I can appreciate why people would take their kids to the pedi first if they notice something off or even why the pedis ask developmental questions. Not everyone has been around little ones before and understand what's within tolerance and what may require intervention. I know we've talked about this before and we are not all in agreement about early intervention or intervention at all but having lived with my older brother all my life and witnessing his struggles and frustrations, that could have been greatly lessened by early intervention, I don't see the value in withholding it for issues that clearly need intervention. And there is also the group of people out there that need an authority figure (teacher, doctor, police officer, etc) tell them what's right and wrong in order for them to believe it. My DH's exwife is that way. Drives me crazy sometimes.
JJ, do you have a list-serve for a birth group or mama group? You could always post on there that you will do a couple of births for free just to get your name out there and gain experience. Also have you let your doula know? I am not currently taking on doula work but I get inquiries every now and again and I pass them along to other doulas that I know are working all the time.
AFM, Ava attended her first late night party last night and she did great! We went over to our friends' house and they have a 2 1/2 yr old so she had lots of stuff to play with. We played, had dinner, played some more and then she just hung out and played with the grownups after the 2 yr old went to bed. She did great! The mom remarked that if her 2 yr old was that quiet and calm, she would definitely be willing to have another. Ava loved having six grownups all to herself. She's such an attention whore!
Oh yes, very good distinction. If I thought something was up, then obviously I'd head to the doctor for a referral. I just don't think it makes sense for the Dr to be the one 'looking' for problem, kwim? They see them one day out of 365, so it's not a very good indicator, to me. But yes, when I see children who have obvious issues, and the parents decide to stick their head in the sand, that does drive me nuts.
I am part of a yahoo group for local birth, but it's very inactive. Like, one post every 2 months or so, and it's mostly other doulas, so very little chance of clients. I posted on there previously when I was attending births, and it's how I found my backup, but never any clients. And my doula isn't technically a doula, she's just attended a handful of births for friends, so she doesn't get any inquiries. I did think more about the co-op group though after writing about it in the last post. I think if we figure out the money thing and I don't have to go back to work, and money is still ok, then I might look into their 'training' and joining their group in a few months. My big thing was not wanting to put out the money, for something I'd rather do solo anyways... but... I could always do it for 6 months or so, gain some clients and word of mouth, and then maybe try to go solo again.
That sounds adorable with Ava. I love watching them grow up and get so social!