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Bread: My sweetheart bakes no-knead bread for us pretty often. He's found that up to 25% of the flour can be whole wheat/spelt/rye/barley/etc. and at least 75% should be white wheat flour. Some mix-ins we've used are walnuts, olives, sundried tomatoes, rosemary and thyme.

 

A great idea: He's been unable to massage me properly because of me not being able to be on my tummy, and he came up with the idea of using my breast feeding pillow (I have the breast friend one) to lay on. It worked GREAT!  I was able to lay down on my tummy!!! It looks like it might not be comfortable because the back support part is taller than the baby support part, but it works really well!

 

Help: I bet you can come up with a solution! If you had to, for safety, you could call a taxi to get all of you home? Then it would be just like if you went into labour at home? I was really fixating on how we are going to get to the birthing clinic- I really wanted my sweetheart to bike me there, but that would necessitate borrowing a trailer from someone and sweetheart's bike doesn't have a hitch on it so we would also have to borrow a bike, and since we can't know when we will need it we would have to borrow someone's bike and trailer for 5 weeks which is unreasonable, and sweetheart convinced me that a taxi just makes the most sense and is simplest :). I was feeling kind of horrified at the idea of being with a stranger during labor, but friends have assured me that at that point I won't care, and the taxi will be fine.  

 

Yeeska: when your midwife noticed that your cervix was asymmetrically ripened and asked about sex, is it because where the semen comes in contact with the cervix it can be more ripened? Or was it an unrelated question because she just noticed traces of semen or your lubrication or whatever? I'm wondering if I should be trying to keep semen inside me longer (like when we were trying to get pregnant) to try and maximize its ripening effects rather than letting it just fall out, or if that's just me being ridiculous. 

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I started taking my probiotics yesterday and I'm *hoping* for digestive issues -- well, the opposite of the ones I've been having (aka, having NOTHING happening... too much output sure feels better than NO output, I think... ).

 

You know pregnancy is glamorous when you're googling things on foot massage/starting labor (it was a question somebody asked me... so I turned to St. Google ;) )... and on a list of the top five ways to get things moving both SEX and POOPING are on there.  Seriously made my day LOLing.  (sex for prostaglandins, pooping for reason castor oil is often resorted to... gets stuff moving all over down there).

 

Carlin -- hoping you'll stay well!  Or... I guess... if you *have* to get sick, that it will be quick and you get it out of the way before anything else happens!  Right?  One can hope!

 

Baby position -- In the early 30weeks, this baby liked hanging out on the right side, it seemed, but lately has been firmly on the left, which is excellent news (an always head-down).  My midwife likes that.. and I do too.

 

Speaking of midwife, I had a visit at home yesterday and all was fine.  I declined the GBS test (I've never been positive with it before... and it was a million degrees at 6p.m. yesterday and I wasn't feeling like any sort of any touching).  She asked if I wanted a vaginal check because some clients do, but I declined.  I'm pretty sure nothing is going on anyway.  I know also that even if there is 'progress' it means nothing... and even NO progress really means nothing either (with dd4 I, in my weakness at 40w2d asked for a check and with NOTHING happening almost lost it right then and there with tears just because I was nearly panicking... but dd4 arrived at 41 weeks anyway ;) ).  So... I'm just going to roll with this and hope things are going just as they should.

 

I woke up feeling kind of crampy all over.  So maybe things *are* kind of happening?  Or it could just be left over from my super fast 2.5 mile walk with a friend yesterday morning.  So.. maybe it's nothing too.  The end weeks of pregnancy are filled with such mind games.

 

Today is a hang-out-in-the-basement-day.  At 10:30a.m. it was 94* :/  Seriously, weather?  I'm over you.  The forecasted high says 99*, but clearly we're well on our way to breaking that... this is on instance where meeting or exceeding goals is NOT what I want to happen ;)  Oh well.  I need to put some snaps on my postpartum pads anyway... and probably make a few more of them.

 

Still no girl name I like.  Except a bunch of good ol' German names.  And while my heritage is predominantly German, I'd feel funny with names that are super ethnic I guess?  (Wilhelmina, Hilde, Elke, Ida -- pronounced "EE-duh" ...).  That and dh kind of gives me the, "How do I answer whether I like these names or not without hugely offending her and sending her into a tizzy?" kind of look when I suggested names like that ;)  I did at least score some points for "Clementine" when I pointed out it can be seen as simply a feminized version of "Clement" who was a pope.. and that the meaning of it is "mercy"... Not sure I like the name enough to use it anyway, but I need a list.  I'm desperate.  I don't know what a nickname could be anyway... not that I'm a huge fan of nicknames (only Lucy goes by "Lulu" or "Lou" sometimes... otherwise they are only Madeline, Katherine and Hazel Jane).

 

I'm rambling and avoiding making lunch.  I got stuff to make salads but now I'm not excited about salads!  Or eating anything.  Ugh.  Could be a long day.  Especially since I just remembered that we will have to leave the house later.  At 7p.m. for a soccer practice for dd3.  Super.  It will be a million awesome degrees.

 

Oh, and MirandaM -- I'm so jealous that you're making bread!  I want fresh, homemade bread so badly... but it's so hot, there's no way I'm turning on the oven ;)  Eat some slices for me!  With lots of avocado!  Yum!!

 

I'm 38w4d today.

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Just got back from my midwifes. (: Everything was "right on schedule" as planned. She was pretty unconcerned about everything and we got to talk about labouring. She was like, "labour as long as possible at home that way you don't have to be bothered with any of us. Come in when you feel like it and we'll make your comfortable too. You can labour however you want and birth however you want." It was so nice to see how chill she was at all of it. I requested a cervix check at the end of the appointment, not because I think it actually matters (the baby WILL come out haha), but because I'm pretty much soaking up as much of this pregnancy stuff I can and learning about it. Found out I was 70% effaced and not dialated or engaged at all. Which, makes sense to me because I haven't had any contractions or any feelings like them. 

 

I was happy with the appointment over all. It's nice to be so calm about all of this!!! I'm so happy for my birth team. (:

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Anya - sounds like a lovvely midwife appointment!

 

I just got back from a massage.  I got a coupon from living social and it was through a chiropractors office.  So, it wasn't very good!  I think she was literally scared to touch me and causing me to go into labor, so I am feeling a little unsatisfied!  On another note, I think I either have a little cold or allergies.  I was getting worried about this headache for the third day in a row, but today I am feeling like it is just a cold or allergies.  I just got out my sinus sprayer and I hope that will help.  I feel like I could possibly fall asleep anywhere at anytime right now!  DD is having a sleep over at my parent's house tonight, so I kind of want to feel better so I can enjoy some one-on-one time with DH! (Even though he is also afraid if he touches me I will go into labor!!!)

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Help: I bet you can come up with a solution! If you had to, for safety, you could call a taxi to get all of you home? Then it would be just like if you went into labour at home?

That is an interesting idea. In 33 years, I have never been in a taxi. Do you not need car seats? I'll certainly look up a couple of local service numbers to have on hand.

Now that preschool has started, I had to have 'the talk' with my 4 yo old- that he should let other kids' parents talk to them about babies and vaginas, birth and all. He hasn't been the least bit phased by seeing pictures of births. He is so, so excited!

37 weeks today, and I am so happy to be in the clear for the home birth! My babies don't reposition much, so far in my experience. They have all (so far) stayed head down from 24 weeks on. First stayed LOA (and was constantly trying to stretch his legs!), second I don't remember major positioning, and this one is LOA after starting out back-to-back. This is the first time my placenta hasn't been along the front of my belly, so we see far more movement which is astounding. I knew all pregnancies were different, but this is still quite a surprise.
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 Do you not need car seats? I'll certainly look up a couple of local service numbers to have on hand.
 

 

In the scenario you described, you would be out with your car with your children, so you could move the car seats from your car into the taxi. Where I live, you simply request the taxi to have car seats when you call, and there are safety standards here so you can rely on the car seat being safe/legal/etc. If I don't feel able to walk home after the birth (or take the bus), we will request a taxi with a baby car seat to go home. But I know in general USians are more afraid of improper car seats in taxis because of lack of safety regulations, so it might be less worry for you to transfer the seats from your car to the taxi, if that particular scenario unfolded.

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I always feel like I'm so far behind the conversation with these weekly chats that I just end up lurking!
This exactly. I'm jumping in now at least smile.gif

mole - I was convinced my DD would come early (my mom had both of her kids early, as did both of my grandmothers) and each week that passed, I was more and more surprised.

Monkey Keeper[ - I am also in total denial and pretty much totally unprepared for baby to come on top of that. We're finally touring the hospital tomorrow morning at least.

Ava's Mom - Yay for negative GBS results! I had my swab done, but won't get results for 7-10 days, which seems long to me. Here's hoping for good news.

Princessjules - My DH is also pulling more than his weight of night time duty. Not that DD wakes up much, but she actually hasn't slept the whole way through since we moved her into the big kid bed 4 nights ago (one incident of falling out -- she's on a trundle, so it was only about 6 inches to the ground, but it was still fairly traumatic -- plus 2 incidents of waking up at 5am and being confused).
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Any other FTM's having that holy-crap-my-life-is-about-to-totally-change feeling? I have three weeks left! In three weeks my whole life as I know it is going to be totally different. I wish I had some knowledge of what it will look like or feel like, this new phase of my life. It's a bit frightening, in a way, I won't lie.
I'm not a FTM, and this still describes it pretty accurately. I've had a few "What have we done?" type moments.

nukuspot - My goodness, you've had a rough go of it. Maybe not too much longer to go, at least? I hope you get some relief soon
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I wish I would have slept when baby slept as a FTM. You will just be a much happier person if you do that.
I wholeheartedly second this recommendation.

MIrandaM - It's my understanding that you can tell OP if you feel distinct kicks/punches on both sides of your navel. That's one I feel somewhat more confident identifying. So far as I can tell, LO has been mostly on the right, with some posterior, and a little bit on the left. He's been head-down the whole time except for about a 48-hour period. I am no expert at all, though.

hyde - how's your BP normally (non-preggo?) Good on your MW for not stressing you out about the first reading!
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has anyone else noticed that the chat threads get longer and longer the closer we get to september??
Are more of us on mat leave? (This is me, but like I said, I've mostly been lurking!) Or just anxious to get the show on the road?

judybean - I get different probiotics each time my bottle runs out -- generally, I just look for the refrigerated kind with a high count.

AFM - My sister-in-law had her baby in the wee hours this morning! She was due a week and a day before me. I predicted that she'd have an August baby and I'd have an October one, even though we were due within a week of each other in September, and so far I'm right. She had PROM (this happened with her first baby, too) and a c/s due to breech presentation. I texted BIL today to ask if they needed anything and he said they didn't want any visitors until tomorrow, so I hope she's feeling/healing okay.
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I had a MW apt today, I am 37 weeks.  Babe is in a good position (yay) and I am wearing an abdominal binder 24/7.  I would really, really, really like to be sewing, but the thought of hauling myself up to the hot attic into my sewing room is more than I can bear.  Need to get over it, tho, since I have a list of projects a mile long and time is running out to finish them.

 

Can't muster the energy to deep clean anything.  At the very least, I would like to scour the bathrooms.  

 

I'm sure DH would love for us to DTD anytime we were in proximity to each other, but dude, my libido is nonexistent right now.  

 

not on mat leave yet.  Probably not till Sept 15.

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probiotics--I've only been on them for a week. Perhaps this is a cleansing period, then.

 

GBS--well, I have a test again tomorrow. I'm hoping I will test negative this time. I've been told that if I test negative this late in the game there is a good chance I will be negative at birth. Either way, I have probiotics to balance any issues with my flora due to hibiclens or the abx.

 

Flipping babies--I hope mine is still down tomorrow. Tonight I've been feeling all sorts of things, and appendages all over the place. I've been told that the way I sit can have a lot to do with baby being posterior or anterior. Leaning back too much, and any seats where the pelvis is tilted backwards, can encourage baby's put to lay against the back, which would encourage back labor. So I've been trying my best to do lots of cat/cow yoga and not leaning back too much. The worst is the car's seat, which tilts my pelvis back. Not much I can do about a bucket seat except pillows, but my tail bone kills me. Luckily I don't have to drive anywhere very often. The other big culprit is the sofa. That thing is just asking me to lay back and tilt back.

 

It's lovely to have all these things to worry about. And it doesn't end once they get here. Then I'll be worrying every minute if he's healthy.

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Bread: My sweetheart bakes no-knead bread for us pretty often. He's found that up to 25% of the flour can be whole wheat/spelt/rye/barley/etc. and at least 75% should be white wheat

 

Yeeska: when your midwife noticed that your cervix was asymmetrically ripened and asked about sex, is it because where the semen comes in contact with the cervix it can be more ripened? Or was it an unrelated question because she just noticed traces of semen or your lubrication or whatever? I'm wondering if I should be trying to keep semen inside me longer (like when we were trying to get pregnant) to try and maximize its ripening effects rather than letting it just fall out, or if that's just me being ridiculous. 

 

Yep, the two statements were related. lol My cervix is still long, so the outside half is super ripened (like really soft and she could get 4cm from it) while the inside half is still very firm and tight. When we were trying, in order to get pregnant, SO had to actually pull back and aim at my cervix because he goes past it with regular sex and -of course- would thrust furthest in when ejaculating. That may be confusing or just TMI, but I hope it's helpful.

 

My mother (an L&D nurse) once told me the best way it make sex ripening and labor stimulating is to do it while on hands and knees and then after he ejaculates you flip over, immediately elevate your hips, and you orgasm like that, then stay there a while. It's a lot of detail, but -hey- I had to hear it from my mother! 

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My mother (an L&D nurse) once told me the best way it make sex ripening and labor stimulating is to do it while on hands and knees and then after he ejaculates you flip over, immediately elevate your hips, and you orgasm like that, then stay there a while. It's a lot of detail, but -hey- I had to hear it from my mother! 

 

Hehe, I can not imagine having that conversation with my VERy conservativve mother!  My DH still won't touch me, so no chance of DTD until my due date or beyond (1 week from tomorrow!).

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At my midwife apt today, she said for the semen to have any ripening effect I should do legs up the wall after sex. Keeping it inside as long as possible helps it be effective. Everything at the apt was fine: I'm still gaining weight, fundus still on ideal curve, no protein in urine, fetus' heartbeat perfect. My blood pressure was higher, but she didn't care and attributed it to me biking to the apt. I bike to all the apts, but whatever :). Glad she isn't worried.

 

My bad news: I have to give birth by 41+3 or I risk out of the birthing clinic and have to transfer to the regular hospital. Our midwife does not expect that to happen, but there's no options. The birthing clinic can't be responsible if I don't give birth in the next 16 days. Now, I'm really going to focus on having more sex. And I need to make acupuncture apts. My 41 week apointment will be with regular doctors and not with the midwife, and they will want to do an ultrasound to check the amniotic fluid and how well the placenta is doing. My sweetheart thinks we should allow that ultrasound (if I'm still pregnant then- he's convinced I'm going to give birth on the due date and none of my current worrying will matter). I'm just so scared- I've really managed to have an exactly average, no surprises, non-medicalized pregnancy. I don't want to risk having interventions when I don't need them. My midwife assures me that here, the ultrasound isn't to look for problems and force the mother into medicalizations, it's genuinely to ensure the safety of the fetus and I don't have to be scared for unneccessary interventions like if I was in the US, but because that's the culture I come from I am afraid. More sex. More acupuncture. More hoping. Don't know what else I can do. 

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What? Tell him to take one for the team Ava's Mama! You can't possibly look that different from behind! :-P
 

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At my midwife apt today, she said for the semen to have any ripening effect I should do legs up the wall after sex. Keeping it inside as long as possible helps it be effective. Everything at the apt was fine: I'm still gaining weight, fundus still on ideal curve, no protein in urine, fetus' heartbeat perfect. My blood pressure was higher, but she didn't care and attributed it to me biking to the apt. I bike to all the apts, but whatever :). Glad she isn't worried.

 

My bad news: I have to give birth by 41+3 or I risk out of the birthing clinic and have to transfer to the regular hospital. Our midwife does not expect that to happen, but there's no options. The birthing clinic can't be responsible if I don't give birth in the next 16 days. Now, I'm really going to focus on having more sex. And I need to make acupuncture apts. My 41 week apointment will be with regular doctors and not with the midwife, and they will want to do an ultrasound to check the amniotic fluid and how well the placenta is doing. My sweetheart thinks we should allow that ultrasound (if I'm still pregnant then- he's convinced I'm going to give birth on the due date and none of my current worrying will matter). I'm just so scared- I've really managed to have an exactly average, no surprises, non-medicalized pregnancy. I don't want to risk having interventions when I don't need them. My midwife assures me that here, the ultrasound isn't to look for problems and force the mother into medicalizations, it's genuinely to ensure the safety of the fetus and I don't have to be scared for unneccessary interventions like if I was in the US, but because that's the culture I come from I am afraid. More sex. More acupuncture. More hoping. Don't know what else I can do. 


Plan to do something really cool right around that 41 week mark. Chances are you'll go into labor the night before (cause that's how life works) or -if not- you'll have a good distraction.

 

41+3 seems quite arbitrary.

 

I have tips for the BPP (the ultrasound). Let me know if you get there.

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What? Tell him to take one for the team Ava's Mama! You can't possibly look that different from behind! :-P
 

Its not that he isn't attracted and doesn't want too...he is afraid of starting labor ;)  While many of you are anxious to get baby out, we still have a big work "to do" list to get done before baby, so DH really wants LO to stay in as long as possible!  My guess is that baby will come on 9/10, we shall see!

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Ahhh. Well, there's always evening primrose oil. Or, you know, just letting your body do what it already knows how to...

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Ahhh. Well, there's always evening primrose oil. Or, you know, just letting your body do what it already knows how to...

 

So, evening primrose... Is that something that helps start labor even if you are nearly all effaced? Or does it just get you thinned out? How well do you mommas know it works?

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Yeeska- I'd love to hear your tips for the BPP ultrasound!

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crystal_buffaloe, yes! I don't know when I've felt so warm and fuzzy towards someone for lying to me, heh. My non-pregnant BP has always been golden, never a hint of hypertension.. this white coat thing is totally new to me because I've never had a reason to worry that the reading would be anything other than fine.

 

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AFM- Not much going on. Last night and this morning I've had flashes of non-specific anxiety, which makes me wonder what hormonal changes are going on. I'm normally not at all prone to anxiety and these flashes haven't been about anything, just that generalized gross anxious feeling. This morning was after my walk and also about 1.5 hours after a cup of coffee (which is an almost-daily thing, and I'm not very caffeine-sensitive), but last night there was nothing I could point to as a potential stimulus. Still feeling a bit of it so I'm going to hang out outside for a bit. Anybody have any resources on shifting hormone levels in the lead-up to birth? (I've also been really curious lately as to whether relaxin levels are higher at night- I feel so much looser in the evenings, anyone else?)

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A vas momma- dh won't touch me either but also simultaneously complaining about not getting enough. Ha ha. Even though I'm 39 + 1 he is also scared of starting labor and creeped out that he head is so low.

Yeeska- eek. I can't imagine my mom telling me that. I'm pretty sure they are still in some sort of state of ignorance is bliss and believe I got pregnant through immaculate conception ( very conservative catholic parents who never talk about anything but neutral things but weather , food, and their pets).
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