants that get put off
If I keep up on this is works really great for us, but if I skip just one day it all goes to hell, we have a lot of animals and pets so the hair builds up really quick. I work from home 7-9 hours a day 3 days a week and work 6-7 hours a day in an office the other 2 days and my DH thinks I don't do anything at home so he feels he doesn't need to help because he works out of the house 5 days a week. The only thing I ask him to do is feed the horse every morning and some nights, feed the chickens every other morning (because he refuses to get them fresh water) and clean the cat box, he always does the horse without a fight but forgets the cat box all the time. I feed the dogs, the cats, the snake, and the fish, and clean all the fish tanks by myself. I collect all the chicken eggs and do 90% of the cooking and almost all the cleaning, all of the laundry and I do almost all the child care, it gets old but I have come to the conclusion he will never be happy with how I do things and that's his problem, not mine. I do the best I can. I do hope once DS is older and the new baby is here I can get into a system that works for all of us, but without his help it will never be as good as he thinks it should be.
kristenburgess - you are my hero! where you say you prioritize things that irritate him, I think that's so sweet of you, I try to (hubbys biggest complaint if i leave food in containers for days until i get around to it) but sometimes I just overlook it