Originally Posted by lia_joy
@Linnaea, I'm still processing/reflecting... despite how beautifully it went, I do have a bit of sadness that we probably could have had her at home & didn't, but I wouldn't say I wish anything different. I don't feel that any part of Zena's experience was sacreficed, which is key. I knew one way or another I'd value the experience but my biggest fear was that her first moments would be lacking the intimacy & honor every baby deserves...Home to her is in my arms & she got that. The only thing different for her (than what her brothers had) was the car ride from the hospital, which she slept peacefully through... So in wieghing the unassisted birth I wanted against the experience I had I'm really just thinking about what the birth meant to me. I think the growth & learning outwiegh anything I missed out on by going to the hospital. I gained a lot through the whole process -- the decision making, planning & being pushed outside my comfort zone like I was. That little bit of sadness (attachment to UC) is nothing in comparison to what I gained. That said, if I were to have another child, I'd plan another UC unless I felt that baby needed something different.
Wow, thank you for your beautiful, thoughtful response. I understand why you'd look at it in terms of sacrifice, I would, too. I'm a UCer, too, so your story got me thinking. If I had a hospital birth or a home birth, midwife experience like yours then I doubt there would be much I'd feel negatively about. I love stories that go against the norm and yours certainly does. Thank you so much for sharing, enjoy your little miracle.
Also, I love your quote about womanhood, makes me feel warm and fuzzy