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post #101 of 361

I'm bringing red wine. We have a bottle of tequila in the cabinet but it's been opened. Does alcohol go bad?
 

post #102 of 361
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We got some of that mango rum. It doesn't say it's spiced rum, though, so I'm still confused about how it makes spicy mango mojitos. Y'all don't have to worry about the tequila unless someone else really wants some.

Wine goes bad, or at least it starts to taste nasty if it sits too long after being opened. I don't know about liquor.

It hasn't been raining up there like here? It has rained almost every day, sometimes really hard, for the last 3 or 4 weeks. Planning for rain has become automatic. Virginia isn't that far away so I guess I was assuming the same weather. It's a little cooler up there. It's about 72 here now. It feels cold outside after getting used to 100+ temps.
post #103 of 361

It's been raining a ton here too but it stopped yesterday and the forecast for the next ten days looks clear. Today was amazing. Not too hot slight breeze. Might be a bit chilly by the outdoor pools but no worries since there is an indoor pool. And judging by the pictures, I probably won't be able to keep Ava out of the giant bathtub if we have one of those in our units. That girl LOVES baths and showers! love.gif
 

post #104 of 361

Alcohol doesn't seem to, so long as the cap is on it tightly. We have kept ours and used it for a couple years at least.

 

I think Norah's on the tall side. She's about 30 inches. It's hard to get a length measurement on such a wiggle worm.

 

Chilly here this morning, wonderful!!!

 

I have the same days off as the trip (because I took them off back when we thought we could go) and I think we will work on potty training and other fun stuff.

 

DH had Gabe out running errands and stuff yesterday, and it wore him clear out. He fell asleep in the car around 6, and kept sleeping until 7 a.m. (brief wake ups for transfers and a diaper change, but went right back to sleep) - I could get used to that sort of schedule!

 

Norah is 11 months old today, and I will be 15 weeks tomorrow! OB appointment on Thursday.

post #105 of 361

We got the socks today! They're gorgeous! I'll try to take a pic later on, and also do some more responding. We're trying to be productive today and go out and make our choices for the flooring/colors/cabinets etc for the basement. And I think I'm going to go spend money at Carters LOL

post #106 of 361

Have fun spending money! and yay for more pics!

post #107 of 361

LOL - you guys are making me feel like a lush with your talk of "Liquor going bad" 

Never have I had that problem   winky.gif

 

JJ - Holy crap! I couldn't believe that was Tenley. She has gotten huge!

 

I am so jealous of all you guys hanging out. You will have to take lots of pics 

 

 

RE: Early Intervention.

 

After getting speech therapy for J, I'm not really sure how I feel about it. 
It really wasn't super helpful and a lot of the stuff I was supposed to work on myself. Which didn't happen bag.gif

Besides that - a lot of the sounds she wouldn't even WORK on because J wasn't "mature" enough and the sounds were the "last to come in" 
I think *th* was one of them. Don't really remember. 

 

Anyways, long story short, I think it helped a very very little amount. 

 

 

Speaking of such things, school is going really well. 
K has always loved school (even when I homeschooled I sent her to a "homeschool academy" once a week which she really enjoyed) and J is following right along in her footprints. My DH went to pick them up from school the other day and J's teacher told him that she is doing really well and that she is "the most helpful and kind child in the class" 
At least she behaves for SOMEONE! lol.gif

 

It is hard for me though. I almost feel guilty putting them in school....but between them WANTING to go so bad and loving it so much, I don't know what to do. 

 

I think the parents attitude helps too. I don't push scores and what not. 

I hope it helps at least.

 

When are you ladies getting together? This weekend?

 

It's really

post #108 of 361
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LOL - you guys are making me feel like a lush with your talk of "Liquor going bad" 

Never have I had that problem   winky.gif

 

 

It is hard for me though. I almost feel guilty putting them in school....but between them WANTING to go so bad and loving it so much, I don't know what to do. 

 

I think the parents attitude helps too. I don't push scores and what not. 

I hope it helps at least.

 

When are you ladies getting together? This weekend?

 

 

 

 

I never have a problem with leftover liquor either...

 

Why do you feel guilty about sending them to school if they are thriving and love it?  I'm asking honestly.  I think that if your child is unhappy, falling behind, struggling, etc and as a parent we only continue sending them to school "b/c that's what you're supposed to do" then I can see feeling guilty.  But, on the other hand, if you send them to school, they love it, you are involved with them and their education (doing things with them at home, part of the class, know the teachers, etc) then it's a good thing.  This is just my opinion of course.  

I feel like sometimes we have mama guilt over things we consider "not AP" enough.  I try hard to let them go.  Like when I use a stroller instead of wearing the baby.  When it's easier, I use the stroller.  When it's not, I don't.  But sometimes I feel like, "gah, I shoudn't have him in this stupid stroller, he should be worn!!" and I have to shake my head at myself b/c it's stupid.  Just do what works and makes us both happy.

 

Yes the trip is this weekend!!

 

Ok - so - for Kat and JJ and everyone else living vicariously...

I picked up 2 maze books, 1 coloring book, and 1 dvd for the kids to watch in the car.  I got fruit snacks and pouches, veggie sticks, pretzels.  

I just have to hit up the liquor store tonight I think.  And then I'm set!  Packing tomorrow!!

post #109 of 361
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annie ~ That's what I've heard from everyone (like maybe 3 or 4 people so you know it's definitive lol.gif) that I know who has had their child in speech therapy. It doesn't really make much difference. I have heard from other parents, unschoolers, who say their child was or would have been referred to speech therapy but they weren't interested and the child was fine with time and maturity. So, the big question is whether or not it's really necessary. I can see how school people would think it's necessary because they need kids to generally be on the same level in order to follow the curricula but that doesn't mean that the individual child needs it. KWIM?

I agree with Carrie about school and I'm very anti-school. smile.gif If your children like it and are doing well and the rest of the family is happy with it, don't feel bad. Maybe just always keep it as a choice (mostly to make yourself feel better because then you aren't forcing them). Even hardcore radical unschoolers say it's ok for kids to go to school if they choose to and know they have the choice to stop whenever they want. winky.gif

We've never had a problem with liquor going bad but that's mainly because we don't drink it much. When we have it, it goes fast. winky.gif I don't think liquor does go bad, though. It's a natural disinfectant, right?

Yes, it's this weekend. Only two more days! joy.gif I'm so excited!

I keep flip-flopping back and forth between starting to pack today and waiting. I don't like to pack too early. I usually start the day before leaving and finish up with last minute toiletries and what-not the day of. But I have a diaper meet and swap to go to tomorrow morning, Ethan has a baseball game in the evening and Sean won't be home until after 9 pm because he has to go to a town hall meeting. I feel like I should start today so I'm not rushing around tomorrow and Friday morning and Sean doesn't have to stay up half the night Thursday but every time I try to start I get confused about what to pack and what not to. Aaargh! I'm such an idiot about that sort of thing.

Dylan fell asleep in his high chair while eating lunch today. I successfully cleaned up his pizza face and transferred him to the bed without waking him. I didn't get to nurse him, though, and now my breasts are feeling funky. I just got that let down feeling and it kind of hurt. Carrie, are you bringing your pump?
post #110 of 361

Annie - ITA - if the kids love it and are thriving, and you are involved -it's a win. I do like the idea of letting them know that the option to school from home is always open to them if they choose it (assuming it is)

 

I think Gabe would like school. He loves his kindermusik class. I mostly really don't like the schools here, or how they learn  - it's so much teaching the test. I want my kids to learn to think for themselves, to research and develop their own opinions, and the schools here (or the teachers who teach in them) don't do that. I've been thinking a lot about why we send kids to school, and I think it's been so ingrained in us (for hundred of years) that we aren't capable of teaching them at home, that there are things out there that other people are more qualified and more apt at teaching our kids that they NEED to learn, and that premise is so . . . I don't know . .. it undermines my abilities as a parent, and I don't like that. Yes there are things I am not capable of teaching (like German or advanced Physics . .  or how to play the tuba.) but I can ways for my kids to learn these things inside or outside a typical classroom environment that might be better.

 

But I know people whose kids love school, and are ok. and that's great! it's like anything we choose as parents - I know fully vaxed, on schedule kids that appear to be perfectly healthy and have had no problems. I know formula fed babies that rarely get sick. I know people that use strollers, crotch danglers (honestly I would rather see a baby in a stroller than a crotch dangler), drag infant bucket seats everywhere, do various forms of CIO, spank . . . and their kids are mostly ok.  I also know really crunchy people (organic food, less or no vaxes, etc) whose kids are constantly sick, chaotic in public spaces, etc . . . so I try not to judge too much. (But am thankful for my very healthy, breastfed, non vax kiddos who are generally well behaved, and when they aren't they are still stinking cute).

 

Packing - sounds like fun! I usually pack the day before, the things that can be - clothes,etc, and do toiletries the day of.

 

One month until Norah's party! woot!

post #111 of 361
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I've been thinking a lot about why we send kids to school, and I think it's been so ingrained in us (for hundred of years) that we aren't capable of teaching them at home, that there are things out there that other people are more qualified and more apt at teaching our kids that they NEED to learn, and that premise is so . . . I don't know . .. it undermines my abilities as a parent, and I don't like that. Yes there are things I am not capable of teaching (like German or advanced Physics . .  or how to play the tuba.) but I can ways for my kids to learn these things inside or outside a typical classroom environment that might be better.

This is pretty much how I feel. The difference is that I think of it as learning rather than teaching. Teaching, itself, is a bit of a myth. Yes, you can get a child to memorize information for a test (or maybe not no matter how much you try to teach him), but is that true learning? A person will only truly learn something if they really want to and they don't need to be taught for that to happen. My children weren't taught to read. They didn't teach themselves how to read. They learned to read on their own. Same with everything else. They learned to walk and talk and eat solid food and use the toilet and cut their own food and on and on.
post #112 of 361

ugh mamas. Having a really hard day. Waiting for Rob to get home in the next 20 minutes or so, and then I'm handing Tenley over and hiding somewhere until bedtime. I'm going to freaking lose my mind. Send patient and peace my way? Right now I feel like throwing something. Perhaps myself. 

post #113 of 361
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ugh mamas. Having a really hard day. Waiting for Rob to get home in the next 20 minutes or so, and then I'm handing Tenley over and hiding somewhere until bedtime. I'm going to freaking lose my mind. Send patient and peace my way? Right now I feel like throwing something. Perhaps myself. 

 

HUGS!

 

I hope he's home already!  Get out of the house when he gets home.  Srsly.  Pass him the baby and go OUT.  Get a coffee, an iced tea, something!  Thinking of you!!!

post #114 of 361
Jj: sorry you are having a rough day. Get out of the house!
post #115 of 361
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ugh mamas. Having a really hard day. Waiting for Rob to get home in the next 20 minutes or so, and then I'm handing Tenley over and hiding somewhere until bedtime. I'm going to freaking lose my mind. Send patient and peace my way? Right now I feel like throwing something. Perhaps myself. 

Ha! Funny you should post this because the whole time I was driving home from baseball practice I was thinking this is one of those days when I feel like I might drop my basket (in case you get the movie reference). I feel you! We got home and sent everyone to separate bedrooms and no one is allowed to talk to me except Sean. Lucky for everyone else he got home at exactly the same time we did so he's intervening.

I hope you got some relief.
post #116 of 361

Thanks guys. It was one of those that just... wasn't any different than the last three weeks have been, but I'm just so... spent. So absolutely done. *sigh* He came home and has been taking care of Tenley all night, so I showered (alone! And for as long as I wanted!) and then I spent time putting on lotion and repainting my toenails and finger nails. Then I came and nursed her, and then went and picked up a couple grocery items. Then came home, and I've been prepping dinner and doing some light clenaing while ignoring that my husband and daughter exist. Oh, and I made myself a concoction of triple sec, 7 up and cranberry juice. It's working. lol. 

 

It's just really wearing on me spending a total of like 4 hours trying to get her to sleep, when she then proceeds to wake up every 45 minutes, regardless of what we do. At night, it's not as big a deal, because I just sit and read or whatever while she's settling, but during the day, she'll sit there and play and whine alternately for over an hour, while getting increasingly moody because she's tired. And she won't even nurse to sleep anymore either, even when I try to. Add in her refusal to nurse properly during the day (which I know, is normal, but annoying), and shriek anytime I have to change her, and amillion other things that are totally normal for her age, but totally hard to deal with on 5 hours of broken sleep.... one tired mama. I just need to sleep so badly. Like so badly, I'm starting to wonder if I need to just take at least one night and make DH go to her and do whatever it takes during the night, just so I can sleep once. It's times like this I really, really, really, wish she would take a bottle. She's been taking water in the sippy cup, so I might try tomorrow to pump a bit of milk and see if she'll take that out of the sippy at naptime. 

 

Tomorrow I'm going to pop Ten in the Boba and go to the mall in search of a bday gift for my niece. And then I think I'll splurge on some yummy fast food and... I don't know. Maybe hit the library on the way home or something. 

post #117 of 361
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Thanks guys. It was one of those that just... wasn't any different than the last three weeks have been, but I'm just so... spent. So absolutely done. *sigh* He came home and has been taking care of Tenley all night, so I showered (alone! And for as long as I wanted!) and then I spent time putting on lotion and repainting my toenails and finger nails. Then I came and nursed her, and then went and picked up a couple grocery items. Then came home, and I've been prepping dinner and doing some light clenaing while ignoring that my husband and daughter exist. Oh, and I made myself a concoction of triple sec, 7 up and cranberry juice. It's working. lol. 

 

It's just really wearing on me spending a total of like 4 hours trying to get her to sleep, when she then proceeds to wake up every 45 minutes, regardless of what we do. At night, it's not as big a deal, because I just sit and read or whatever while she's settling, but during the day, she'll sit there and play and whine alternately for over an hour, while getting increasingly moody because she's tired. And she won't even nurse to sleep anymore either, even when I try to. Add in her refusal to nurse properly during the day (which I know, is normal, but annoying), and shriek anytime I have to change her, and amillion other things that are totally normal for her age, but totally hard to deal with on 5 hours of broken sleep.... one tired mama. I just need to sleep so badly. Like so badly, I'm starting to wonder if I need to just take at least one night and make DH go to her and do whatever it takes during the night, just so I can sleep once. It's times like this I really, really, really, wish she would take a bottle. She's been taking water in the sippy cup, so I might try tomorrow to pump a bit of milk and see if she'll take that out of the sippy at naptime. 

 

Tomorrow I'm going to pop Ten in the Boba and go to the mall in search of a bday gift for my niece. And then I think I'll splurge on some yummy fast food and... I don't know. Maybe hit the library on the way home or something. 


Glad you got some relief! There were days when I soooooo looked forward to going to work just so someone else had to deal with DD for a few hours. Are you against giving her motrin or something at night? If her teeth are bothering her, sleep is going to be for crap. Also, with Ava, I started taking her out every single day. Even if it was just to go somewhere that had lots of people so she could people watch while I walked. I've discovered she settles a lot better when she's had lots of input. Even the grocery store is enough sensory input for her. Also, we had to start turning the TV off in the evenings. My DH HATES that but oh well. It was amping her up, even if she wasn't watching it. So it gets shut off after 5 PM until she goes to bed. We also do lots of water play. At least 20-30 mins in the morning in the shower and then 20ish minutes in the bathtub at night.

 

Big hugs. I've sooooo been there. And some days, it made it worse to fight her w/naps. I would just give up and let her play. While I laid on the floor and napped. Anything to survive!

post #118 of 361

Packing...yeah I need to get on that. I need to do some laundry too. I'm not packing for DH or the big kids. I'm putting folded piles of clean clothes in their rooms and giving them parameters. They can handle the rest. I do need to start getting the toys together to bring. My mom is going to come take Ava for a couple of hours Friday morning so I can get the rest of the packing done.

 

So I went to look for that bottle of tequila. I sure hope we took it to a friend's house one time because it's gone. I need to ask DH if he remembers what happened to it. Otherwise...who knows? I know that DH and I didn't drink it.

 

School stuff...I think if the kid is enjoying it, why not? If it's a struggle at all, then I think it's totally ok to look for alternatives. I have no clue what we are going to do when Ava hits school-age. Right now, I'm thinking no to traditional school at least for the first couple of years. We'll see.
 

post #119 of 361
Jj, hugs!!! I have more to say, but I'm on my phone so i will in the am. Just know i think you should try taking a night for yourself. It'll be amazing.

I have a huge bottle of tequila. It's not even half gone. Don't buy any!!! I'll just bring mine!!
Lol that it's missing tho. Ha!

Sleep sucks here!! I hope our weekend isn't to effed up with bad sleep!!

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post #120 of 361

Last night SUCKED.  Omg.  In his defense he had a  fever and is working on huge developmental things, but still.  Buddy, I can't be awake from 230 til 5!  That just isn't going to cut it!  Sigh, I really hope this breaks and we get a reprieve while we are away.

He was calling for Dada so I brought him to Chris at 5 (who had to get up at 6 to catch a train for the city) and then slept.  Slept til 615.  Then I went up with him in Chris's bed and we both slept til 830.  So.  And coffee helps!  Now somehow I need to gather courage and patience to go to BRU (looking for a cheapy umbrella stroller for the trip), food store, and I think that's it.  And then PACKING!

 

Finn is running a slight fever (99-100) but honestly I don't know if it's teething or viral.  He's just really grumpy so I think it's teething.  We are still ON!  Hope that's ok with you guys (I know it is, but in essence of full disclosure...)

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