I hate being in an argument with anyone and I certainly don't want to be "the difficult parent." However, I am also concerned for the safety and well-being of other children in this matter. In particular the six week infants and up that are being put in the same church nursery as my 20 month old son who is sometimes too rough with them. He is now picking up babies, poking, throwing balls, wrestling, climbing, running, tackling, and sharing toys too roughly on other children's heads, etc. Part of this is out of boredom since they only have toys geared towards six month olds and under in the small room with only a few children. He does not seem to understand who it is okay play with in this manner and to be gentle with newborns. He was supposed to originally be moved up at 18 months to the next class, but they held him back since they have too many kids in the next room. He is the oldest one in the room so the problem is mostly just mine. They want to wait another four months to move him up when he turns two. I've heard other complaints from other concerned parents and volunteer nursery workers, but the person in charge is also concerned about insurance issues such as how many adults per kids, etc. I am a little on the fence with what to do. I've tried keeping him in service with us, but he has the vocabulary of a two and a half year old and won't stop talking to people. I've tried nicely talking to the woman in charge and was met with a lot of resistance.
Should I change churches? Or even temporarily go somewhere else? My sister-in-law's church is bigger, they separate walkers from infants, but it is a longer drive and my hubby really doesn't want to leave his church. We have been apart of this church for many years and are very involved in our Bible Study group. Our Pastor married us and dedicated our son. We've known some of these people since we were small children and we share the same beliefs.
Should I bring my own play-yard and set it up each week to keep him away from the infants? Should my husband and I take turns on whose week it is to stay home with him or sit with him in the nursery? Should I get a babysitter? I'm at a bit of a loss.