Originally Posted by Jaimee
...She appears to have no idea how much is dependent on temperament- so much smugness and through it she has made herself sound quite selfish. She is so disparaging toward the parents she sees making sacrifices for their children. She doesn't give them any credit for trying to make the best choices for their family...
...And in the end, I wonder what the long view will be for this mother and her child... will she be surprised when she grows up to be smug and selfish like her mother despite sleeping 12 hours each night?
Agreed on both counts.
I still don't understand why some people seem to expect babies to have the same temperaments and to fit into some mold. They are individuals. Human beings! (Would you believe I've actually had to say that out loud to people before to get a point across? lol) Parenting babies is largely about responding to their needs. So much of this seems like common sense to me. And of course when I said that I'm in favor of what's best for the whole family, I clarified it by adding the "healthy" aspect to it. I see boundaries against abuse, neglect, and other harmful behaviors as common sense, but I forget that there is so much disagreement in the world about what constitutes each of those... Yeah, I guess even abusers may truly believe their methods are healthy for their child... which is just so sad for the children. A former coworker of mine started having children a few months before I did (she's due with her second already in January) and she gave me this book several months ago to help me "train" my baby. Like a dog. Only..... okay, I don't even want to get into it because this book makes me mad. (I think I mentioned her before, but not sure if I shared the book?) http://www.amazon.com/To-Train-Up-A-Child/dp/1892112000 I don't even know if she wants it returned to her, but I'm not wasting my money to mail it back! Hmm, maybe I should burn it.
As for whether or not the author of that blog will even NOTICE if her daughter is a smug and selfish adult... well, that will be very unlikely. For some reason I get the feeling this woman isn't much about introspection. I have family members of her kind. You can tell them a million different ways what they're doing that is harmful to others, and they still respond with something "outward" and oblivious to their own role in a matter. It's crazymaking. SERIOUSLY.