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post #161 of 226

From the article:

 

"Following that window, it's the marriages that really seem to fray -- some to the point of breaking. A recent divorcée said to me, "Well, of course, we never had sex anymore with the kids in the bed -- why couldn't he understand that?" Because I'm betting that was nowhere in your vows. "

 

Umm.... We've done it everywhere else BUT the bed since Levi was born. Sex doesn't need to happen in the bed! It shouldn't HAVE to happen in the bed. I think the writer is just grasping at straws to put down attachment parenting and implement her agenda.

post #162 of 226

Happy birthday, Rhyko! So awesome! joy.gif

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Happy Birthday RHYKO!!!
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Thread Starter 

Happy Birthday, sweet Rhyko!!!!  love.gif

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Its the first DDC birthday!!!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY RHYKO!!!

 

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Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes! He is going to have a very exciting birthday weekend! We are flying in my husbands family from Wisconsin and they arrive tonight! joy.gif
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Happy Birthday, Rhyko!!

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, RHYKO!!! kiss.gif

post #170 of 226

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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post

...She appears to have no idea how much is dependent on temperament- so much smugness and through it she has made herself sound quite selfish.  She is so disparaging toward the parents she sees making sacrifices for their children.  She doesn't give them any credit for trying to make the best choices for their family...

 

...And in the end, I wonder what the long view will be for this mother and her child... will she be surprised when she grows up to be smug and selfish like her mother despite sleeping 12 hours each night? 

 

Agreed on both counts.

 

I still don't understand why some people seem to expect babies to have the same temperaments and to fit into some mold. They are individuals. Human beings! (Would you believe I've actually had to say that out loud to people before to get a point across? lol) Parenting babies is largely about responding to their needs. So much of this seems like common sense to me. And of course when I said that I'm in favor of what's best for the whole family, I clarified it by adding the "healthy" aspect to it. I see boundaries against abuse, neglect, and other harmful behaviors as common sense, but I forget that there is so much disagreement in the world about what constitutes each of those... Yeah, I guess even abusers may truly believe their methods are healthy for their child... which is just so sad for the children. greensad.gif A former coworker of mine started having children a few months before I did (she's due with her second already in January) and she gave me this book several months ago to help me "train" my baby. Like a dog. Only..... okay, I don't even want to get into it because this book makes me mad. (I think I mentioned her before, but not sure if I shared the book?) http://www.amazon.com/To-Train-Up-A-Child/dp/1892112000  I don't even know if she wants it returned to her, but I'm not wasting my money to mail it back! Hmm, maybe I should burn it. mischievous.gif

 

As for whether or not the author of that blog will even NOTICE if her daughter is a smug and selfish adult... well, that will be very unlikely. For some reason I get the feeling this woman isn't much about introspection. I have family members of her kind. You can tell them a million different ways what they're doing that is harmful to others, and they still respond with something "outward" and oblivious to their own role in a matter. It's crazymaking. SERIOUSLY.

post #171 of 226

Very different topic... I'm hoping someone here has had experience with what I *think* is hard water calcium staining on granite countertops. It's several inches in either direction from the faucet above the kitchen sink leading to the backsplash. It's like a white-ish discoloration film splotched around. I don't know what to even use on it. I use CLR (I know, *cringe*) on other rust and calcium buildups on metals around here, but I'm sure I can't use that on granite. If it's not calcium buildup, then I'm worried I might've taken a harsh cleaner to it some time ago that might've damaged the granite sealant right there. But I'm really leaning more towards it being some effect of water since that's where water pools often if we're doing dishes or leaving a sponge around. We got a water softener last year, so I just need to figure out how to get rid of this film so my countertops look brand new! Tips?

post #172 of 226

Happy Birthday, Rhyko! What a year he's had.  What are his favorite toys and games? What skills are he working on?

 

That article was a bit over the top.  I think the strong views are written like that for hits.  I mean everyone who gets angry enough to comment and share it generates more views, which generates more money from advertisers. It will probably also be shared by people who want to piss off someone they view as AP.  Well balanced articles aren't shared as widely. I suppose it's possible that the author truly believes the implied idea that everyone who meets the needs of their children as they arise are shortsighted, sentimental fools who need to get laid and Dr Sears is their king. shrug.gif

post #173 of 226

Joanie, have you tried microfiber cloths?  I almost exclusively use e-cloth to clean and it just uses water to be effective.  For tougher stains (like mineral build up and soap scum) you do need to use some force with the cloth, but it's safe for granite.  I highly recommend it!  I usually use the range and stove top cloth (it has scrubbing stripes) and the glass/polishing cloth and it gets my granite shining!

post #174 of 226

Think that's why Dr. Amy is such a witch, Sara? winky.gif

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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post

Joanie, have you tried microfiber cloths?  I almost exclusively use e-cloth to clean and it just uses water to be effective.  For tougher stains (like mineral build up and soap scum) you do need to use some force with the cloth, but it's safe for granite.  I highly recommend it!  I usually use the range and stove top cloth (it has scrubbing stripes) and the glass/polishing cloth and it gets my granite shining!

 

No! After I get a long nap, I'll go out and look for some in the store. I've been meaning to look into those e-cloths you mentioned but keep forgetting. Oops. I'll bookmark that online right now. If this makes my granite shine, you'll be getting mucho thanks from me!!!! It's those little things that make me happy... Am I the only one who secretly walks through their kitchen extra times for like a whole day after it's been super cleaned, just to admire? Sheepish.gif I, uh, kinda have a thing for granite countertops and stainless steel appliances. LOL

 

Okay nap time... I only got 3 hours of sleep last night. I think my head still has swelling cuz I'm moving in slow motion and my eyesight isn't as good as it was pre-fever. I hope the sleep will rejuvenate me a little. 

post #176 of 226

They're on awesome sale through Frontier this month!  I forget if you've got one of those running in your area, but the prices are below wholesale!!  Get a couple friends together to place an order... buy them as gifts for your family... $250 min for free shipping.

post #177 of 226

Sorry I'm late. Life has been crazy!

 

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY, RHYKO!!! It makes me sad to say that... Conner's only a month away.

post #178 of 226

delurking to say Happy Birthday Rhyko!

post #179 of 226

Happy yesterday birthday to Rhyko!

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Happy birthday, Rhyko!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  orngbiggrin.gif

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