She came home today and was visibly upset, shaken. She was feeling panicky, worried that, even though we'd been communicating more, I didn't have the skills she feels she really needs. She wants someone that can dig deep into emotions and thoughts. Someone that asks "what do you think is behind that?" and "why do you feel this way?" and other such things. She says that in order to get me to offer her anything behind my surface feelings, she has to pull it out of me, and it's exhausting.
So, I guess I'm not really sure what I'm looking for here. I love my wife, and want to do all that I can for her conversation/emotional needs. I'm no longer afraid of her rejecting me, and that's allowed me to get away from defensiveness, or at least not be so stuck there. I want to help her feel like she can get what she wants from me without feeling exhausted.
Thoughts? Suggestions? Questions?