Hi all - so many new faces. I haven't been around in forever it seems.
I was looking for some advice/language about what you have in your custody agreements regarding out of state/overnight travel. We've been separated for 6 years, & he was involved with every other weekend, Wed nights, one trip on Labor Day weekend to visit family out of state - no more, no less. In our agreement it just says to provide an itinerary for out of state travel.
A little background...This has been the first summer that my x & I have alternated weeks (been apart for 7 years) & he's only ever taken her away for that Labor Day trip, but now with a new fiance he has begun traveling with dd (10 yo) & refusing to disclose the information to me. I wanted to keep it flexible since I like to travel with dd, sometimes last minute, but I've always provided details & contact info. He doesn't think that this is necessary. A couple of weeks ago I spoke to dd on the phone and she told me that they were leaving that day to go out of state for 5 days on a trip that was planned at least a month in advance. He emailed me where they were staying after I talked to dd.
He has become totally unreasonable and refuses to talk to me, about anything so I told him we have to go back to a mediator to hammer this issue out (which he doesn't want to do either until I pointed it out in our divorce agreement).
I want to be informed about where my dd is, but I also don't want to shoot myself in the foot my creating something so restrictive. For example, I don't want to put in consent of the other parent because I think he'll say no to things just to be difficult.
What do you all have in your agreements about travel?