I don't know if this is in the right place.
I am still nursing my 15 month old and plan on doing so until about 2. It's going fine and I think its necessary since DS refuses to drink cow's milk and would just fill up on water (he LOVES water) if I stopped nursing. He's had some weight gain issues so I worry about that.
The problem is that I cannot stand any kind of foreplay involving my breasts. It's been negatively affecting our sex life. Our marriage is very rocky and we are both trying to work on it by making a conscious effort to meet each other's needs more. DH has been doing great, but I know one of his primary needs is a satisfying sex life and I feel like it's hard to give him that when I take away his favorite thing.
Anyway, he's brought up weaning several times and he usually agrees when I tell him my reasons to wait until 2. But it keeps coming up and it's this cloud hanging over us.
We believe that the relationship between man and wife is the primary relationship in a family and so I feel like that should take precedence. But I don't know how I would even go about weaning without DS losing calories. And he will probably be our only child so I hate the idea of weaning prematurely.
If there was a way to not feel so uncomfortable with foreplay that would be ideal. I thought about using some benzocaine on my nipples before sex since DS STTN long enough for it to wear off. Crazy or are there some other ideas?