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[dashley111]

There's not only quite a few of us that had our babes ON Thanksgiving, but those in the days around it will have birthdays on the holiday occasionally also. Has anyone given any thought on how to handle this?

Our families always make a big deal about holidays and everyone is there celebrating. The problem is, its not usually at our house.

Is it selfish to want B to have her own day? Are you guys all just rolling them into one day? Is that mean? What is everyones thoughts?

[jbk21]

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Edited by jbk21 - 10/6/12 at 9:52pm

[dashley111]

Yes, Thanksgiving is the 22nd this year.  Its nice to have actual birthdays on Saturdays, but with it being 2 days after Thanksgiving I feel like a big party would be overkill.

I talked to my cousin whose birthday is the 25th.  She said it sucked to have a Thanksgiving birthday for a few reasons- one being that she never got awesome parties because everybody had just congregated for Thanksgiving, and the other being that it was so close to Christmas a lot of people would give her a gift at her birthday and say it was a birthday/Christmas gift...I can see why a kid would hate that. 

We usually have big birthday celebrations.  I want to make sure B always feels special but Im not sure how.

[jbk21]

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Edited by jbk21 - 10/6/12 at 9:52pm

[dashley111]

That is actually a good idea.  Party after Thanksgiving might seem overwhelming to some people...but party BEFORE Thanksgiving probably wouldn't seem so bad.  Good idea!

[Mal85]

Greta was born at the beginning of the month, so I don't think we'll need to worry about Thanksgiving. But Halloween is two days before her birthday, so I worry she'll always have to compete with that. I have a nephew whose birthday is the day before Halloween and he got sick of Halloween-themed birthdays pretty quick. Luckily, her birthday falls on a Friday this year, so I think if we just do her big party the day after we'll get away from the Halloween thing. 

[ZippyGirl]

DS was born on Thanksgiving last year, and his big sister's birthday is on the 20th.  We will do a joint party for the both of them a week or two before Thanksgiving.  DD loves the idea of a joint party (for now!), so we are going with it, and she understands why we don't have a party on her actual bday.  On her bday, we do a special family celebration, though.  I actually love having two November birthdays here because it makes the fall (my fave season) so festive and fun.
 

[CDsMom1031]

Conner's actual birthday (Halloween) falls on a Wednesday this year. We are having his birthday the Sunday before and having a Mickey Mouse themed party. Then on actual Halloween, he'll be dressed up in some kind of costume and we'll take him out for a bit. We decided to always do his birthday party the weekend before Halloween, even if Halloween is on a weekend, so that he's not competing with the actual holiday. I never even thought about having a Halloween themed party. LOL I could imagine that'd get old QUICK.

Things might change as he gets older and can tell us what he wants to do, but this is our plan for now.

And this is also why there's no more January-May TTC for us. LOL No more holiday babies.

[seraf]

My birthday is the 24th and I always thought it was the greatest. 4 or 5 day weekend, big family party, great food. I think I went to school on my birthday twice. My grandma always made the desert I requested and life was good. My brother had a September birthday and his was forgotten by family but never mine.

Now that I'm grown, we do a birthday cake for all the November birthdays but only give gifts to the cousin who is still a kid.

We celebrate birthdays all week long in little ways. The kids' birthdays are all holidays (some we had to look up - St. Patrick's day, National thrift shop day, All Saints day, Fire day) and the kids totally embrace that so far.