So I set up a picture schedule for ds (4 in Dec). It's more a sequence of the days events , each activity has an icon, we used magnets to stick them on the side of the fridge. He does a bit better with a schedule, but I am the one who hates it! I thought 'this is great, he'll love it'.
We start with breakfast, then move on to chores (feed cats, feed chickens and collect eggs, help put away clean dishes), then outside time, tech time (t.v., computer), lunch, quiet time, tech time (Iput these all in a row so I would have some time to rest), mommy one on one time, daddy time, dinner, bed time stuff. So we purposefully didn't set times and left broad catagories.
He doesn't love it. First off, we used a picture of a bowl of cereal for breakfast, he freaks out b/c now he can only have cereal at breakfast. We explain he can have any breakfast, he explains that we need a picture of every breakfast or the schedule is wrong.
We then move onto 'outside time', it's a picture of a tree. We talk about how outside time can be the playground, backyard, playing with friends, running errands. For example today we need to go to the library and we can do that during outside time. Huge mistake. In the end dh has to draw a picture of a library so that days we go to the library the schedule can be right.
Everything continues in this manner. Tech time is a picture of a computer, he insists that means that he can only play the computer, and now he's in tears b/c sometimes he wants to watch Dinosaur Train and now he can never watch Dinosaur Train.
OMG, I am so over this thing! THen we had a major issue. For outside time we were going to play with the hose outside. But it's raining, and I think it's unreasonble to make me stand outside in the rain and spray him with a hose. I tell him we can puddle jump, we can run in the rain, etc....huge meltdown.
This child is so literal, how do I set a schedule with a kid who does not like flexability? He remembers things that we did a year ago and remembers very specific bits of information. When he plays pretend, things are very specific. When building legos the other day, he wanted to build 'rides'. I asked about a slide and swings and he got very frustrated b/c he said 'rides', not a playground, and slides and swings are at playgrounds. I mean he has a point, but....help!