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[birdhappy85]

I think Sora is sick with her first real bug (which I think I got too, ugh). Of course the thermometer I've had for 6+ years decided to die this exact morning as I go to take her temperature.  So DH is going to pick up a new one on his way home from work. She definitely feels hot and looks very pale. She's not her usual exuberant self, very listless. And omg the poopsplosions are getting out of hand... She pooped 5 times yesterday, two were leaks, and now this morning in just the 1.5 hrs she's been up, we had two poops and leaks again. I'm cleaning clothes, blankets, airing out the house, even spraying carpet because I can't tell where she might've leaked on the carpet... Yuck.

Is it overreacting for me to be kind of ticked off thinking that she likely got this bug from a daycare friend? This is only her second week, so I'm not happy to say the least. I'm just blaming it on that because on her first day there was a little boy who was clearly ill but his mom and the daycare leader thought he was just having a reaction to his shots the previous day. But now Sora has the exact same palor and demeanor that he had for those first few days.  I don't want to sound paranoid but at the same time I don't want her getting sick more often from other kids... and I'm missing her a lot more than I thought I would. She's home with me right now for her Wednesdays with mommy. I'm just really feeling crappy and probably overthinking things... I hate sickness. HATE IT

[Abraisme]

It is a reality that kids that are around other kids get sick more.  Coralie has already had a couple of bugs, including whooping cough and I'm sure it's because I have older kids.  In my case there really isn't anything that I can do about it (besides lots of hand washing), as I'm not going to limit my kids exposure to others.  Yes, Sora will get sick more, but probably no more than a baby with siblings in school or that have a lot of play dates.  If this is her first sickness she's doing pretty well! 

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

I think Sora is sick with her first real bug (which I think I got too, ugh). Of course the thermometer I've had for 6+ years decided to die this exact morning as I go to take her temperature.  So DH is going to pick up a new one on his way home from work. She definitely feels hot and looks very pale. She's not her usual exuberant self, very listless. And omg the poopsplosions are getting out of hand... She pooped 5 times yesterday, two were leaks, and now this morning in just the 1.5 hrs she's been up, we had two poops and leaks again. I'm cleaning clothes, blankets, airing out the house, even spraying carpet because I can't tell where she might've leaked on the carpet... Yuck.

Is it overreacting for me to be kind of ticked off thinking that she likely got this bug from a daycare friend? This is only her second week, so I'm not happy to say the least. I'm just blaming it on that because on her first day there was a little boy who was clearly ill but his mom and the daycare leader thought he was just having a reaction to his shots the previous day. But now Sora has the exact same palor and demeanor that he had for those first few days.  I don't want to sound paranoid but at the same time I don't want her getting sick more often from other kids... and I'm missing her a lot more than I thought I would. She's home with me right now for her Wednesdays with mommy. I'm just really feeling crappy and probably overthinking things... I hate sickness. HATE IT

[seraf]

Joanie, she had to catch it from someone, he makes as much sense as anyone else! I kind of think illness is one of the risks of daycare (and playgroup and school) so I try not to get crabby.  I'm sorry she's not feeling well.  She goes to daycare when you work and sometimes when you're home to get a break?

[birdhappy85]

True, Abra and Sara. I'm probably just irritable about this particular instance because I'm feeling sick myself and have totally had a miserable past few days. This supposed new job opportunity at work didn't pan out (it's been totally mismanaged and I had to decline the work - I wasn't going to get a pay increase and the 35-wk high risk pregnant woman training me was overwhelming me beyond belief with NO procedures to follow), and I've been making mistakes at work that I never make because of feeling crummy. I've been feeling a lot of mommy guilt too because of Sora being in outside childcare. DH and my friends keep on validating my reasons for me needing to have some time to myself, but the guilt is still there nonetheless... Sara, she's in PT daycare so I can take better care of myself for the most part. She isn't there while I'm at work except for maybe a few hours on a Monday. When I say that aloud to others, I feel like people are probably judging me, and I'm judging myself. My health has been declining quite a bit from not having the energy or time alone to take care of myself, so this was our solution for the time being, and then in the spring I'll be taking classes again anyway and will need to study in my free time.

[Jaimee]

Joanie, I'm sure she did get it from that kid and like others have said, that's the reality of little kids.  My ped used to say that young kids get sick about 8 times a year... for us they are typically concentrated in the months from October to February.  We also go to a lot of playgroups, the library, museums, and Avalon is in kinder this year.  We've all just gotten over our first illness for the season and I expect many more to come.  Young immune systems + sleep deprivation = more illness.  For me, too, since I don't sleep either.  But you might also think that the sooner she's exposed to these things, the quicker her immune system will toughen up! 

Illness is also another one of those areas where parents differ in their philosophies.  You'll find out quickly that some parents don't think much of illness and let their kids run around snotty in public places, playgroups, daycare, school, etc.  Others are overly cautious and will keep their kids home or call you to give you a head's up and ask if it's still okay for them to come over or have you over, etc.  And many fall somewhere in the middle where we keep our kids away from others when they are at the height of the illness, but there is no way to have kept them home prior to the onset when they were actually most contagious.  I've read that you're pretty safe 48 hours after the last symptoms of a stomach  bug and 72 hours after the last symptoms of a cold.  But really, no one is going to wait out a cold and another 3 days before venturing out into the world again.  So, we're all exposed all the time and other than hand washing, sleep, and good nutrition there isn't much we can do.

I hope Sora and you feel better soon!  Being sick SUCKS!

[dashley111]

Don't all kids just have constant snot from like...September through March? 

I agree with everyone saying its just a reality of having kids.  They get sick.  They put everything in their mouths.

[Mal85]

Joanie I was a daycare provider and yes it is just a reality with daycare. I have heard that the first year in daycare or working with kids is the worst of it. You hope to build up immunities so they don't catch illnesses as easily, but that takes time. As the provider with a baby of my own, the illnesses often started with me or dd. Of course as soon as I knew parents were called, but there were a couple of times the stomach flu made the rounds with not only my daycare kids but also their families. But what can you do? A parent can't always predict an illness and sometimes it is just a reaction or common cold. Personally I wait a couple of days before determining whether or not my kids are truly sick. Sometimes symptoms clear and I hate to take off work when I don't need to. So funny noses (which we have right now!) are not always enough for mw to stay home with the kids.

[jhsmama11]

Originally Posted by dashley111 

Ooh are you knitting the Drops Buttercup pattern or the Petite Pearls? Im knitting the Petite Pearls first, then the Drops pattern.
Im sorry Jasper is having such a tough time he will adjust though. Happy mom means happy baby, and you know what is right for the both of you!

Ooh, knitting-I'm going to have to go check out those patterns. I knit on my lunch break while pumping (and trying not to get the tubes and my yarn tangled).

Jack has started to cry when I leave the daycare. Breaks my heart. Today we sat him down for some breakfast as I was leaving and no tears! Man, that kid loves his food.

Jack just recovered from his first illness and all the kids at his daycare have had runny noses. They have a two symptom rule so I've been kind of letting that be my guide.

[birdhappy85]

How high of a fever is bad enough to warrant a trip to the doctor? Sora is 101.7F right now... It was 100F earlier but I had given her some Tylenol a few hours earlier so I figure that's why it was lower. Then I read online that it's best to not give Tylenol unless the baby is too uncomfortable because the fever fights an infection, so I'm not giving it to her now.

The weird thing is that Sora has a really bad diaper rash that started yesterday. Is that typical when babies are ill? Suggestions for helping it? I put calendula cream on it like I used to and it must've hurt her badly because she was crying in pain.  It's hard to wipe her now because her bum is so raw from nonstop diarrhea cleanups.

[dashley111]

Babies can get to 104-105 before the ped will want a visit. Usually there is criteria like- over 104 and not going down with Tylenol, or something like that. Depends on the ped. I wouldn't be concerned about 101. That is pretty typical temp for fighting something off. Just enjoy some snuggles and nurse her a little extra....and hang in there!

[jbk21]

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Edited by jbk21 - 10/6/12 at 9:37pm

[Abraisme]

I'm pretty sure that you don't need to take a baby to the dr. until the temp is over 103+.  Babies and children can get higher fevers than adults and still be fine.  While it sucks, the fever does have a purpose, so it's best to let it run it's course.  Just keep her fluids up and give her lots of snuggles.  Oh, and yes, diaper rash is normal with diarrhea.

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

How high of a fever is bad enough to warrant a trip to the doctor? Sora is 101.7F right now... It was 100F earlier but I had given her some Tylenol a few hours earlier so I figure that's why it was lower. Then I read online that it's best to not give Tylenol unless the baby is too uncomfortable because the fever fights an infection, so I'm not giving it to her now.

The weird thing is that Sora has a really bad diaper rash that started yesterday. Is that typical when babies are ill? Suggestions for helping it? I put calendula cream on it like I used to and it must've hurt her badly because she was crying in pain.  It's hard to wipe her now because her bum is so raw from nonstop diarrhea cleanups.

[Jaimee]

Joanie, is she in cloth?  If so, be sure you're lining them if you're slathering her with creams and oils or you'll get stuck in a vicious rash cycle.  You might also consider switching to sposies during this illness and then you can slather with whatever works best.  Luke warm bath is a great suggestion for cleaning her up.  Even just a wide bucket or dishpan to dip her butt into after changes.

While it can be scary to see a high temp and some kids get pretty lethargic with fever, really it has to be pretty high to warrant real concern.  Fever is just the body fighting off an infection.  Allowing the body to run a bit high is a good thing while sick.  Too high, though, can be more harmful as the child may not want to nurse, may have trouble sleeping or sleep so much they hardly eat/drink, or it some cases get seizures.  For these reasons, if the fever is up there and causing my kid to not want to nurse, I will medicate.  I always use Motrin instead of Tylenol.  If the fever is above 102, you can double the dose as a single dose may not do anything at all.  If the latter makes you uncomfortable, verify with your care provider.

Nurse, nurse, nurse, rest, rest, rest.  Hugs mama!

[TalkToMeNow]

Oh wow... After 3 days, I have to find a new child care situation for Jasper. The woman who has been watching him got a job offer at her old school and starts after next week. I am so upset. He's been practicing there for two weeks and we have to start over. He will probably have to go to a center. I am just... Very, very sad. And I feel like I am being punished for leaving my baby at all. And I am mad at dh because I have to work at all, which is so stupid. I seriously can't function right now. I just feel like the worst mom in the universe for doing this to my baby.

[Jaimee]

I'm so sorry Amanda!  Doesn't the woman know other in home care providers you can look into?  I mean just in my own neighborhood I know of three and they all know of each other.  What about posting in the Finding Your Tribe section?  Or other parenting groups you're a part of?  Or LLL or API leaders in your area?  There has got to be a better solution than a center!  And maybe, just maybe this is the universes way of allowing you to find an even better care situation for Jasper.  Maybe?   How stressful, though, I'm so sorry!

[dashley111]

Oh Amanda im so sorry!

[SoCaliMommy]

 Amanda~ I'm so sorry you now have to start over with finding  a daycare provider. 

 Reunion~ That would be so much fun. 

We are pretty much moved out of our old place- minus the giant pile of stuff in the living room and some random stuff in the garage and then having to clean and sweep so we get $$ for moving out.  Here is a picture of the new place,  It's been a crazy move DH wanted to move all the big stuff in 3 days which was beyond stressful.  We moved 3 mins drive from the old place.

Edited by SoCaliMommy - 9/12/12 at 5:59pm

[Becky Wheeler]

Originally Posted by SoCaliMommy 

 Amanda~ I'm so sorry you now have to start over with finding  a daycare provider. 

 Reunion~ That would be so much fun. 

We are pretty much moved out of our old place- minus the giant pile of stuff in the living room and some random stuff in the garage and then having to clean and sweep so we get $$ for moving out.  Here is a picture of the new place,  It's been a crazy move DH wanted to move all the big stuff in 3 days which was beyond stressful.  We moved 3 mins drive from the old place.

That place is awesome! Congrats on the new place and good luck with the clean up and deposit! 

[TalkToMeNow]

Thanks guys.

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Originally Posted by Jaimee 

I'm so sorry Amanda!  Doesn't the woman know other in home care providers you can look into?  I mean just in my own neighborhood I know of three and they all know of each other.  What about posting in the Finding Your Tribe section?  Or other parenting groups you're a part of?  Or LLL or API leaders in your area?  There has got to be a better solution than a center!  And maybe, just maybe this is the universes way of allowing you to find an even better care situation for Jasper.  Maybe?   How stressful, though, I'm so sorry!

Right now, we are a bit wary of another in home care provider. What if the same thing happens again?? I will probably look into it, though. Right now, we have a week to find something. A week. :(

[birdhappy85]

Why did Sora and I have to both get sick on DH's work nights? I'm losing it here. It's a little after 5am. I've been up since 3am struggling with Sora. Between 7pm - 2am I changed 4 dirty diapers, one which leaked AGAIN and required a clothing change, and then I couldn't get her back down to bed for the life of me... I've been frantically texting DH all night. I've tried everything I can to calm this baby down. I finally gave up trying to get her to fall asleep in bed with me and brought her out into the living room. She's wide awake. I'm handing her any toy I can think of to keep her distracted while I try to collect myself. Losing so much sleep during illness is way different than losing sleep when she was a newborn... This is impossible. 3 hours of broken sleep total, on top of PMSing. I asked DH to see if he can find someone to cover his Thursday night shift but he doesn't think he can. I sure hope so.

Oh great now Sora is slamming my cell phone on the hardwood floor. And I don't have any energy in me to care. Back to finding toys to occupy her with...