That is a great deal! though I think if we are going to do a whole week, that more common space might come in handy.
I hope Ava is feeling better soon.
Rebellious teenagers . . . I don't think either my sister or I were particularly rebellious. There were things to rebel against - our parents weren't super strict, but they did have clear rules and expectations. She was probably more rebellious than I was, and if anything, mom was more lax with her. Chantelle just has always pushed boundaries and been difficult. I think some kids just are (regardless of parenting, to an extent). I also agree somewhat with the biblical proverb: raise up your child in the way they should go, and when the are old, they will not depart from it. Meaning, to me, that yes, kids are going to push boundaries, rebel a bit, maybe even depart entirely, but as we age, we tend to return to our roots. I want to give my kids a firm foundation, a good root system, to return to. I also want to encourage them to have wings, and explore - I want to be their safety net. It's such a hard balance though - even at this age, because I don't want to be that parent that hovers at the playground, I want Gabe (and Norah when she's ready) to try all the things they think they can, but I also want them to be safe.
I want them to always be free to tell me anything, but also have the freedom to have and keep secrets . . .I don't want to be their friend - not yet - I think that backfired on DH and MIL. right now their relationship is very strained (MIL's fault - she doesn't think sometimes). my mom and I weren't friendly at all growing up. I don't think we liked each other very much back then. But now - I can say that we are friendly. I don't hesitate to tell her things. I love our relationship now. IDK .. . I will need to think more. I agree only so much we do as parents can have the effect we want - we have to work with the children we are given, and some kids are more open than others. I am rambling.
Carrie: yes - 3 weeks until the beans are spilled! DH and MIL had a convo this weekend that left him reeling a bit. We were driving a scion xB - awesome gas mileage, just paid off, but it was tiny - it barely fit our 2 kids and a stroller, we didn't even have room for a big grocery trip. We got a great deal on that minivan, and she doesn't understand why we got it, and went into debt. Even without baby #3, we needed more space, really, really did. It's a way to rebuild credit after the bankruptcy. The car payment on that is less than what the xB was by far, and the insurance is less, so I know we can swing it. She just doesn't get it. DH said he has an opportunity to pick up some more massage clients, and instead of being happy that he would be getting more work, and therefore more $$, she seemed bothered that the money wouldn't go towards helping her with some of DH's car payment (long standing agreement that she'd pay for the car, and he'd pay for student loans) She can easily afford the car payment (and all the other stuff she needs and wants, she has a well paying job) - but acts like she's completely broke. It frustrates him to no end. Anyway. She is going to flip when she finds out. Which is why we are announcing it company vs one-on-one. I don't need that drama or negativity.
OK, that's enough of a book! LOL