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post #141 of 208

I got ahold of the OB today, finally, and they sent me for an US to make sure of dates. According to the US, I am 8w6d instead of the 9w4d I thought, but I was pretty close. :) I have my first appointment with the nurses on Oct. 1st for family history and stuff, and then I'll start seeing the OB when I'm 14 weeks. I'm really upset that I can't see the midwives, that they don't do VBACs. I'm not terribly familiar with Midwives, but it seems they would be more welcoming of VBAC than an OB...

post #142 of 208
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Originally Posted by bmcneal View Post

I'm really upset that I can't see the midwives, that they don't do VBACs. I'm not terribly familiar with Midwives, but it seems they would be more welcoming of VBAC than an OB...

 

 

I am surprised by that too. Don't let it get you down though. You can have a great VBAC at a hospital with an OB too as long as you choose your OB carefully. Do you have an ICAN group near you? When I was preparing for my first VBAC I started to go to the ICAN group closest to me and I am so thankful I did. The women there were so motivating and full of good info. I don't know what I would have done without them. I have been going to the monthly meetings ever since. Now I am getting ready for my second VBAC and might be changing OB's and I know that I can rely on the moms there to give me good doctor recommendations.

 

Care providers that don't support VBAC blow my mind. The evidence that it is safe is all out there! Do things sometimes happen? Yes, but things go wrong in non-VBAC births too. That's just life. Nothing is 100% "safe" from possible problems and complications. 

post #143 of 208
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My symptoms seem to pretty much have disappeared, especially the nausea. I'm okay with this but hope that doesn't mean something isn't right. It's hard to remind yourself that this is usually normal and the nausea goes away. I'm 11w1d so it's very possible that is what's happening. 

post #144 of 208
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I am surprised by that too. Don't let it get you down though. You can have a great VBAC at a hospital with an OB too as long as you choose your OB carefully. Do you have an ICAN group near you? When I was preparing for my first VBAC I started to go to the ICAN group closest to me and I am so thankful I did. The women there were so motivating and full of good info. I don't know what I would have done without them. I have been going to the monthly meetings ever since. Now I am getting ready for my second VBAC and might be changing OB's and I know that I can rely on the moms there to give me good doctor recommendations.

 

Care providers that don't support VBAC blow my mind. The evidence that it is safe is all out there! Do things sometimes happen? Yes, but things go wrong in non-VBAC births too. That's just life. Nothing is 100% "safe" from possible problems and complications. 

 

With DS, I had a VBAC. It was with an OB, and he was pretty decent, but he and I didn't agree on things, and his bedside manner left a lot to be desired. He tried to get me to admit to the hospital at 40 weeks, because I needed to be induced. I convinced him to let me just come in every three-ish days for non-stress tests and BPP, and he let me go to 41 weeks 5 days, but every visit, he asked me if I had my bags packed in the car, because I was going to the hospital. He kept asking me why I wanted to have a VBAC so bad, and I told him that I knew my body was capable, and that VBAC would be better for me and DS, and that recovery would be better. (It was, we left the hospital and went to Sam's Club. :P )

post #145 of 208
I love hearing how everyone is doing.

Bmcneal, I hope you find a vbac support group near you!

I had a super, super quick ultrasound about 10 days ago, just to check for placement and that there was just the one baby. The due date I calculated was April 11, and the ultrasound came up with April 12. Not bad!

I see a group of just a few (but wonderful!) DEMs, and had my first appt with them four days ago. I just love these women, and how they *listen* to everything I say and really respect it.

I'm also in the "round, but not pregnant-looking" category now, but I am so loving the maternity clothes and the feeling of being 11+ weeks along.

I hope the ms is clearing for everyone...and those of us who are wipedout two hours after waking up, I hope we can escape the fatigue soon!

Love, p
post #146 of 208

sorry I've been MIA...all is ok but m/s is kicking my butt! 

 

kellykins I wanted to share that homeopathic Arnica 30c really helped with my sch.  I took it for almost 3 weeks every 2-3 days whenever the pain/cramping came back.  It has been fine ever since and my repeat u/s at 9w showed the baby bigger than the sch (it looked a little smaller too but I don't have measurements).  I am 11w now and haven't had bleeding since 5.5w and have been able to slowly increase activity (still taking it easy and not lifting but I am able to go for slow walks and do some chores). 

post #147 of 208

I'm pretty sure my ms is starting to let up but now I have a cold or something which is also making me very tired and grumpy! Hopefully it passes quickly. I hope the rest of you are able to avoid the "sick" season this year.
 

post #148 of 208
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I'm pretty sure my ms is starting to let up but now I have a cold or something which is also making me very tired and grumpy! Hopefully it passes quickly. I hope the rest of you are able to avoid the "sick" season this year.

 

DD just started preschool, so no such luck for us. Can't avoid those school germs. She missed most of her second week of school and I've been battling a cold constantly.
post #149 of 208
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I'm pretty sure my ms is starting to let up but now I have a cold or something which is also making me very tired and grumpy! Hopefully it passes quickly. I hope the rest of you are able to avoid the "sick" season this year.
 

 

I tend to have a cold my whole pregnancy, or at least a stuff nose. Defense mechanisms, but I hate it. I have a post nasal drip now that is making me soooo sick.

 

My nausea is not getting better, I'm only 9weeks, but my fatigue has let up a bit. Now instead of being exhausted all day, I just crash at 8pm or so.

 

I am a vegetarian but have found that eating meat, at least once a day, has helped a ton with the nausea. I hate eating meat right now, but I feel its what my body needs since I am craving protein like crazy. While I know I can get my protein from other sources, they haven't been working as well. Hopefully once my nausea goes away, I can stop with the meat.

post #150 of 208

Yup we have a cold here too!  Our kids know how to be careful with washing hands, touching face, etc. while out...but with 5 kids it just takes one to snag a bug and we're doomed!  LOL

 

We are planning on getting the flu shot this year which is a very first for us.  :S  However given our circumstances we feel this is the best choice this time around.  While my Mom was sick we stepped back from a lot of outside activities to avoid influenza...so we haven't been exposed to it at all for years (including h1n1).  There's no doubt my littlest ones will pick up something from church so we feel getting the shot is the lesser of the risks. 

post #151 of 208

Hey everyone... glad to hear ms is letting up for some of you!  Greenlea, I have the stuff nose too!  I've been drinking hot water with lemon in the morning to help with my nausea and it seems to help the stuffy nose too.

 

I am in a terrible mood today.  My cats are driving me crazy....  I feel like keeping the house clean is a losing battle with them around.  Our apartment is so small and money is so tight right now that I feel like I have no options.  I am allergic to cats but normally I keep that at bay by keeping things clean and washing my hands.  I don't know if I am more sensitive because of being pg or its just the house is getting so dirty, but I have a stuffy nose and itchy face all the time now.  And we are also battling fleas, which they got because my cat managed to escape into the attic a few times over the summer to fight squirrels and rats (EW).  So, we've been treating for fleas using DE, some stuff from target, and trying to keep up with the cleaning (which has been tough).... and I'm on the verge of doing a flea bomb because I found hundreds of larva under a table where my cats sit.  So disgusting. 

 

I have also been on the phone with the vet to find out how much it would cost to get my cat (the one that likes to escape) tested for a bladder infection.  She pees on everything.  She's been doing it sporadically for years and I suspect it is mostly behavioral/territorial/stress related but we have to rule everything out, I guess.  Her previous owners let her remain in heat for months before I convinced them to have her spayed.  They were going to keep her kittens and give her to the pound, so I said I would take her because I felt bad that she would probably be put down.  She did great with me at first.  Once, a roommate brought in some other animals for a friend (like... alot... like 25 of them.. dogs, cats, birds... etc) and of course even though they were behind a closed door in the giant house we were renting, my cat knew they were there and got mad and peed all over my bed. 

 

So anyhow, DP has a cat too (which, incidentally he got because an ex gf - who was an ex at the time she did this - got him "surprise cats"....) and that cat is kind of gross but not really messy.  Oh, once upon a time I used to love those cats and dote on them like they were babies.  Now I can't stand the sight of them.  They have been living together as long as me and DP have been living together, and the cats love each other,  and did great at first (no fighitng and no peeing from my cat) because the first apartment we lived in was quite large.  But, it was not lead-safe, and DD had elevated lead levels.  So in order to afford something lead-safe and pet friendly we had to move into a much smaller space. 

 

Now, I think the long time in such a small space is really getting to them.  And to me.  We've already gotten a second litter box for her and keep it very clean with just the kind of soft litter she likes, and that helps, but occasionally she seems to get annoyed and then just spite stress pee on our clothes.  I am so sick of doing all this extra laundry because of her.  (Our W/D is coin op and then this causes me to not have enough quarters to get the laundry done.  So then it has to sit there and stink.)  Sick of having to throw otherwise perfectly good stuff away because I can't get the pee out.  Sick of putting my shoes on and realizing that at some point the cat peed on them.  I hope that the vet can help.  I was crying this morning because I feel like I can't deal with her any more, but no one else wants her and if I take her to a shelter she is sure to be put down.  I have been telling everyone I know that she needs a new home, preferably some place where she can safely go outside.  I think she would be so happy and such an amazing pet for someone if she had the right environment.  We just can't be it right now.  She needs more space than she has with us, and our lease isn't up for another year.  And even then I'm not sure we will be able to afford to move.  :(  Our living environment is completely disgusting to me right now because I cannot keep up with her, and DP has been working extra hours because we need the money.  I am so worried about what we will do with a new baby.   I just don't know what to do.

post #152 of 208

I am just frustrated all around. The fall weather has brought a sore throat and stuffy nose with it. And on top of that, I have constipation that could just kill. I just can't get rid of it no matter what remedies I use. Ugh! 

post #153 of 208

cyclamen - that sounds like alot of stress added to your plate. Honestly though, I would get rid of your cat. It will probably only get worse once your pregnancy progresses and you start bringing in baby items.  When I was pregnant we had 2 cats. The one cat started peeing on all the baby stuff we brought into the house - the crib, the clothes, etc. I could not tolerate that so I found a no kill shelter to bring her to. It cost me $50, but totally put my mind at ease.  The other cat was fine and never peed on anything. Some cats cannot handle the change.

 

And while I don't always recommend people get rid of their pets, think of when the baby comes.  Do you want fleas and filthy cat pee all over the small apt?  Obviously you have some time to try to curtail the behavior problem, but thats up to you.

post #154 of 208

Greenlea, you are right about the stress.  I've known for a while now that we aren't the best fit for my cat.  I called the no-kill shelter this morning and they were the ones that told me I should have her checked out for bladder issues.  I want to do that so I can know we tried everything, but I honestly don't believe it's going to help.... and we can ill afford it if it won't.  I sent an email to an animal adoption group in the area... hopefully they will be able to help me out.  I get really sad when I think about giving her up, but I am so overwhelmed right now, and the thought of dealing with cat pee and fleas and a newborn in this tiny apartment just scares the crap out of me. 

post #155 of 208

Ugh.

 

DD goes to a parent co-op preschool, and one of the many duties we have is providing snacks on a rotating schedule for all 15 kids. The only guidelines we were given were no nuts (nut free school), and two food groups. So last night DH and I made celery sticks with cream cheese and craisins (Ladybugs on a log, instead of ants on a log - lol). Then I show up today and teacher tells me there's one kid who won't eat veggies...not that the kid is allergic to cheese, or celery or anything, just that this child won't eat veggies. So she gives this child goldfish crackers instead, doesn't even let him TRY the snack I made. And of course, as soon as THAT kid gets those, what do the other kids want? Goldfish. So she gives them to ALL the kids. In the end maybe a third of the kids even ate what I bought and made. I cannot tell you how many whined and complained about the snack. So many picked it apart and trashed the craisins without even tasting them. I saw one girl wrap up the entire snack in her napkin and throw the whole thing away as soon as she finished those stupid fish crackers.

 

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Since when do we reward picky eaters and bad table manners with exactly the snack they want instead of telling them to either eat what they've got or wait until they get home (it's only a few hours, so skipping a snack isn't going to kill them). All that good food, thrown in the garbage because those spoiled kids can't stand to put a vegetable (even one slathered with cheese and sugary cranberries) in their mouth.

 

NOW the snack policy has been changed to not just two food groups, but two different snacks. Not happening. I will gladly make snacks around allergies, ethical diet restrictions (i.e. vegans), or religious restrictions (even though I'm a godless, meat eater myself). But I draw the line at catering to picky eaters who have been spoiled to the point that they just don't eat an entire food group. Ridiculous. I would have never gotten away with that crap when I was a kid.

 

I just had to rant because I am still so steamed.

post #156 of 208

Yikes, Ironmam.

Your rant is justified! Giving preschoolers a choice in snack seems like it would breed chaos... because one snack will be more popular than the other, and there won't be enough to please them all.  Even asking for 2 food groups in every snack seems a bit much.  I guess I don't see what the problem is with just having a handful of cheerios or goldfish and sucking it up til lunchtime!  Luckily our preschool had everyone pack their own personal snack each day, then if the child has a grief, they take it up with their own parent, not someone else's!

post #157 of 208

Sorry I haven't been posting. I guess I'm just more comfortable in lurking until I feel more confident this pregnancy will last. I'm 9 weeks now and I saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks 5 days. I have another u/s on Wednesday and if there is still a heartbeat I'll be more optimistic since that is further than we made it the last 2 times. 

 

It's nice to see that some of you are starting to feel better :)

post #158 of 208

Ug, I've been dealing with major congestion and post-nasal drip as well. I'm also one that has congestion pretty much throughout pregnancy, so I'm glad I'm not alone and you guys can comiserate! It got really bad last week with back-to-school plus the state fair. I totally saw it coming but there wasn't much to do about it. 2 of the 3 kiddo's did ok, but one missed 2 days of school because of it. Everyone is on the mend now, thank goodness!

 

IronMam, that is so ridiculous! We're just starting preschool with our youngest and their guidelines for snacks specifically say no sugary treats (cookies, cupcakes, etc) and they gave us a list of ideas to help out and "ants on a log" and "fruit kabobs" were both on the list along with celery/carrots with dip, etc. I hope you can work something else out, because I would not be bringing two separte snacks either. If the kid is that picky, his parents can pack a snack just for him.

post #159 of 208

Sinus issues here, too! The slight "pregnancy congestion" topped with my allergies from all the wildfire smoke (we're smack in the middle of all the remaining large wildfires in the country...it's like a constant "fog" outside.  It's gross.)

post #160 of 208
Cyclamen, we got rid of our cat about a month ago. She had been with us for 6 years, but she was pouncing on DD every chance age got and DD was scared of her and of walking around the house. It was so sad, but now a month out, life is so much better for everyone.
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