Well, I've been back and forth about a midwife/my midwife the whole time. Through a few quirks of fate, I connected with someone new this weekend and really connected. I'm finally comfortable with my midwife and would actually prefer she be there. What a relief! Unfortunately she lives 3 hours away. [sigh]
SO and I took the excuse of meeting her (and the fact that the 3 big ones were out of town with their father) for a weekend in the mountains, where she lives. She helped us get an awesome deal on a cabin with a hot tub (much needed since my feet were swollen before the 3 hour drive). We met with her, did a free-for-all grocery run, and went and "babymooned" at the cabin for the night. The midwife came and spent the next afternoon at the cabin with us and we signed paperwork, did a full blown prenatal, etc. I feel really comfortable with her, which is a nice change. It tuns out that my business partner and good friend has been a friend of hers for 12 years. Small world, the birth community.
So, we ended up realizing that the terrible alignment we'd driven there on had also ruined a tire. It was clear that we needed a new tire and an alignment before we'd make it home. But at 4:30pm on a Sunday in a small southern mountain town, there turned out to be little we could do about it. We scouted around for a hotel room and ended up at the La Quinta Inn in their honeymoon suite. The girl at the desk helped us out b/c they were pretty empty and she could see I had really swollen feet, etc. The room had a heart shaped jacuzzi in it! It was unreal. SO and I laughed and had a ball. Let me see if I can load a pic... Alexandria's middle name will be Cridhe, which means heart in Scot's Gaelic. We were so hoping I'd end up giving birth while we were there! I said that if I'd not had her by 41 weeks, we'd come back and do castor oil at the La Quinta. lol
Anyway, since we were stuck there, our new midwife had dinner with us and came back to the room to check my cervix. The baby is engaged, but bounces up and down from really low to barely in there, as well as flips anterior to posterior constantly. Ample fluid and a "generous" pelvis. Is it just me or does that not sound as flattering as it probably should?
The strange thing is my cervix, which as never been even remotely favorable before 41 weeks. She said it was "fascinating". lol It's anterior, but not very effaced. The first half of it is super soft and 3-4cm, but then, about halfway in, it gets really hard (she called it "crunchy") and so tight it was barely a finger's width. She finally looked up and said, "Oh! Have you been having a lot of sex?" Well, we had been babymooning... Anyway, it looks like I might have a "2 part" cervix. That would explain a pattern of 24 hours of slow, gentle, "sort of" labor followed by a few hours of intense active labor.
I did have bloody show yesterday, and tons of mucus all weekend, and I've had a lot of BH, which I never have before. So, it looks like this one might not go 42 weeks like the rest, since I'm just 39 weeks today. She was feeling about 7lbs on Sat. [shrug] If I had no experience with labor, I'd think I was in it a lot. I go through phases of a lot of contractions, but I can count on one hand the number that have felt "real". I'm glad I know that I'm just not going to worry about it unless/until it's active labor. It helps that I don't have to decide about going anywhere since I'm having a homebirth and we are prepared for the midwife not making it.
If you're still reading, you rock! My youngest had his first day of K today and I'm way too hormonal for all that, so I'm rambling and staying distracted. This weekend wore me out and -though I have lots to do, esp if the baby is coming sooner rather than later- I'm just not ready to get to the housework yet. I miss my baby! He's actually very helpful with housework.