fmorris - I'm sorry you had a fight and you are feeling so down. TTC adds extra stress to everything in our lives. It's a good test of our communication skills and we will need those when we have kids.
easttowest - I don't think a midwife would make much difference. I know you want to do all you can, but getting the swimmers near the cervix with the needleless syringe is probably the best you can do. I have heard some people use an instead cup afterwards to keep everything in place, but I have also heard that if you insert it wrong, it can do more harm than good. It may not be necessary. It might make you feel better just to talk to an expert and confirm you are doing the right thing. I will ask my midwife about it when I see her soon.
Good luck to everyone entering the TWW! Exciting time!