Originally Posted by fairejour
She functions at about the level of a 6 or 7 year old.)
if she functions at that level... then she is right on with other kids that age.
i have heard it from my dd at 6 and other kids too. its the 6 year old angst they go through. teens who remember that stage have told me it was the worst period of their life - worse than their teens.
my dd has told me 'i know its wrong', 'i know i shouldnt do it, but i felt like i was two persons. i DID NOT want to do it, yet i did not know how to stop myself.' its like someone else lives within me and does all this naughty stuff'. dd was hitting and kicking and screaming.
once she got over the phase OMG - do i know this child? she changed in a huge way. HUGE. suddenly - in a v. subtle sense - the child in dd was replaced by this mature, understanding child who didnt mind that her mom said no. all the hitting, kicking went away. and dd got body odor right after that stage.
on another note, i dont think she really knows the why. even today dd could do bizarre things and not know why she did it. even during other times - i dont think she can articulate the why. i dont think most kids have the emotional vocabulary to express their emotions even at 9.
also just so you know - this is not uncommon for a 6 year old. from about 5 when the angst stage can start (if you ask me i call this first stage of puberty and its hormonal) the number of bitings rise again and then it quietly dies down.
mama dont let your fears rule how you see your child. i can relate to how you feel. i have gone through similar things blaming single parenthood, etc for what my child was going through. till one of my friends gave me a serious talking to and pointed out in my endeavour to see signs of mental illness i was missing the point that my dd was growing up normal. yeah due to her circumstances she might be a little bit more intense, go through the phase a little longer - but she said - look around. see that most kids ur kids age is going through similar things. and so i say the same to you. another long, long conversation with the mother of a bi-polar son and their journey together helped me take my focus of looking for mental illness. what really reassured me about her story was that - dd would never be alone. if she was diagnosed i would be there to help her through it. that was so reassuring that i finally laid my fears to rest.
your dd is being a typical 6 - 7 year old. be there for her. she needs you more than anything now. she is scared and confused. she needs you to just be there for her. remember she is terrified too.