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[timesway]

Originally Posted by Quinalla 

OMG just got back, twins! Two sacs and looks like two placentas so that's good, but OMG!

eeek congratulations :D

.. i have my scan tommorrow.. so so nervous.. im ill with a nasty cold/ear infection/tummy bug/episcleritis flare.. and my ex is being a pain in the bum which is making my nerves for this appointment massive.. i cant sleep atall atm, just need to know baby is a)there.. b)healthy.. and c)just one lol i dont think id cope with twins.. altho i had a weird feeling about it a while back-eek

ah just one more day to wait.. i mite just have a really long lie in so i dont have to wait so long  :P  (its 5.50pm!)

[adventuregirl]

Katie, TWINS!!! How are you feeling about that? Before I had one, I thought twins was the most terrifying thing that could happen, but now I think its super exciting. Congrats!

[Kate&Joey]

Originally Posted by Quinalla 

OMG just got back, twins! Two sacs and looks like two placentas so that's good, but OMG!

Congratulations!!!  I swear, I was just thinking yesterday that I was surprised we didn't have more multiples in our DDC. 

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by Quinalla 

OMG just got back, twins! Two sacs and looks like two placentas so that's good, but OMG!

Oh wow!!!  Congrats!  So do they know yet if it is fraternal or identical? Or two sacs means fraternal?  (Pardon my ignorance!)

[CoBabyMaker]

Congrats!  How exciting!

[timesway]

so nervous about my first scan.. was anyone else this scared? Had extra stress of ex phoning me lots over last few days and being not that nice but a lot of it is just a)a fear there just isnt a baby.. b)babys been affected by my low weight/poor health/ meds at beggining of preg and i need to go over my decision again, and c)that i have miscarried and its missed.. and ive gone through all this for nothing..

Its terrifying.. i dont wanna  go through it..i will feel better (unless its bad) after.. but for now i feel awful and terribly worried.. i will be back tommorrow night im sure to let u know how it went.. eek *fear* i think its the whole realisation of the reality of the situation.. ive miscarried so many times im just convinced it will be dead :( hmm *must think positive*
 

[aHikaru]

Originally Posted by timesway 

so nervous about my first scan.. was anyone else this scared? Had extra stress of ex phoning me lots over last few days and being not that nice but a lot of it is just a)a fear there just isnt a baby.. b)babys been affected by my low weight/poor health/ meds at beggining of preg and i need to go over my decision again, and c)that i have miscarried and its missed.. and ive gone through all this for nothing..

Its terrifying.. i dont wanna  go through it..i will feel better (unless its bad) after.. but for now i feel awful and terribly worried.. i will be back tommorrow night im sure to let u know how it went.. eek *fear* i think its the whole realisation of the reality of the situation.. ive miscarried so many times im just convinced it will be dead :( hmm *must think positive*
 

don't feel bad :( with this pregnancy I have been super paranoid and I've only had one chemical in february, so I can't imagine the stress you are feeling, I have my first trimester screen next week, which I almost cancelled because I don't care if the baby has downs, but now I'd want to know, so I can prepare... I'll be checking in to see how your appt went :)

[timesway]

Originally Posted by aHikaru 

don't feel bad :( with this pregnancy I have been super paranoid and I've only had one chemical in february, so I can't imagine the stress you are feeling, I have my first trimester screen next week, which I almost cancelled because I don't care if the baby has downs, but now I'd want to know, so I can prepare... I'll be checking in to see how your appt went :)

eek.. it was because i was admitted to hosp in the first month of preg with another near fatal kidney infection (pyelonithritis) and so was on everything under the sun aswell as my normal meds.. the one drs are most worried about is trimethroprim.. ive had so many miscarriages im just positive somethings going to go wrong.. fingers crossed for a good appointment hey?!

And oh gosh, i understand, the panicking is so much worse then u initially expect.. i feel like im waiitng for christmas.. for me christmas is a stressful time but i always become a perfectionist about it and its sortve exciting too.. so i have that same sortve panicky eek i have such high expectations please let there not be lots of major things wrong moment.. and i understand.. im not going to be able to wait to find out the sex either lol.. im just a very impatient person i think :P thankyou for being understanding xx

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by timesway 

so nervous about my first scan.. was anyone else this scared? Had extra stress of ex phoning me lots over last few days and being not that nice but a lot of it is just a)a fear there just isnt a baby.. b)babys been affected by my low weight/poor health/ meds at beggining of preg and i need to go over my decision again, and c)that i have miscarried and its missed.. and ive gone through all this for nothing..

Its terrifying.. i dont wanna  go through it..i will feel better (unless its bad) after.. but for now i feel awful and terribly worried.. i will be back tommorrow night im sure to let u know how it went.. eek *fear* i think its the whole realisation of the reality of the situation.. ive miscarried so many times im just convinced it will be dead :( hmm *must think positive*
 

You are dealing with a lot of different stresses right now  and so I am sure you are extra anxious about the scan for that reason and because of your history.

I'll be thinking about you and sending good wishes your way that it goes great and you get to feel the thrill of seeing a healthy baby    Please let us know how it goes.

[timesway]

Originally Posted by nstewart 

You are dealing with a lot of different stresses right now  and so I am sure you are extra anxious about the scan for that reason and because of your history.

I'll be thinking about you and sending good wishes your way that it goes great and you get to feel the thrill of seeing a healthy baby    Please let us know how it goes.

aww thankyou so much, you guys are such a wonderful support to me atm, i decided to come on this site so i didnt accidently bump into anyone i knew or who could know me, or my ex or anything, because of how complicated it all is.. and being pretty much the only non american here u have all been great for advice and made me feel very welcome, it is greatly appreciated :) xx

[PGNPORTLAND]

My first official midwife appointment is on Monday.    I had the 7 week scan and all was well.    Looking forward to hearing heartbeat on Monday.   Bringing my 6 year old with me.    Wish us luck!

[AmandaLynnH]

Timesaway, how did it go?  Hoping everything went well.

I'm nervous too about the big scary tests.  I know it sounds terrible but I don't think I'm equipped to deal with a child with special needs.  And I know I'm not equipped to deal with my mother dealing with me having a child with special needs.  So on the one hand I figure there's no way God would be that mean, I mean he already dumped me with the abusive mother and distant father, certainly I get a pass here, right?  And I'm painfully aware of how messed up that entire train of thought is.  That's what happens when someone emotionally tortures you for 30 years.

[TwilightJoy]

Twins, Katie! How exciting!!! Are you freaking out? What does your DH say?

Congratulations!!!

[timesway]

I had my scan today, it was really really emotional, i was so so nervous, and the minute i saw baby alive and kicking i burst into tears.

Scans were supposed to cost £10 each but she printed me off loads for free, after seeing my nerves and heaering what i've been going through, and just said i was really brave which was lovely.. its nice to have good responces from people.

It was measuring 1 day ahead, so my edd has changed to 9th may, and the downs syndrome results were perfect so thats really good :D ee and i saw its heart beat but they didnt tell me what it was.. eek.. im so happy.. but my ex has been really mental today which has made it much much harder.. but yay for all being good.. thankyou for all your support xx

 

[Quinalla]

Thanks so much everyone, I'm still processing it, but its getting more exciting and less scary. It's quite the shock as we planned to have 2 kids and be done, but now we will have 3! It's just going to really change our financial situation, at least in the short term, as three in daycare is oof expensive and we may look at other options and we have another carseat to get, another crib (eventually, won't need it right away), a double stroller for sure now, etc. We're calling them A & B for now which is fun But yeah, we saw both little tiny babies, both strong heartbeats and the OB is going to send us to a high risk OB so they can do a confirmation U/S to make sure of the 2 placentas, but my OB was very confident. Who knows now if I will have a vaginal birth as I know a lot of doctors don't even want to try them with twins even in the best of situations.

They couldn't tell yet if they are fraternal or identical, but I won't be surprised if they are fraternal as those run in my family. I'm at my parents house now (why the light posting) for my sister's wedding this weekend and I'm glad for the opportunity to talk to my three aunts that all had fraternal twins I think I'll be talking to them all quite a bit more too for advice.

We also ended up showing the U/S picture to my Dad and then my Mom and seeing if they would figure out that it was two babies. My Dad got it right away, my Mom didn't at first, we couldn't wait to tell anyone else family-wise and my Mom has told plenty of people now too (which is fine) so we may not get to surprise too many more, but that was fun to get to surprise them in person a bit. Well, I can do it with my coworkers, so that will be fun

So yeah, it's exciting and we'll be fine, but geez, 2 little babies at once is going to be a trip. I'm glad they will be coming right around when my Mom will be off for the summer (she works at a high school) so she can come help a lot! I'm so glad the timing worked out how I wanted now, so very glad!

I'll post the U/S picture when I get back on Monday, no way to upload it here.

[Lynann]

Katie, I would definitely look into alternative care providers if the one you have won't give you options. There were 3 twins births in my last due date group, and they ALL managed to deliver their babies vaginally (in the OR and prepped JIC the 2nd one needed a c/s, but still vaginally.) There are fewer OBs doing that now, but they do still exist. We also had one mama in my last group that had a hospital vaginal breech birth, which is even more unheard of than twins vaginally. There are great OBs out there who do believe our bodies are not broken, but it may take a bit of searching. Don't let your OB tell you that you don't have options because you do. If you feel more comfortable with a c/s for twins then great, but don't let them take your choice away from you.

I keep telling DH that I'd love to have twins at some point. I know my options would be limited because I've had a previous c/s, so maybe twins for our last pregnancy would be best. I have both kinds of twins on both sides of my family, but DH only has one cousin who has had twins, so its not really on his side much. I really though DS2 was twins at the beginning of his pregnancy. I had such a strong twin vibe, but it disappeared at about 11-12 weeks and we only had the 20 week u/s. Turned out just 1 baby. I definitely don't have any twins vibes this time, and am really happy to just have one for this time as it is our first go at being unassisted, so a straightforward singleton birth with no complications would definitely be best.

Hope you have a great time at your sister's wedding.

[lisedea]

quinalla--Congrats! Welcome to the multiples club!

[Quinalla]

Originally Posted by Lynann 

Katie, I would definitely look into alternative care providers if the one you have won't give you options. There were 3 twins births in my last due date group, and they ALL managed to deliver their babies vaginally (in the OR and prepped JIC the 2nd one needed a c/s, but still vaginally.) There are fewer OBs doing that now, but they do still exist. We also had one mama in my last group that had a hospital vaginal breech birth, which is even more unheard of than twins vaginally. There are great OBs out there who do believe our bodies are not broken, but it may take a bit of searching. Don't let your OB tell you that you don't have options because you do. If you feel more comfortable with a c/s for twins then great, but don't let them take your choice away from you.

I keep telling DH that I'd love to have twins at some point. I know my options would be limited because I've had a previous c/s, so maybe twins for our last pregnancy would be best. I have both kinds of twins on both sides of my family, but DH only has one cousin who has had twins, so its not really on his side much. I really though DS2 was twins at the beginning of his pregnancy. I had such a strong twin vibe, but it disappeared at about 11-12 weeks and we only had the 20 week u/s. Turned out just 1 baby. I definitely don't have any twins vibes this time, and am really happy to just have one for this time as it is our first go at being unassisted, so a straightforward singleton birth with no complications would definitely be best.

Hope you have a great time at your sister's wedding.

Thanks Lynann! Yeah, we were so in shock, I didn't even think to ask about vaginal vs. C/S at that appointment, I do want to push for vaginal birth, but I also want to be armed with my research first. I guess it will be fun to have something to research this go around It will be interesting to see what they say, they didn't bring up anything like that either, so who knows! Thanks for the advice though and one of my Aunt's with twins had hers vaginally, though that was probably because they didn't know she was having twins until the 2nd baby started to be born! She said having her twin hidden actually worked out well for her because they didn't bug her during the pregnancy. I think I'm happy knowing now myself though! But yeah, time to get some good twin birth and newborn care books recs and read and ask my Aunts lots of questions, phew, going to be fun.

Anyway, I'll stop cluttering up this thread with my news, thanks again everyone!