Hi everyone, I have never posted here before, but it seems like a good place to ask some questions! First I guess I will introduce myself. I am an Australian mama to two toddlers. DP gave birth to the first, and I to the second (our pregnancies overlapped a little). Apart from the (still lack of) sleep, it's been wonderful!
We got pregnant during a law change in our state, which unfortunately means we have to have any more children (with the same donor) in the not too distant future.
Before children we talked about 3-4, but this winter has been hard, with a LOT of colds etc, and a lot of missed sleep. DP no longer wants 4. I sometimes really do, and sometimes am happy with the idea of 3. Obviously the easy answer is, go for 3 and see how we go.
But it is a little bit complicated. DP is at the end-ish of her reproductive years, so if we want to use her eggs, we need to try next year (with me carrying, she hated birth). My kids have different skin colour, because she is white and I am black, and if we are only going to have 3, then another one of my eggs makes more sense to us.
It basically ends up with us having to decide if we want to try for 3 or 4 kids in the next 6 months.
I'm sure this is very confusing. It is to me. Sometimes I worry about placing this much importance on things like skin colour. And I recognise how lucky I am to even be able to contemplate this.
Any thoughts at all would be appreciated!
I feel quite sad when I think about not having four, but surly that would pass in time?
And DP has been so stressed by having two crap sleepers, but if I ask her how she would feel about it if they started sleeping well in the next two months, she says "fine!".
And if you don't have any thoughts- Hi anyway!