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[Georgetown HB Mom]

Hi,

I can't believe I am here. I have three daughters here on Earth and my fourth daughter was still born this past April. Never had any problems in pregnancy before she passed away. She was born at home very peacefully and we buried her on Good Friday. My husband and I went away for one weekend in July for our anniversary. He has been very busy with work and with my up and down emotions this was the only weekend we had sex. Used protection and never in a million years think I would become pregnant. Shock of shocks though I am now eight weeks pregnant with a due date the same week my 4th daughter was born. I keep thinking this one will end the same way, that I will never again have a live baby. I was not in any way mentally prepared for another pregnancy. Anyone else scared of pregnancy?

[bambihelton]

I am scared to death! 

I had a miscarriage four months ago. Saying that doesn't really seem so bad. "I had one miscarriage." But when it was your first pregnancy, it makes you worry. It's so scary to think that I could be one of the very unfortunate women that try and try... and have every chance end in miscarriage. 

I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating never getting to know that precious baby that you were so desperately wanting to love and nurture. I have been an emotional wreck for the past four months and can only imagine the heartbreak that you have gone through, carrying much longer, and resulting in stillbirth. 

Congratulations, though! God works in mysterious ways and you are blessed with another gift! I know that this is a rollercoaster, but I pray for good things to come for you! 

[firespiritmelody]

I have been very fortunate to have become pretty close friends to a couple dozen mama's from the DDC with my youngest DD in 2008. In that group 3 had previously had full term babies born sleeping. **ALL 3** have since had two more children that have been perfect. I'm only saying this to show that having a loss, doesn't mean that this pregnancy is going to have a bad outcome. 

Keeping my fingers crossed for you that everything this pregnancy goes super smooth and that we're all hugging our babies in April. Be kind to yourself mama.

[Georgetown HB Mom]

Thank you both for sharing your stories with me and your comforting words. May all of us have strong, healthy pregnancies with beautiful babies at the end!