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[pregnova]

okimom- I totally understand why you're not excited to have your FIL help out! I forget, but is it only a short while that your husband will be gone, or will he be gone for a while? If he's only going to be hard to reach, I'd totally just go with the emergency babysitter you might have found! It's probably worth it just to have that stress off your back!

Cindy- seriously, I'll be shocked if it's a boy. With ds, I had only one dream that dealt with his gender...before we found out, and in it, he was a girl. This time, I JUST had a dream where the gender of the baby was a boy! Which makes me feel even stronger that it'll be a girl. 

I FINALLY cleaned our bathroom...groan. NOT because I had any real urge to...more because it absolutely had to be done well before the birth and then just kept up with. Bleh. I'm glad it's done, but  yeah...no nesting instinct over here ;-)

[dannic]

Originally Posted by Vegan Princess 

Oh and Dannic and I are full term today!!!
 

That's right!!!!  We are!  YAY!  My house is getting closer to being in order and I am ssooooo glad.  DH wanted to replace the countertops and I said no, lol.  No.  I am done.  I just want it put back together so that I can get comfy in my own pad again and hopefully, have a baby in a week or so...lol.

The peaches are super good, but I have a yeast infection, so swore off all sugers, even fruit. =(  That's why I froze so many, lol.  I want some, too!  I have a box of gala apples as well, and the kids are really eating on them.  (I'm not so much an apple fan.)  My oldest son will eat 4 a day, lol. 

I"m glad for those of you that are feeling good again!  Soory about the constant BH, vegan.  I did that alot with my 3rd, but I really only get them when I get stressed and cry a ton or something.  This baby seems very happy and chill, lol.  He is by far my most wiggly baby...though that is slowing juuuust a bit as he (we) get bigger. 

I caught a glimpse of myself in a glass door and it's really no wonder I am getting comments, lol.  Somehow, my mirror doesn't portray me in quite that dimension...

What is everyone going to do to kill the time between now and babytime?  Once my house is in order, I am not doing a thing, lol...I'm going to be bored out of my mind.=)

[sillymom44]

Oh oki mom-- I feel so bad for you I could cry. How old are your children? Will your DH be there after baby is born? Maybe you don't need anyone at all?? I had no support with #2. Dh only took 3 days off bc he had just started great new job. I was alone until he got home. It was fine... Not ideal, but at least I wasn't crying and depressed. I just want to help you come up with a solution, but maybe u just need to vent. Sorry if I'm giving too much advice.


I Had my gbs test today and 35 week appt. My MW did and internal exam bc she couldn't figure out where the head was....it turns out that he has dropped and is on my cervix- which is soft and short. Yikes!! I was really hoping to make it to oct 19 ish, but...I'm happy as long as he is full term.

Feeling great and excited!!!!
Edited by sillymom44 - 9/14/12 at 4:49pm

[springmum]

Hi ladies! I'm way behind again!

Oki - that sounds like a really stressful situation for you. I would definitely go with the back up plan, no need for post partum stress like that, thing will be stressful enough!

Sorry I'm not going to do personals for everyone - I don't want to forget anyone and you guys have had a lot going on! The end is near and bringing the good and the interesting with our bodies for sure :)

I'm so excited about all you full-term ladies and everyone feeling lot's early action too! I wonder who will be our second DDC baby??

I'm really happy that our bed-rest mama's made it too - Chrisa and Zub right? That must be a huge relief!

I'm even more excited that I'm not that far along yet - just at 35 weeks...b/c I'm still not ready yet! I'm really excited to meet this little guy, but I have so many non-baby related things going on, that I'm only getting things together in bits and pieces, and the house is not organized yet...ugh! Also I really need to get more food in the freezer (I have one meal too!) otherwise we'll starve - DH is totally not going to be any help with cooking....

I'm feeling generally good most days over here. Every now and then I just feel awful, but the not sleeping is usually the culprit. In desperation I went to the home store to get a nice piece of foam to sleep on, and couldn't even stand in the section long enough to look at all the options - those things stink!!! Man are they ever toxic - they even come with a little note, saying the smell was "normal" and not harmful and just needs some airing out time.....uh, no thanks, I'll suffer through the hip pain instead. I've settled into a routine where I sleep sitting up, proped up by pillows for part of the night and that helps - I at least can sleep for a couple of hours like that. I"m a little worried that now this little guy likes to hang out posterior though - I have to be more concious of positions during the rest of the day.

I'm actually having way less BH than I did with DS. I used to get like 8 and hour sometimes with him from very early on. This time they are way more related to hydration and full bladder. We'll see what happens when I start the RRL next week (our midwives ask us to wait until 36 weeks b/c it's too stimulating for some)

I'm starting to feel like I'm totally unprepared for labour. I didn't labour with DS at all, so this is all new for me which is good and bad. I haven't taken a particular birthing method to heart, and kind of want to go with the flow - is that crazy? i do prenatal yoga which is great for breath work and body control, and I've read lot's of positive birth stories (I have Ina May's book) I have a very experienced doula, and I think I know what I want for pain management (TENS unit) should I be "practicing" anything? I know we're all different, I'm just having some last minute wondering about if I've forgotten to do something important to prepare - ha ha!

I can't believe our group will have some babies really soon - I hope this last stretch is good for everyone :)

[zubeldia]

HI all,

I'm going to try and remember what I meant to say to each of you.. but I don't hold out much hope!

Oki, yikes, I hadn't realized that things were that bad between you and your inlaws. Honestly, if it was me, I'd probably suck up the cost and try to find a reasonable sitter. It's a lot to expect you to have to have that negativity around you, especially when it's so directed at your family structure, when you're about to add to it. Is the neighbour a real possibility? Hope so much you can work it out without needing your FIL.

Silly, I'm sorry if i've forgotten if you've mentioned this before, but do you work in academia? I'm just wondering because your schedule is so similar to mine. My little boy is 3, too! I'm loving the age. They're so darn funny.

Preg, I have NO intuition whatsoever when it comes to the sex of my, or anyone else's for that matter, babies. Like Cindy, both times I was really sure we were having the opposite of what we are. I even had my little girl name picked out and found it a difficult adjustment to refer to the baby as 'he'! I honestly didn't mind either way (though there was an inkling of disappointment this time around, but just for a few days).

Cindy, glad you're feeling a little better. And congrats to you and Danic on making it to full term! I can't believe that we've almost made it. Frankly, this time last year I was very doubtful that we'd have another baby after our second loss so it's feeling somewhat miraculous. Were you in my original March 2012 due date club?

Springmum, I feel exactly the same way... so unprepared for birth. Also, I really want to meet this little guy but I'm also wanting the time to prepare and spend time with my son and husband after so long being on bed rest. It's such a paradox! The next few weeks will fly by, though.

AM: I am feeling pretty uncomfortable today... I eat a bite of something and I am sick to my stomach, My nausea and vomiting has never gone away but it's really increasing again and I'm a bit fed up because of it. I can't wait to eat and drink normally.I'm having quite a few contractions this evening but they're not overly painful and no pattern. I htink this boy will hold on a bit longer.

Are you guys planning more kids after this?

[OkiMom]

My MIL and hubby talked about it, it sounds like they honestly want to be a part of our lives and promised no negative comments.. She actually said she was sorry they weren't there for us when he was deployed and they want to make it up. This is part of them making it up to me, trying to be here now. Part of me wants to believe it and wants them to accept our children. I was super super close to my grandparents. My grandma filled in the role of mother for me when my own passed when I was a teen. I have so many wonderful memories of both my grandma and my father's parents and I seriously WANT that for my children. I want them to know a grandparents love. My Dad is so involved in his own life that while he isn't negative he just doesn't care either. It really saddens me that my children have no one to turn to when they want to talk to someone other than mom/dad. I always had my grandma or grandpa to turn to. Even if it meant calling at midnight I knew they would be there for me.. I wish I knew what was on their minds, if they really wanted to try Id be willing to forgive and forget the past. I never wanted a bad relationship with his family.

As for more children, we leave that up to the Lord. We both have prayed and agree that he has plans for us we don't know about yet.. It scares me in a way because Im a HUGE planner but I know its right for us.. My daughter already has a request in for another brother next.

[Vegan Princess]

Zub: Nope, not in the March DDC. My lost baby was due last december. I was feeling pretty down about the prospects of having another baby at this time last yr too. I don't think I'll full relax until she is here and I know she is healthy!! Sorry you are so sick! My morning sickness came back but it was never more than mild - really just an annoyance really. And nothing sounds good to eat these days so it's hard to keep eating healthy and enough.

This is likely our last baby. I honestly can't see going through the emotional turmoil I went through this time to get pregnant again. Nor can I see us paying to do IVF again a few yrs from now when our odds of success would be markedly lower. I suppose an oops baby could always happen though and I'm not too sure we would be overly upset about it. The only thing is, we live in a very high cost of living area. We have a 3 bedroom house but the 3rd bedroom is wayyyyy separate from the rest and not good for anyone except maybe a pre-teen on up. I can't imagine 3 kids in 1 room. I think we are happy with 2. But I do think that if we didn't have infertility, the decision might not be so cut and dried bc DH and I both come from families with 3 kids.

I saw some friends today at a book club that I hadn't seen since our last book club ended a few months ago. 2 of the moms are pregnantf for the 3rd time. Turns out one is expecting twins!! Naturally conceived. I have no idea what they are going to do - they live in a teeny tiny 2 bedroom. I can't see 4 kids sharing a room. So I don't know if they plan to move or just deal. I guess babies stay with mom and dad for a long time anyway. Anyway, I am just always surprised to meet people having more than 2 kids around here - its' not that common!

Silly: Are you dliated at all? I know that even if you are dilated a bit you can hang out that way for weeks. So hopefully baby stays in for ya a while longer!

Cindy

[zubeldia]

Aw, Oki, sounds so difficult. I suppose I would try and give them the benefit of the doubt and accept the help, if you think the apology is sincere. Of course sincerity doesn't necessarily transform into permanent change but it does sounds as though they've thought about how they've acted and want things to be different. We don't have much of a relationship with my inlaws. DH's mum died 18 years ago, just before we met, and his parents were divorced. His dad and stepmum are next to useless and have sent their grandson one birthday and one Christmas present in 3 years. Rarely do we get a phone call and in 11 years of us living in the States they've not once made the trip over, even though we've invted them and when we return to the UK we travel up and down the country trying to see everyone. My own lovely dad died last year and so it's just my mum, who lives in Spain, and while we're in regular daily contact she is not in the least bit maternal and is slightly crazy (actually she likely has a few diagnoses!!!). There's a reason we live overseas! But I am very sad, too, that our sons will have so few people in their lives who are actually family. My sis and her kids are really our closest relatives... and basically the only sane ones :)

We're with you, Cindy, on it being doubtful that we'll have a third. While it isn't horrifically expensive to live here it is definitely not cheap. We have a 4 bedroom house but the boys will share, but it's the other upgrades - including cars, daycare costs, etc. And then college... and trips back to Europe. And honestly I don't know that i could go through a) another loss, b) another pregnancy given the hyperemesis and then, this time, the preterm labor scare. I think it might put my husband over the edge!

But that said, I also can't imagine saying "we're definitely done". I'm not young, but also I think we could wait a few years and closer to 40 we could revisit the question.

[Chrisa]

Maybe it's the lack of sleep, but I don't see the announcement thread.

My baby boy Daniel was born on 9/12, at 36w4d. Despite EVERYONE's evaluations pointing he was large for his GA (ultrasounds, palpation by two doctors and a midwife in the last 2 weeks), he was so tiny, only 5lbs 4.5 oz. Had a complicated birth, unfortunately (baby was OP, had a partial placenta abruption, and he came out limp, not breathing. After 2 hours in NICU he was fine, and they sent him to my room. We're struggling with breastfeeding and keeping him awake for feeding, but, other than that, he is completely normal, healthy and a joy.

[sillymom44]

Baby Daniel!!  Congratulations Chrisa!  I am so happy that he is doing well!  I hope that in your sleep deprived state you can post pictures soon!!!  Sorry to hear about your stressful birth, but it sounds like everything is good in the end!

Zub-- I wish I was in academia.  I am a speech pathologist in the school system (I love my career, but the school system is not my passion).  I plan to work my way into academia eventually, I just don't want to pursue a doctorate anytime soon.  Sometimes there are Master's level teaching positions or clinical positions though.

Vegan-- She didn't mention dilation, so I am assuming no, and I didn't ask (I don't like knowing if I am dilated b/c I was dilated several cm with baby #1 for 3 1/2 weeks!!.  You can imagine what that was like).  The 2nd time around I chose not to find out and did much better.  She said she could have pushed through to the head, but she didn't want to mess around with my cervix until 37 weeks.  The difference this time around is that I really hope that I make it to around 40 weeks.  I really really hope for that...but I am mentally preparing for anytime between 37-40 and just remembering it is out of my hands and I want the baby to come when he is ready and not when I am ready.  I really am trying to focus on that!!   I just have so much to do at work to prepare for leaving and I feel like I am not prepared mentally for labor yet.

Oki-- it sounds like you are working through this mentally!  I hope that you are feeling better.  I will pray for you.

Springmum-- Ditto...I feel just like you.  But, like I was saying before, I am trying very hard to focus on our baby and I know that I will be ready when he comes.  That gives me peace!  I had the same converastion with another mom at my prenatal yoga class.  She felt the same exact way....and then delivered 3 days later at 38 weeks....  :)

We do want to have one more baby biologically.  But, I am 36 and it took 1 1/2 yrs to get pregnant with this baby.  I hope to get pregnant again, but not sure how many years I am willing to try this time around.  I really don't see myself getting pregnant after age 37...but previously I said no more after age 35 (even though I was 35 when I got pregnant)....  I just worry about chromosonal abnormalities, which is slightly irrational, but I have spend much of my career working with infants and toddlers with special needs so it's very real to me.

I am finding that most of my shirts do not fit over my belly anymore....anyone else in this situation?  At 35 weeks I hate to buy more clothes.  I did find a dress today at our consignment shop, but I think I am going to have to break down and buy several more shirts.  I find I am in a much better mood if I feel good about myself.  LOL  I have the opposite problem of most of you...I am always hungry and have gained at least 45 pounds at this point.  It is really depressing if I think about it, but I know I will lose it all like last 2 times.

[sillymom44]

Baby Daniel!!  Congratulations Chrisa!  I am so happy that he is doing well!  I hope that in your sleep deprived state you can post pictures soon!!!  Sorry to hear about your stressful birth, but it sounds like everything is good in the end!

Zub-- I wish I was in academia.  I am a speech pathologist in the school system (I love my career, but the school system is not my passion).  I plan to work my way into academia eventually, I just don't want to pursue a doctorate anytime soon.  Sometimes there are Master's level teaching positions or clinical positions though.

Vegan-- She didn't mention dilation, so I am assuming no, and I didn't ask (I don't like knowing if I am dilated b/c I was dilated several cm with baby #1 for 3 1/2 weeks!!.  You can imagine what that was like).  The 2nd time around I chose not to find out and did much better.  She said she could have pushed through to the head, but she didn't want to mess around with my cervix until 37 weeks.  The difference this time around is that I really hope that I make it to around 40 weeks.  I really really hope for that...but I am mentally preparing for anytime between 37-40 and just remembering it is out of my hands and I want the baby to come when he is ready and not when I am ready.  I really am trying to focus on that!!   I just have so much to do at work to prepare for leaving and I feel like I am not prepared mentally for labor yet.

Oki-- it sounds like you are working through this mentally!  I hope that you are feeling better.  I will pray for you.

Springmum-- Ditto...I feel just like you.  But, like I was saying before, I am trying very hard to focus on our baby and I know that I will be ready when he comes.  That gives me peace!  I had the same converastion with another mom at my prenatal yoga class.  She felt the same exact way....and then delivered 3 days later at 38 weeks....  :)

We do want to have one more baby biologically.  But, I am 36 and it took 1 1/2 yrs to get pregnant with this baby.  I hope to get pregnant again, but not sure how many years I am willing to try this time around.  I really don't see myself getting pregnant after age 37...but previously I said no more after age 35 (even though I was 35 when I got pregnant)....  I just worry about chromosonal abnormalities, which is slightly irrational, but I have spend much of my career working with infants and toddlers with special needs so it's very real to me.

I am finding that most of my shirts do not fit over my belly anymore....anyone else in this situation?  At 35 weeks I hate to buy more clothes.  I did find a dress today at our consignment shop, but I think I am going to have to break down and buy several more shirts.  I find I am in a much better mood if I feel good about myself.  LOL  I have the opposite problem of most of you...I am always hungry and have gained at least 45 pounds at this point.  It is really depressing if I think about it, but I know I will lose it all like last 2 times.

[springmum]

Chrisa - Welcome baby Daniel!! So sorry that it was rough start, hopefully it's all behind you and smooth sailing from here :) Hope you can get some rest.

[Vegan Princess]

Chrisa: Congratulations!!!! Yay!!!! I'm sorry for the scary birth but glad baby is healthy and fine now. My 38 weeker was pretty sleep at first too and i recall it being so frustrating. That is one of my biggest concerns about baby coming now - I want her to stay in so she is a strong nurser when she comes! And you didn't miss the Welcome Babies thread - no one started one yet. Can't wait to see pictures of your sweet newborn!

I'll start a welcome babies thread tomorrow when I start a new weekly chat thread. But it may sink down in the list if no one posts on it for a bit. Also, I don't mind starting the thread, but I def don't plan on updating the first page with the birth of every single baby! So if anyone wants an updated list, feel free to start the thread and take charge on your own. :-)

Cindy

[UnderTheOldOakTree]

Congratulations Chrisa!  and welcome Baby Daniel!  Glad he is doing well and with you now!

[pregnova]

CONGRATULATIONS Chrisa! I'm sorry the birth was a bit scary! But how exciting to have your baby earthside and healthy!!!

Sillymom- I totally am with you on nothing fitting! This belly is SO low, that most of my shirts, including maternity, show skin now...and the dresses I do have make it look as though I'm wearing a tent! bah! I do have one Maxi skirt that I can hike up higher so that my shirts can ride up without showing belly skin, but beyond that, I'm pretty frumpy looking. We started getting cooler weather here, so I'm actually contemplating wearing some of dh's shirts in the coming weeks because I also find it a bit annoying to need to buy shirts this late in the game! 

[Vegan Princess]

I have the belly issue with a lot of my shirts. One solution is to buy some mens hanes white undershirts - the tank top type ones. Wife beaters I think they're called. And wear them underneath your other shirts. I find that the tank is long enough to cover and it isn't too thick or bulky - but probably wouldn't work anywhere having hot weather right now. Our weather is kinda warm so I am mostly just wearing the few shirts that still work or the few dresses I find super comfy. I'm over wearing anything not completely comfortable.

My issue right now is I can't stand anything constricting around my rib cage at all. I have bra extenders but they still kinda bug me. So I've been wantig to go braless alot lately. Not always possible though!

Cindy

[micromama]

Congratulations Chrisa!!!!!!

Sillymom: I've gained 45 pounds too. I don't care one bit I gained 45 with DD too and it all came off without trying. I think it is just what my body does. I literally can't stop the rapid gain in the first T... Both times, I gained 12 or 13 pounds there alone. So yes, I am having that shirt problem too!

[forumyonly1]

Congratulations Chrisa!!!!!! I Hope he wakes up for you soon and nursing goes smoother for you and your little peanut!!!

[springmum]

Add me to the 45 lb weight gain club - ha ha! I gained that with DS too and my diet is way healthier this time (I"'ve been on a no sugar diet this pregnancy) and I'm able to exercise more. So this must be what my body requires too - although it does make me wonder just how heavy this baby is going to be....I can still wear all my pre-preg yoga style pants, so the weight is hiding somewhere (def. Not in the boobs!)

The shirt situation is so annoying! I also don't want to go buy more shirts, but it's too cool for my tanks and too hot for long sleeves - I'm just going to keep rotating the few that I have that cover.

Vegan - I've been bra free for a long time (except when really necessary), and still am most of the time (boobs are still pretty small, so no one can tell anyway). I just layer and tank under whatever shirt I'm wearing - it's much more comfortable.

[Aurora]

Congrats Chrisa! Welcome sweet baby Daniel!