I haven't been here for a while, but I have missed it!
Things are moving really fast right now and I am overwhelmed and worried sick. My son has been acting like a normal pre-teen, moody and spending more time alone than before, etc. I found out he had a Twitter account, so I snooped. I didn't even really feel bad about it, because he's 12 and the Internet can be dangerous. I found out that he totally identifies as gay. This was not a surprise to me, but I was still a bit surprised that he is so confident and sure of himself. I didn't say anything about reading this, but gave him a lecture about internet safety, using his real name, not giving out personal info, etc.
Then one day he got a Skype call on his iPod from a boy (all of his friends are girls), and I confronted him about it. He told me it was a friend that he met on Omegle chat, but he said he doesn't go on there anymore. I had a serious talk with him. He swore he didn't give out personal information, stuff like that. But he's so young...and we live in a small town and I am sure he is looking for some other people like him. But I am worried sick that he is going to look in the wrong place.
I also snooped at his Facebook when he left it open, and found some messages he shared with another boy. They were just friends, and my son was comforting this boy because he and his boyfriend broke up. It was innocent enough, but I am worried that he is looking for something too serious, too young, and he is too vulnerable and naive. It scares the crap out of me. I just saw that he was on Omegle again (he doesn't know how to erase the computer's history).
I have not told him that I know he is gay. He knows that I am very open-minded and we have always talked about how there is nothing wrong with it. I have never discouraged him from being whoever he is. He has joined cheerleading at the high school this year, and he feels confident and strong enough to not care that people are going to pick on him. He is the first boy ever at this small school, and he loves it.
I just didn't realize I would have to worry about sexual things with him so quickly.
Is there a safe place he can go online and talk with other kids? Maybe even other gay kids? I can't let him go to random chat rooms. I think the best thing is to realize why he is doing this and help him be safe about it.