Originally Posted by Key31
Also, try and start with stern and consistent discipline with both children. This is very important, because if you do not, you could snap and lose it. The four year old came to time out in a room. If you are not already, get a nap schedule for them and put them to bed at a certain time, and at night when he cries for you to come in the room, do not go, let him cry it out (as long as he's okay). He will realize that you are not going to give into him and he will get used to sleeping by himself.
Basically, in order to be a great caretaker, you need to take care of yourself first.
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