I have a 2yr and a 7 months old son. He has suddenly taken a fear for slides. He does get on most of the rides but the other day when he went to a theme park he refused to play in the play structure and refused to get on the slides. I usually encourage him a lot, give him support and tell him not to get scared. My husband on the other hand gives up easily on him and becomes irritated with him due to my sons fears and calls him a wimpy kid. It hurts me as a mother but i keep quite. The other children half his age are able to climb so easily and are not scared at all. i am not sure what i am doing wrong. I am expecting my second kid and because of a recent layoff this pregnancy has been quite stressful. I try to take him to parks and try to get him on the play structure but once he gets on the top he chickens out. My husband is of not much help in this matter. So its up to me keep motivating him. But after so many trys still he seems to frightened and it is getting overwhelming for me. Please tell me what is the right way to approach this. The other day when we went to a theme park my son got on almost all the rides except on one which he didn't like and he said so. But my husband pushed him to do it saying that he is such a wimpy kid (before that they went to the play structure and my son was not interested and he got irritated with him). Finally my son cried so much that i pulled him out of that ride. I don't like pushing him into things he does like or feel safe. But did i do the right thing?. Should i have put him in the ride in spite of his crying. Please tell me what to do. I am finding parenting to be overwhelming and going into a depression. I am not sure if i am overreacting and trying hard to push my son.
My son is otherwise a very normal kid. Verbally he is excellent. He listens to commands though he does act stubborn sometimes. He runs around a lot. Very mobile kid but his fine motor skills haven't developed up to the mark.
My other concerns are he still won't learn to write. Though scribbles a lot. I read a lot to him, but he is not interested in learning words. He does knows his alphabet. He does count from 1 to 20. Though i am teaching him to count the no. of items, sometimes he get counts them correctly other times he is not even interested in counting.....If there are 3 items he tells there are 6 .....and runs off to play. Am i expecting too much from my son. I have a autistic nephew and he is a genius and physically very active. And everyone in the family compares him to my son and they sort of praise him to the sky's and say my son is an unmotivated and a lazy kid. All this easily depresses me and cry when i am alone. And since its a big family and in-laws stay with us I have put up with this crap everyday.
Please help me out. Is it my overactive hormones during pregnancy which are acting up or how concerned should i be. Please give the right approach to deal with this, as i am lost. Will my son not be academically good. I know he will not be a topper or a great athlete but at least i don't want him to be scared of silly thing like slides and other stuff.
Any advice appreciated.