September 2012 Rockstar Mamas - Page 12

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

Gah, whatever this is that Ava picked up suuuuuuucks! Fever is back. She kept bringing me the Motrin and I kept telling her no that she didn't have a fever soI wasn't going to give her medicine. Finally felt her head and the fever is back. :/ Need to stop arguing with the 1 yr old apparently.

I know it's been a week, but I hope she didn't catch it from Finn.  Sounds like what he had with the high fever that kept coming back.  :-(

Confused.  Yesterday Finn only nursed when he woke up and then when he went down for nap.  I offered a few times before bed but he didn't want it.  Nursed only one side to go to sleep.  Slept great last night, nursed maybe 3 times (?) but at least one was half hearted. WTH?  He went from 6-8 times a day last week (plus night time) to this.  Crazy baby.  I'll just keep offering.  I'm not ready for him to drop down that much.

[MarineWife]

Carrie ~ That sounds like a good conversation. Hopefully, he'll get what you meant and do something about it.

I was talking to my friend just yesterday about how, to a large extent, you parent won't make a big difference in your child's behavior unless you are very extreme. By that I mean that all kids go through the same general stages/phases. The point in AP for me is not to have some amazingly well-behaved child but to have a safe, close relationship with my children so that they are comfortable being themselves. Experienced radical unschoolers will say that they didn't experience the teen rebellion that everyone in our society thinks is normal. They say it's because the teens have been treated in a way so that there isn't anything to rebel against.

Haha, Annie! That girl knows what she needs. It sounds like she has what we had the week before we went to Williamsburg, fever and vomiting. Not fun!

[AnnieA]

Baby_Cakes, I don't think it's what Finn had but I could be wrong. She's miserable and he seemed in ok spirits once you guys got there. It's almost like she has a stomach flu. She slept four hours on Thursday during the day. That's so not Ava!

[Baby_Cakes]

Poor ava!! Sending well wishes!!

Alysia, that's true. I care more about having a good relationship with them as they get older, an open and trusting one, than how they actually behave. Especially now as children and toddlers.

Can i say too that lately i love love love having an almost 4 year old and a 1 year old? I love how they are playing together, how they can usually work out their disagreements by themselves, they entertain each other. They make me laugh! I'm looking fwd to so much! I'm really looking fwd to the holidays this year, too. Already thinking of Christmas!


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[MarineWife]

Lots of fun, Carrie!

I just checked out timeshares in NMB/MB. There are a lot! There's a whole resort complex with cottages and condos. The cottages appear to be only 3 or 4 bedrooms so that probably wouldn't work for us unless we get a couple more families. I'm counting 5 families, me, Carrie, Annie, Katrina and JJ. If little annie could somehow swing it, we might be able to get two 3 bedroom cottages. Otherwise, there are condos like the ones we stayed in at Williamsburg. I think we can get various combos of bedrooms and lock offs, especially the earlier we book. I'm trying to find out when the season starts because it will be more then. It makes sense to me that it would be sometime at the end of May but it may start in April because it does get warm then. I remember sunbathing at the beach in February there.

I've sent an email to my mom so I'll let you know what she says when she answers me.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

Lots of fun, Carrie!
I just checked out timeshares in NMB/MB. There are a lot! There's a whole resort complex with cottages and condos. The cottages appear to be only 3 or 4 bedrooms so that probably wouldn't work for us unless we get a couple more families. I'm counting 5 families, me, Carrie, Annie, Katrina and JJ. If little annie could somehow swing it, we might be able to get two 3 bedroom cottages. Otherwise, there are condos like the ones we stayed in at Williamsburg. I think we can get various combos of bedrooms and lock offs, especially the earlier we book. I'm trying to find out when the season starts because it will be more then. It makes sense to me that it would be sometime at the end of May but it may start in April because it does get warm then. I remember sunbathing at the beach in February there.
I've sent an email to my mom so I'll let you know what she says when she answers me.

We are going to have to let you know. :-(  Chris says no more trips until after we find a new house and move.  BOOO.  Tho -- if it's as cheap as the timeshare we just did I bet I can finagle him.  

Kat - 3 weeks til Norah's first bday means 3 weeks til you spill the beans about the bean, right!?  

[AnnieA]

Bah. Baby_Cakes, tell Chris you'll be on the Lauri budget for the next trip. Other than the money for the room and the tank of gas to get there and back, I spent under $25 and that includes the wine I brought! Of course, I didn't have big kids to keep entertained. Ava is still sick. Fever and vomiting came back. Still having pee dipes and mouth is moist so trying to not freak out.

[onetwoten]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Oh the party sounds so nice!  Too bad yours won't be there!  I miss my mw.  I hear stories about her now and then (good ones!) and I miss her energy.  

JJ - I hear you!  This is how I felt when Nora hit 3.  I remember crying to Chris and to Diane (b/c at the time she and I were still close) that I didn't understand.  I had a natural birth, bedshared, didn't CIO, I ebf her for 8 months, and did BLW!!  I don't hit or time out or punish or yell or ANYTHING!  WHY was she a maniac?!?  Why did she hit, bite, spit, throw tantrums, call me names, refuse to listen???  WHO WAS THIS GIRL!?  I would cry and cry.  Tell Chris that in my heart I felt like I failed as a mom.  That obv I am not cut out for this.  That AP is bullshit b/c I could have this same child if I didn't do any of those things!!

All this to say -- I stick with it b/c I hope/feel some day it will pay off big time.  I still have hope!  She hasn't broken me yet!

Also - fuuuuuck to being sick!  It's the worst!!

Lauri - Poor Ava!  Hang in there.  

I'm sick too.  I was up almost half the night with a fever.  There was Finn, finally sleeping hard and barely waking up (for the first time in what feels like 100 years), Nora was sound asleep...and I was burning up and had a massive headache.  Well played, life.  Well fucking played.

I also had to call poison control this morning b/c Finn got my bottle of ibuprofen open!  Don't trust those childproof caps.  I know it was clicked closed.  Then I look down and he's sitting there in a pile of pills, chewing!  I had no idea how he got it open!  I quickly picked them all up, counted them (thank GAWD it was a new bottle and I knew how many had been in there).  He sucked the coating off of six.  Poison control said he will be just fine.  NOT what I needed to start this day!!!

Oh - chris and I had a good heart to heart last night about what's been going on.  

It was perfect.  We sat and chatted and had some wine, etc.  I felt like we were really reconnecting and then after an hour, I was ready to go to bed.  He gave me this look like, are we going to do anything tonight?  So...I took that opportunity to explain to him that he and I feel very differently about this.  That sitting and talking and laughing to me WAS intimacy.  That this is what I need to feel close to him and to patch up the holes that keep cropping up in our relationship.  I didn't understand why it wasn't enough for him, and didn't he like chatting or was he sitting there thinking it was a waste of time?

He was like, no, but that  (his words here) the conversation was dinner and he also likes dessert.  I told him too often he just wants/demands dessert.  That in order for us to have sex more often, we need to have more dinner!  Make sure I'm fed, rested, and THEN we can order whatever he wants.  

Yes! Like yes, I know what I'm doing is the right thing. I know that in my heart. She needs my milk, she needs my cuddles, she needs to know I'm there. But you just feel like.... I should see a payoff from this sooner! lol  

And yes to the dinner/dessert! I always tell DH that he's forgetting that we don't 'warm up[ the same way men do. Men's warmup: "Sex". Woman's warmup: clean the kitchen, then offer to let me read in bed, and then rub my back, or my feet and let me realx and unwind from the day. And THEN I'm much more likely to be in the mood. 

And that sounds terrifying with Finn! You're right! Thankfully it was a new bottle!!

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

Gah, whatever this is that Ava picked up suuuuuuucks! Fever is back. She kept bringing me the Motrin and I kept telling her no that she didn't have a fever soI wasn't going to give her medicine. Finally felt her head and the fever is back. :/ Need to stop arguing with the 1 yr old apparently.

haha!! Lesson in trusting baby?

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

Lots of fun, Carrie!
I just checked out timeshares in NMB/MB. There are a lot! There's a whole resort complex with cottages and condos. The cottages appear to be only 3 or 4 bedrooms so that probably wouldn't work for us unless we get a couple more families. I'm counting 5 families, me, Carrie, Annie, Katrina and JJ. If little annie could somehow swing it, we might be able to get two 3 bedroom cottages. Otherwise, there are condos like the ones we stayed in at Williamsburg. I think we can get various combos of bedrooms and lock offs, especially the earlier we book. I'm trying to find out when the season starts because it will be more then. It makes sense to me that it would be sometime at the end of May but it may start in April because it does get warm then. I remember sunbathing at the beach in February there.
I've sent an email to my mom so I'll let you know what she says when she answers me.

Sounds good. Keep us updated! 

[MarineWife]

Annie ~ That is amazing to me that you only spent $25 all weekend. Good for you!

We probably wouldn't spend much more at MB other than food/eating out. I would mostly want to lay on the beach. Oh, there is Alligator Adventure. We would have to do that. And maybe the Ripley's museum only because I always mean to go to one of those and never do. Has anyone been to a Ripley's museum? Is there really truly freaky stuff or is it all hype?

If I ever have time, I'm also going to check with the travel agency on base about houses down there to get an idea. Are we wanting to go for a whole week this time, 7 nights, or just another long weekend?

[Baby_Cakes]

I've been to Ripleys in Atlantic city. It was fun! Some neat stuff, some not. Worth it, i think it was only $7 or $10 to get in. And there are always coupons.

Not much on the plan today except Sam's club probably. Getting better here! I hope all of us and our babies are on the mend!

Oh - Lauri or Alysia - did either of you come across a die cast Tow Mater car? We can't find it and I was thinking it got tossed in with other toys? We can buy another one but if someone has it I'd like to stop looking! LOL!

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Edited by Baby_Cakes - 9/23/12 at 6:24am

[MarineWife]

Everyone here has a cold except Kellen, so far. DH is trying to disinfect everything and it's annoying me. I keep trying to move us to a more reusable home, cleaning with sponges and cloths that can be washed and reused. He insists on using those disinfectant wipes over and over. A waste of money and creation of unnecessary trash! Plus, it will result in the opposite effect of what he wants.

I was thinking Ethan and Kellen might have fun in Ripleys if it's truly weird stuff. If it's just the same stuff as other museums, maybe not so much. I think the one in MB is an aquarium type one. I remember something about a sand shark. Those things are ugly and freaky with the snaggletoothed mouths but we've seen one several times.

[AnnieA]

Baby_Cakes, I haven't seen Tow Mater but I'll look through Ava's toys again.

MW, I'll do some looking online this evening at work to compare house rentals.

I was thinking about vacations that we've done with the big kids and I didn't spend that much money either. I'm cheap. Like really, really cheap. When we went to Philly a few years ago over 4th of July, I would plan one thing per day that would cost us money. Otherwise, everything we did was a free activity. So for instance, one day, our non-free activity was getting ice cream at the Franklin Fountain. I packed our lunches, drinks and snacks, we ate dinner in the hotel room from stuff that I cooked and the hotel had a free breakfast every morning. Another day, our non-free activity was eating dinner out to get philly cheesesteaks. When we would go to Myrtle Beach, other than the gas to get there and back, we really didn't spend money. I would go to the grocery store and buy groceries for the week but I would have spent that money even if we stayed home. We used to have a traveling membership to our local children's museum and that would let us get in other children's museums and science museums for free. I'm going to start doing that membership again probably in the winter when Ava starts walking so she can enjoy our children's museum.  I don't buy souvenirs for the kids. When we go somewhere, we pick out a magnet from the gift shop for our door and that's it. They know not to ask for anything.

Ava is still sick. I'm sure it's just a matter of time before I get it. Still spiking a fever, vomiting and runny dipes. I try to hold off on the motrin until her fever gets above 102 but sometimes she starts moaning and is just miserable until I give her motrin to bring her fever down. Leaving her to go to work this morning was hard because even though she's convinced that her Dada hung the moon and stars just for her, when she's sick, she just wants me.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

Ava is still sick. I'm sure it's just a matter of time before I get it. Still spiking a fever, vomiting and runny dipes. I try to hold off on the motrin until her fever gets above 102 but sometimes she starts moaning and is just miserable until I give her motrin to bring her fever down. Leaving her to go to work this morning was hard because even though she's convinced that her Dada hung the moon and stars just for her, when she's sick, she just wants me.

 Poor baby girl!!  It's so hard when they are sick and you have to leave them.  So hard.  Ugh.  

I think I want to buy a video monitor. What one do you have?  I don't want to spend too much (DH won't go for it) but I'm starting to get nervous when Finn coughs or cries but then goes back to sleep on our bed.  I can't put a rail on our bed and he can't get down yet.  Is it worth the investment?

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

 Poor baby girl!!  It's so hard when they are sick and you have to leave them.  So hard.  Ugh.  

I think I want to buy a video monitor. What one do you have?  I don't want to spend too much (DH won't go for it) but I'm starting to get nervous when Finn coughs or cries but then goes back to sleep on our bed.  I can't put a rail on our bed and he can't get down yet.  Is it worth the investment?

For my peace of mind, yes, it's worth it. Ava doesn't always make noise when she wakes up and she's not good at getting off the bed yet by herself. Here's the one I have. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12818299 Maybe you could find a used one on craigslist? I think it would still be a good investment, especially if the next house you get is 2-story.

[Baby_Cakes]

Thanks!  That's practically the one I had in mind. 

http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12818299

 I'm starting to get nervous when Finn coughs or cries out but then falls back asleep on my bed.  I can't put a rail on it, and he can't get down off it yet.

I think I can use a coupon.  I'm thinking about just buying it.  Chris would be annoyed if I do it but I'm kind of at the point where he goes and buys power tools and computers and phones and nonsense all the time, and this is something that will really help me not worry.

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Thanks!  That's practically the one I had in mind. 

http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12818299

 I'm starting to get nervous when Finn coughs or cries out but then falls back asleep on my bed.  I can't put a rail on it, and he can't get down off it yet.

I think I can use a coupon.  I'm thinking about just buying it.  Chris would be annoyed if I do it but I'm kind of at the point where he goes and buys power tools and computers and phones and nonsense all the time, and this is something that will really help me not worry.

Yeah I'm sure you could find a 20% off coupon and if he buys power tools w/out consulting you, why not?

[AnnieA]

Wow, this condo is a great deal...http://www.vrbo.com/219238
 

[MarineWife]

Carrie ~ Go for it! I just bought a new laptop that dh did not want me to buy but I'm tired of mine crashing on me and the boys not being able to play games. He thinks I'm being overly indulgent by spending a little more for a computer that will play games better. Oh well.

We haven't seen Tow Mater but we keep a look out.

I hope Ava is better soon! So far, I'm not too bad. Just some throat and sinus pain and a headache. I do feel sort of hot and flushed but I haven't taken my temp so I don't know if I have a fever.

[MarineWife]

That is an awesome deal, Annie! Should we just book it?

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

That is an awesome deal, Annie! Should we just book it?

I don't know. I'd kind of like to see if there is a similar floor plan that we had in Williamsburg in the timeshares first. Looking at the common space in that condo, it might get cramped, you know? It was nice to have two kitchens and two living rooms. But if there isn't a similar floor plan, this condo seems like a good option.