Weekly Chat ~ September 3rd - 9th - Page 10
I don't flush the pee at night either! I would flush about 19 times if I did that.
I suppose I feel a little better today. I still can't talk so if I were to go into labor, it would be a quiet one. LOL My ears are all plugged up and I still can't breathe out of my nose without the spray but I no longer feel like I was hit by a bus. I do feel like I could manage labor and this cold now... maybe.
I have been losing my plug for about a week now... I had some very uncomfortable uterus things going on last night but it didn't turn into anything.
Hopefully we'll get some more babies here soon!!!!
A favorite quote of mine from Birthing from Within:
"Soldiers are trained to give everything in battle. They expect to return from war grimy, sweaty, disheveled, and sometimes bloody; it's their badge of honor. Likewise, a gutsy football or baseball player who ends the game wearing a uniform caked with mud is perceived as having given his all. Some cultures (but not ours) honor women in the same way when they return from battling in the trenches of labor.
Wouldn't it be great if childbirth teachers and health professionals instilled that same tough mindset in mothers and fathers? Rather than promoting the reassuring, but unlikely, illusion of being comfortable and relaxed in labor, teachers should help mothers and fathers muster the courage and determination to get through it. That's why Birthing from Within works at helping couples prepare to face the rigors of "battling with nature", without fleeing the battle field when the going gets tough. Here's how we do it:
First, we help mothers experience themselves as a part of a larger whole, a link in the chain of mothers throughout time...
Second, we explain that to give birth with power, without drugs, means having to go to the edge, and beyond.
Third, we point out that the hospital "battlefield", in striving to be sterile and clean, inadvertently sends a confusing message to women giving birth. Birth Warriors don't stay clean, together, made-up, and poised.
Finally, mothers must make a heart-felt commitment: Not to birth "normally", but to give it their all, moment-by-moment. Once they've done that, to then be okay with whatever happens."
"There are three things that are givens about labor: It's hard work, it hurts a lot, and you can do it. That's the bottom line. All the rest you learn is icing on the cake."
I had a dream the other night where I lost my mucus plug, and it was hilarious, just epic amounts of goo. Of course, I'm one of those people that's totally into all the gross aspects of pregnancy, so in the dream I thought it was great. Obviously it's not going to be like that, but I'm really kind of hoping I get to see what it's actually all about. (We've been in moderate "let it mellow" mode too- with the number of times I've peed during the last nine months, I would just not feel good about the water usage if I flushed every. single. time I went.)
I am having BH pretty frequently at this point- we watched a movie last night and I was surprised to realize how many times it happened in the span of a couple of hours. Getting them when I sit up or roll over in bed, too. I still usually don't feel them unless I actually have my hand on my stomach to feel her balled up.. did have a noticeable one in church today though. Lots of practice! My uterus is apparently much more of a fitness junkie than I am. ;)
Well, I just checked my cervix in the shower just now and I am damn near 100% effaced and very, very low - I could actually feel that velvety bag of waters! So surreal! Although I would describe it as feeling the skin of a dolphin. LOL Still at about 6 cm. I could also feel the baby's head. At least that's what I assume the hard ball thing was.
I am slightly worried to leave my house. I know it's probably unlikely to have yet another less than 30 minute birth but I was 5 cm dilated and 80% effaced with days of contractions the day before that birth, too...
I'm glad that things are happening regardless of no labor in sight. I haven't heard back from the birth pool people to see if I can have the pool longer yet. I hope they are feeling generous.
That's exciting Maman! I have tried finding my cervix several times this pregnancy - but even the midwife when she checked me 3 weeks ago said I was "high and dry" lol - so I guess it was fairly posterior. Well, I'm pretty sure I found my cervix for the first time last night. I'm still not exactly sure what I'm feeling but its very mushy/soft and low.. and I did not have to go very far in to find it, which I think means that it is now anterior, right? It seems promising to me but since I am really not experienced at this, I'm not exactly sure yet how to feel for the dilation/effacement accurately lol.
Alli, you will do just fine! My first birth experience was harder I think because I was NOT expecting a certain level of pain. What made it hard was back labor, because it made it hard to discern and time contractions - and I thought as labor progressed the pain would as well.That wasn't the case though, the pain didn't get worse - it just started out fairly intense because of the back labor pains and the fear of the pain getting worse was what really got me in a panic. As labor continued I did in fact get acclimated to the situation and those lovely endorphines kicked in. From what you have described you are going to have an amazing support team around you and that is so important. My mother was the calming influence/supportive voice for me until my own endorphines kicked in :).
That's so exciting Maman!
Homeschooling week 2 starts tomorrow... this week's theme is the family. (I have a 4.5yo and 2.5yo and use Little Acorn Learning). Circle time discussions consist largely of discussing family, family members, roles, etc. I know there will be a lot of "new baby" talk from both DDs. How fitting that this would be our subject, lol. I kind of hope baby isn't born this week because there are some reallly awesome crafts planned that I don't really want to postpone!
Thank you everyone for the positive affirmations. I am a nervous nellie as well, even though I know 100% that this is what I know is right and where my heart lies (to have a home vbac). I have read "Birthing from Within" and just finished Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and before that read "Birth Matters", in addition to "Painless Childbirth" and "Hypnobirthing", so I do have positive stories to draw upon... just facing the reality that its going to be soon! Eeeek!
PS- Just bought a velcro towel from sears for $9 on sale. Thought it would be good as like a birthing skirt and for getting in and out of the shower and tub.
I'm having the most piddly widdly little baby contractions but I just wanted to share. DH and I DTD today for the first time in like 6 months (this was a rough pregnancy) and it was really uncomfortable with the baby being at +1 station, I kept feeling her being pushed up under my ribs. But I'm all for trying anything gentle for labor stimulation at this point. I also did a whole day of homeopathics, caulophyllum, cimicifuga, and pulsatilla, taken every hour. And I had a nap. And I ate chocolate.
Well, I'm not holding my breath that "this is it" but maybe it's something helpful? Tomorrow I have my first acupuncture appt. for labor stimulation this pregnancy. I will be 40+4 tomorrow and I just want to be proactive. I don't want to start panicking at 41 weeks that my midwife is about to go on vacation and my mom is about to leave, plus I don't want to go through the whole NST/AFI every few days thing, and I for sure do not want to take castor oil....(after living through hyperemesis I would be happy if I never vomited again in my whole life) or especially have a hospital induction! So I'm trying the most gentle things first. I bounced on a birth ball for an hour yesterday...
And RE: cervix finding...I'm a midwife! I've felt and found hundreds of cervixes. I could find mine easily in early pregnancy. But now? There is no way, though I try daily, I admit. I am amazed that some of you can reach it. And I am super amazed that Maman is 6cm. I would be so pleased if I knew I was walking around that far open already!
that is interesting! I said "I change my mind about this baby thing!" during my birth during transition in the middle of a really strong contraction- I meant it as a joke but I couldn't quite deliver it properly and I saw everyone in the room get that uh-oh look.. as soon as my contraction was over I said it was supposed to be a joke!
Interesting thought I ran across- While reading Active Birth: The New Approach to Giving Birth Naturally, there was a brief discussion of that "I don't think I can do this anymore" moment. From most people I have spoken with about their specific birth stories, it seems like it is nearly universal to reach the point where you think you can't do it any more. Seems to happen during transition, shortly before crowning. The book mentions that it may be an important moment where our bodies need to release some adrenaline, which may help the pushing stage and/or preparing the baby to breathe. After my first two birth experiences, and talking to friends, I decided that this was an inevitable part of the process, and it is really helpful for me to think that it is important hormonally.
May I suggests Googling "Emotional Signposts of Labor"? I think you'll find it really interesting and helpful.
Ive been feeling some contractions for the last hour. Like Nukuspot... Im not holding my breath yet. It started with feeling prolonged cervical stabbing before I correlated the contrations with the stabbing. I think Ive gotten so used to BH I kind of ignore contractions!
Im googling the emotional signposts of labor now.
PS- Im 40+4 as well.
I'm 40w1d. Bouncing on my yoga ball (which totally needs a bit more air added... but... I'm on it right now at the computer and not moving... it *does* make it a bit tricky to type and bounce -- especially with a headache -- but to hell with it, I'm will to do a lot at this point).
I googled the emotional signposts and found them to ring quite true. I know with dd3 and dd4 (my non-pain-medicated births), I reached the "I CAN'T DO THIS!" point and was assured (by nurses with dd3 and my midwife with dd4) that I *could* and I *was* doing it already. I'm hoping to have the attitude help007 describes and when that point arrives when I think I cannot go any farther, I hope to realize that I *NEED* to reach that point and it means GOOD things!! I want to be able to surrender to the feeling to move through it.
I'm hoping all your contractions really are the real deal, activealli!!
I'm feeling a whole lot of nothing today. Except hot. It was back in the mid-90s again today. I'm over this heat. I'd be happy to have a baby born tomorrow with a lovely birthday of 9-10. (I still don't want 9-11). If not tomorrow, then Wednesday... 9-12-12 would be okay I guess. I like repeating numbers and patterns. But... clearly nobody (certainly not this baby) has consulted me because I've wanted to be holding this baby in my arms now for quite a while ;)
I am also getting tired of not sleeping. Last night I didn't get to sleep until 3 a.m. and had to be up by 6:30a,.m. And then I couldn't even take a nap later?!? I TRIED! And this has been going on for a while now. It actually has me kind of worried about whenever I finally *do* go into labor and whether I'll have the energy/stamina to make it work without falling into complete exhaustion. *sigh* I really want one good night of sleep before this birth. (I feel whiny tonight... blame it on lack of sleep!)
(I think this baby won't come out because it might just be a girl.... and I still have no girl name picked out... hardly even have a list of names I like well enough to consider... )
Other things I've completed in hopes of thinking, "Oh yeah, _____ is why baby won't come out! I need to do that!":
-- painted my toenails
-- gathered birth kit supplies all in one place (except I don't have a lid on the bin... that must be holding up the process)
-- washed baby clothes
-- washed diapers
-- made more diapers
-- made plenty of nursing pads (but could always use more?)
-- actually caught up on laundry for our family for 0.7 seconds
--- bought a few frozen pizzas (what? we'll need to eat more than that? Fine.. guess I need more food)
-- found the nursing pillow
... see... I've *tried* to make things enticing... but.. the food thing is probably a deal-breaker. Looks like I'll be grocery-shopping tomorrow in hopes of making things happen ;)
(cleary end-of-pregnancy messes with my head. Two posts in a row, one kind of whiny/negative, and the one RIGHT AFTER IT is comical of sorts... Jekyll/Hyde, I swear).