My mother recently passed away.
Our DD just turned 3 in July. She is very verbal and very receptive.
She is very sensitive.
She likes to talk out and process things, but at her own speed.
She likes to figure things out, and know how and why things happen, but she has just started out on the why questions. She doesn't ask why very often yet.
I am wondering about how to talk to her about death.
So far I have told her that Nanny has died and that means that we will not see her again. But that we can see her in pictures, talk about her, tell stories about her and think of her.
She seems fine with that, but is worried that we will die and that she will die.
I started to tell her that eventually we will all die, but that seemed to stress her out because she is three and doesn't know the difference between one week and 10 years. Time is still relatively abstract to her.
So I took it back and said we will not die, that we will be together as a family for a long long time.
How do you talk to toddlers and small children about death? (we are not at all religious people)
Is it ok that I told her that we will not die? My plan is that she will eventually know that one day everyone dies, but wait until she has a concept of time.
At what age should a child know that everything and everybody dies at some point?
I want her to know that she can be sad that her grandmother dies, but at the same time let her know that it is OK that she died (so as not to traumatize her about death). That is a fine line.