XH does not have a place that he can take the baby to even after a year. He lives with a family member and does not have a bed or even a toy there for the baby. The baby has never been there. He is debt free, but he tells everyone he has no money because I kicked him out and took everything. I have 2 mortgages, 2 heat and lights, 2 property taxes, the credit card, car payment, 3 insurances, etc because his credit was so aweful everything had to be in my name. He messed up his credit and then tried to work on mine behind my back.
I honestly have been over the top good about all of this. I let him watch the baby in my house. And if he ever wants to see her all he has to do is let me know. The answer has always been yes. He cancels a lot when it comes to seeing her. I do not bad mouth him around town at all. He has told people that he didn't make enough money for me, and that is SOOOO far from the truth. I could care less.
So, lately I've noticed that things in my bedroom have been moved around a bit. I asked him if he was in my room, he said the cat was in there, so he let her out. I know for a fact she wasn't in there.... So I put things in front of the door and when I came home, they were not in the same place. And it happened quite often. But last night I also found that he had been snooping in my, um, toy box!?! This kid is sick! I am soooo pissed off that he would snoop when I have been sooo nice and let him into my home so he can see his daughter, even after him trashing me around town. But to go through that box..... more than once I might add...... is disgusting! AND what can I do? I need him to look after the baby when I work outside of daycare hours..... and he won't get his place set for his kid.... he will wait till his gf gets a place and he'll move in with her. UGH. I want to catch him on camera or something, but he is such a liar he would just tell people im crazy or something. Am I really gonna have to put a lock on my own bedroom door, in my own house????? This is crazy. Any thoughts?