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post #61 of 317
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Erin--They won't get in for you at other times?? What if you are supposed to O on a weekend??? If you don't know how long she normally ovulates after the surge, I would go in at 5pm....but then again, frozen sperm doesn't live as long as the egg (the egg lives around 24 hours) so you might be safe in either instance. Maybe someone else has some other advice--it is just so hard to know because everyone is different.
post #62 of 317

pokey- She had a positive OPK at 10AM and then took the next one at 10PM. So you are right, she could have easily had a positive at 2PM. If that is the case, then 5PM today would be great...


Lisedea- Unfortunately, my OB is not a fertility specialist, so she is not too familiar with fertility awareness..boo. That is why we are limited on her timing, so close to the damn weekend ugh.



Soooooo....this is what ended up happening. I have a friend (lesbian kind) that works at my OB's office. My DP wanted me to text her this morning to get a better feel of my OB's schedule the next 2 days. This friend went and told my doctor's nurse that DP had a positive OPK last night (not a good thing). Then the nurse preceded to call DP and have her come in at 1030AM TODAY! Now even if she did get a positive at 2PM yesterday, it would still only be 21 hours post first positive OPK greensad.gif


And I am working...so I could not go...and I got a little snippy via text to DP for not standing up for her uterus! And now I am back-peddling to be nice and happy. But she does not get why I am so mad! She says "we have tried it your way at home twice and failed, now let's let the doctor try her way." Really?!


Talk me down guys.. I am uber bummed! Waste of vial and money and stress...

post #63 of 317

Erin, I just read a study somewhere that said, basically, that an IUI PRIOR to ovulation has a fairly decent success rate--b/c the swimmers are there waiting when the egg pops out.  So, hopefully that's the case for your DW.  

post #64 of 317
Oh gosh wishin' I really hope so!!!!
post #65 of 317
Lise. joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif yea for thread keepers luck stick little bean stick
post #66 of 317

Lise - Congratulations!  What a lovely surprise!  I know you're probably nervous, but I'm sending sticky vibes your way.  goodvibes.gif    I hope your beta is perfect!


Soto - I'm so sorry about your BFN.  hug2.gif  I am glad your cycle is looking regular though.  That is such a big help.  I hope you have better luck next time.


Erin - I'm sorry.  That's so frustrating.  Sometimes you may have to lie just a little bit to get what you need.  An IUI with fresh sperm would probably be fine, but they may not be used to working with frozen.  I think it is good to have the sperm there before the big O.  Fingers crossed that it works!  Sometimes I feel like it's all a crap shoot so maybe one time I will roll the dice and it will work perfectly.


Good luck to everyone in the TWW!


AFM - Even though I am super happy for all of you with a BFP and you are all totally deserving, I must admit the recent string makes me a little sad because I got another BFN last month.  greensad.gif  If everyone else can get pregnant, why can't I?  I know it doesn't do me any good to think that way.  The time will come for all of us when it is right.  All of this success does give me some hope too.  It can happen, and it can happen after a long time of trying.  Lisedea's BFP especially gives me hope because it was your second cycle with injectables.  You are the 3rd person I know on here who got pregnant on their 2nd round with injectables.  Since I am about to start my 2nd round this month, I am hopeful that I will have similiar results. 

post #67 of 317
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I am so sorry Pokey...I know how it is. In fact, I started tearing up a bit seeing having people post congratuations that were part of the board when I first started trying--and they have babies now! It just makes me remember how long it really has been...and how hard parts of it were along the way. I am holding out hope that the second round is all your body needs as well! hug.gif
post #68 of 317

Pokey, i completely understand, mye last BFN had meeh feeling the same way, but then again that just lets us know that our time is coming very soon smile.gif and that our patience will prove to be virtuous and well worth the wait. Don't get bummed!

post #69 of 317
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Beta is 230. smile.gif

Does that seem high for 13dpo?
post #70 of 317

I was saving the dancing veggies for the beta.  Here you go!  That number does seem a little high, but it's so hard to tell.  You're in the normal range.  I found a website that said the highest reported for a singleton at 13DPO was 1746.  http://www.betabase.info/showBasicChart.php?type=Single  How many follies did you have?







post #71 of 317
Hooray, Lisedea! That's a wonderfully strong first beta! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

I have all my fingers and toes crossed that this is the healthy, sticky baby for you!

Hooray! joy.gif
post #72 of 317
Lise my beta at 14 dpo was 102 and I'm carrying triplets .... So numbers are just such a variance... I'm so excited for you

Pokey ... I understand and you got preg once so it will happen again...I was about to go on a long break and got a surprise Bfp .. Hang in there my friend it's going to happen

Hi to everyone from super tired land !!!
post #73 of 317

Pokey--we started trying in late 2007 and had our first baby in 2010.  Hang in there...

post #74 of 317
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pokey--Thanks for the chart. Holy cow--1746??? Now THAT would scare my DP into thinking I was having many, many babies. I had 3-4 follicles. One was right on the edge of being mature so not sure if it released or not.

Thanks all. smile.gif
post #75 of 317

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!YAY wishin' and Lise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sticky beans all around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



I've been out of the loop, so I have some catching up to do.


I'm so excited to see these new developments!


Pokey - I'm so sorry that you're feeling discouraged.  <3


Outdoorsy:  Sounds like quite the event for this IUI!  Here's hoping it's all worth it in the end!  My fingers are crossed for you!



Lise: Could you please move me to waiting to o?


MRS:  Holy moly 35mm cyst is nothing to sneeze at. Hope it resolves quickly!


AFM: My cyst resolved and I got AF on CD17, so woo hoo for me! I didn't have to wait too long.  I finished up the 5 days of clomid on Monday and will go in on Saturday morning for follicle check.  Tentative trigger Saturday night with IUI on Sunday.

post #76 of 317
Lisedea, that's so great! Talk about threadkeeper's luck.


How do you think you would feel if you did have more than one in there? (I'm one of those who knows how much work multiples would be, especially as a single mom, knows that there can be additional complications (and I'm already "high risk"), and even had a friend who was sick for her entire pregnancy with her twins because of all the extra hormones, but still secretly thinks it would be really awesome--plus I'd have the two kids I really want, but probably won't get a chance to have otherwise. A twofer.)
post #77 of 317

Lise, that's a great number :) With DD mine was 342 @ 14DPO.

post #78 of 317

Yay Lise!  Hooray for your BFP!





I am so happy for you!



Welcome, queermama. I also have cycles of varying lengths, and it's more likely to happen as you age. I totally understand your desire to conceive with minimal intervention. You will just have to balance that desire against how much time it takes to get preg, as we all do. Varying cycles can make it harder to get the timing right on your own, especially if you are using frozen. When I went to the RE, I found out that sometimes I wasn't ovulating. I suspected as much because my temps weren't very textbook. If something similar is happening to you, u/s monitoring is the best way to avoid wasting time and sperm. But I hope everything goes smoothly for you this time! One thing I did this cycle, along with the clomid and trigger, was drink a cup of whole milk a day, because I read that the lack of milkfat and its hormones can make ovulation less regular than we have come to expect over the centuries that women have been drinking cow's milk. My temps are totally textbook this cycle. Just sayin'.


Erin - I hope the timing wasn't too bad this time. Sounds like you need a new place to insem for next time! Like a place that works with frozen sperm often and has someone on call on weekends to do insems. Is something like that available in driving distance from you?


Pokey - Don't get discouraged, dear! I totally understand where you're coming from. All we can do is go on, and make sure we're trying all the things we need to try. Like you said, the injectibles may work on the second try like for some others. Hugs to you!


Jenny - Thanks for the well wishes! Good luck to you for great follies and a well-timed insem!


AFM - TWW, 4DPO. No symptoms. No breast tenderness at all. Very nervous every morning when I temp, lest I see a drop. Stomach and abdomen do feel vaguely odd sometimes, but I have to tell myself it is anxiety about the TWW. Having a little trouble falling asleep at night. Planning to test on 14DPO, 9/17.

post #79 of 317

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words.  You made me tear up a little.  I am not giving up.  It's just hard and it makes me sad sometimes.  I think the fact that we're coming up on a year of trying that is getting to me a little. My wife keeps telling me she knows deep down inside that we are going to have a baby.  She has no doubt.  I'm trying to have faith.   It doesn't work until it does, right?  In the meantime, I want to keep celebrating victories anywhere I can.   


queermama - I'm sorry.  I forgot to say Welcome.gif!  I hope you get things figured out with your cycle and catch an egg soon. 

post #80 of 317

Is it just me, or is 5 DPO always the point at which you start thinking that it's been FOREVER since you inseminated, and it's still FOREVER until you know?

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