Ds has no self control. His biggest problem is keeping his hands and body to himself. He comes off as a bully to other people. If he see's other boys goofing around or rough housing he tries to join in and always takes it to far and makes people mad at him. It's so stressful to go or do anything with him. There is an incident every time we go out or spend any time around other people. The latest thing is he is causing problems at soccer practice, bothering one specific boy that he see's as his buddy and they are playing together but the other boy and his parents have complained about ds and now the coach says he can't play in the first game and if he doesn't stop he's off the team. I completely understand and told ds he was going to be off the team if he doesn't pull it together before the coach even said anything. Dh is at every practice and he tries very hard to keep ds under control. After ds gets in trouble or does something that hurts or bothers someone else he is always remorseful and upset by it but it doesn't seem to keep him from doing the same stupid stuff over and over again.
I don't know what to do. This has been going on ds's whole life. I'm so sad and tired and sick of people acting like we are terrible parents and that ds is a terrible kid. I feel like we have done everything possible to help and teach ds. I have read hundreds of book, taken him to doctors, worked with his teachers, had meetings and written out plans with the schools. Dh and I are always with him at events monitoring his behavior. Our other 3 kids are nice and well behaved. I guess I'm looking for some miracle that will make ds "normal" .