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post #161 of 208

cyclamen - not that I advocate lying....but if you tell any shelter, no kill or otherwise, that your cat is peeing on everything, they either won't take her because they can't rehome her, or they will euthanize her. Just say your allergic or can't afford her or something. Otherwise you will be stuck with her.

 

IronMam - that is just ridiculous on the part of the teacher. First off, why a kid won't eat an entire food group is beyond me. My kids love veggies because they have been given them since the beginning and must try them before telling me they don't like them. My son loves celery actually. And I know some kids just won't eat some things - my son loves raw carrots, but for some reason is very put off with cooked carrots.  Alot of kids, while they won't eat some things at home, like healthy veggies, will when surrounded by their peers who are also eating them.  That teacher should not have interfered in your snack. If she's so concerned she should be the one providing the snack.

post #162 of 208

Yay!   I "popped!"  Uterus us "up and over," folks! LOL  I guess that explains my belly pic from yesterday! 

 

Now, how to keep hiding it until I'm ready to tell...baggy clothes aren't so baggy anymore, and the sweatshirt thing isn't working as it's still too warm...

post #163 of 208

Add me to the list of those with congestion. Blah. My face is killing me! I had a really bad sinus infection once and ever since then any time I get congested it make me whole face ache. No fun! I think this is just a cold though, so it should go away.... I'm waiting for the kids to get it now. My youngest had roseola last week. First sickness in the house is about a year... not too bad! I hope we aren't going to be making up for lost time by having a crappy flu season.

 

I'm not having cat issues, but my dog is making me crazy. He is a flat coatted retriever and I have loved him until this pregnancy. Now I can't stand to smell him. And he keeps licking his butt. No, not licking... it's like he is sucking on it. ALL THE TIME. Never had a dog do that. So incredibly disgusting. We had his glands expressed last month, so I can't imagine it needs to be done again. I'm hoping this is just pregnancy sensitivity and I will go back to liking him (and not yelling "Go lay down Charlie, you stink!" all day) when this trimester comes to close. He never smelled bad before, so maybe it's just me. Or maybe now that he is growing out of puppy stage he is turning into a stinky dog. Oh, I hope not!!!!

 

I finally came up with a short list of people to watch my kids when I go to my OB appointments. Now my mom can stop bothering me about choosing a hospital an hour away as opposed to the one nearby. I don't like the one nearby and I'd rather drive to be at a nice place. So now that I have other childcare options she won't have to be "burdened" with watching her grandkids once every other month (I am not going to all my appointments...they don't really do anything at them anyway). Grrrr. I love my mom but she is really pissing me off. Every time I get pregnant there is something she freaks out about. Last time, when I called to tell her I was in labor, she totally ripped into me for saying I wasn't going to the hospital right away and said I could find someone else to watch my kids while I was gone. Then when I called her to tell her I had the baby, she flipped out and said I had planned to have it in the hotel (which is not true) and had hidden the plan from her. Then when we came home from the hospital she was there at my house and got mad when DH handed the baby to my dad. It was horrible. When I was pregnant with my son she got really mad that we hired a doula. She isn't supportive of natural birth at all. Heck, she just plain isn't supportive. BUT...she is my mom and I DO love her so I try to put up with it patiently.

 

Oh well. Sorry for rambling. I think this cold is making my thinking jumbly.

post #164 of 208

Man, it's been kind of rough in our house over the last few weeks.  I think DH and I are both finally dealing with the culmination of all the stuff that's happened in the last couple years (namely being LOTS of miscarriages and my resulting surgery, plus some). 

 

My mom was just asking me how much we have left to pay off on my hospital bills, and it occurred to me how ironic it is...  It costs us next to nothing to HAVE a baby (well, not that we go about it traditionally, but still), and it cost us like $8,000 to LOSE a baby.

post #165 of 208

I have an appointment with the OB on Monday. I'm trying to stay positive, and not worry. But part of me just keeps thinking about everything that I've done "wrong" that could cause it, and I don't know what to do, but try and pretend like there isn't the possibility that anything is wrong.

post #166 of 208
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Originally Posted by 1babysmom View Post

 

 

My mom was just asking me how much we have left to pay off on my hospital bills, and it occurred to me how ironic it is...  It costs us next to nothing to HAVE a baby (well, not that we go about it traditionally, but still), and it cost us like $8,000 to LOSE a baby.

That is a very good, profound point.

post #167 of 208

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Originally Posted by bmcneal View Post

I have an appointment with the OB on Monday. I'm trying to stay positive, and not worry. But part of me just keeps thinking about everything that I've done "wrong" that could cause it, and I don't know what to do, but try and pretend like there isn't the possibility that anything is wrong.

I wish you the best.  It's nerve-wracking for sure.

post #168 of 208

1babysmom - Yes, I have a relative who, despite having insurance, payed about half a grand out of pocket when she miscarried. :(   Geesh. Like anyone should have to deal with that on top of grieving their loss.

 

First midwife appt is tomorrow. DD will be coming with me, so hopefully she'll get to hear the heartbeat. We just told her about the pregnancy just a few days ago.

 

Last night I let her sleep in my bed with me (we do "snuggle sleeps" as a special treat from time to time), and this morning she sleepily told me "Mama, I'm glad you're growing a new baby." luxlove.gif

 

I know her opinion is very likely to change when she sees how much work/attention the baby will need (though we are trying to prepare her for that). But it still made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. She's been the one and only for nearly 4 years (closer to 4.5 when Turducken actually arrives). So I know it's going to be a strange adjustment, especially since we may be moving shortly after that and she'll be starting kindergarten a few months after that. She's got a lot of big changes coming in 2013. 

 

We're actually considering pulling her out of preschool though. We applied for a gov. subsidy to cover the costs (because we can't really afford it right now), and after spending the day in class yesterday as the parent helper I'm none too impressed. They spent 1 hour (out of 3.5 total) doing free indoor play time (and the teacher didn't encourage the few shy kids, like my DD, to interact with anyone else). Then they had a snack and a story and a really short circle time before spending the rest of the time free playing outside. And again, though there were quite a few shy kids not participating during circle time (just standing there staring), the teacher did nothing to encourage their participation. Now we just feel like, geeze...why are we paying for preschool AND doing a million different volunteer duties when all it really is is a glorified play date three times a week? We wanted DD to go to gain some social skills and learn to follow teacher instructions before kindergarten, but that's not happening because the teacher just lets them do whatever apparently. So we decided that if our subsidy application is rejected then we're pulling her out. She has a weekly playgroup through the community (that is free), plus we go to an atheist-friendly non-denominational church every week and she gets play time there as well. We read to her at least once a day so she gets plenty of story time (plus she loves, LOVES to just sit and look at books on her own). And I will gladly spend time each week teaching her things to help her be ready for school. She already knows almost all her letters, can count pretty high, read some sight words, etc. Plus the local libraries have all sorts of free programs for kids. And hopefully we can get her into a swim class or a similar physical class (there's a rock climbing class for her age group that looks fun) if we can get the low-income family discount for them. It's not like she's going to be lacking exposure to new people and ideas. And she's apparently not getting too much in the way of new experiences at this preschool. So what's the point? Am I crazy, or would you feel like this sort of preschool is a waste of time too?

post #169 of 208

IronMam - that kind of pre-school seems pointless. My son is 3.5 and goes to pre-k 5 days a week from 12:30-3:00. He gets speech lessons, they do letters, numbers, colors (you know, actually learn) play, etc.  Plus with all that added onto your whole snack debacle, I would probably have to speak to someone higher up about that teacher.

 

I am super frustrated with my current babysitter right now. She watches my boys 3 days a week and picks my son up from pre-school at 3pm. Yesterday she called me saying I needed to call the school so he could get out 10 min early because she would be able to get there and get to another school to pick someone else up on time because her helper called in sick.  Ugh. I asked her this morning if everything would be ok with picking him up today, ie is her helper still sick...and she said its find. I talked to my son at lunch at Nancy called in sick again so she's by herself today. This on top of the fact she actually FORGOT to pick my son up the 1st week from school (one time).  I feel like she has too many kids and can't handle it (its in home daycare). I think I'm going to ask my mom to watch the kids and I'll pay her instead.

 

I had my 1st midwife appt scheduled for tomorrow but I now have to change it 2 weeks out because the one other lady in the office is on vacay and my boss says he's not coming in tomorrow to answer phones. Just freakin' great. So mad.

post #170 of 208

Greenlea - Yikes. I'd be pissed at the babysitter and the boss too. 

post #171 of 208

Greenlea - thanks for the tip.  Things are not looking so bright for rehoming her... I think I'm too honest.  And whoa....I would be pissed about the babysitter too. 

 

Cagnew.... yikes, your mom sounds extremely stressful....  Good for you for working around it!  Too bad you have to.  :(

 

IronMam, it sounds like you have plenty of other ways to get enrichment for your daughter without paying for the preschool.  I bet any structured class will provide those opportunities to learn to listen to a teacher.  

post #172 of 208

FWIW, most of the no kill shelters wont take cats right now unless they charge you an arm and a leg because this is the tail end of "kitten season" and most of the shelters are way over loaded and putting down lots of healthy animals because they just don't have homes for all of them.

 

There are LOTS of things you can do to encourage the cats to behave - call your vet (preferably a private clinic and not a chain) or even find an independent pet store (ie not petsmart/petco) and talk to them. There are lots of people that WANT to help you and you'd be surprised how simple some of the changes can be. Most of the time, unresolved issues are going to get worse in a new home, not better. So rehoming and not giving them full disclosure about the problems you're having is unfair to your pet AND the people who adopt them. Issues don't usually disappear... your cat is likely to get placed in a home, have worse issues then they're having now and end up back at the shelter and probably put down.

 

As far as the stinky dog, what kind of food are you feeding him. I guarantee you if you're feeding something from the grocery store, the smell can be greatly improved by switching to a healthy food without mystery meat, bi-products, corn, wheat and soy, etc. Most people don't stop to think about what is actually *in* their pets food, since most of them put soooo much money into the pretty packaging so that you think it must be good. Go to an independent pet store and have them explain the choices they have, you might even be surprised how affordable some of the foods are, especially since many have frequent buyer programs. Trust me, good food will help them smell better, I promise! (The same is true for people BTW, think about it!)

post #173 of 208

note to self - don't go to the grocery store in the morning.  I feel so rotten...which considering how nauseated I usually am says a lot.  :(  Must pull myself together...there's a whole day ahead.  :S  I sure hope things get a little better soon.  Any mamas seeing the other side of m/s yet???  I'm 11w3d

post #174 of 208

The midwives told me it was a loooooooong shot to find a heartbeat at only 9 weeks today, but lo and behold! They did!

 

Turducken is alive. :)  I wasn't particularly worried, but it's always a relief to know for sure. DP is really bummed he missed it though. He was going to call off work, and come with me to the appointment...but since they said it's rare that they can find the hb this early, we decided he shouldn't miss work. rolleyes.gif Figures.

post #175 of 208

at-the-hip: I'm 11w 3d and starting to feel a bit better. I'm hoping it's not just a fluke! 

 

ironmam: Congrats on the heartbeat! Always so comforting to hear :)

 

firespiritmelody: Thanks for the advice. We had another dog before this one and we bought it good food. Perhaps it's time to do that with this one too.

 

My appointment today went well! Saw the little one in the ultrasound :) I was really happy with my OB. She said she would be fine with intermittent monitoring, and that they have wireless monitors for when I did have to be on it. She agreed that since I've already had one VBAC I am basically like any other woman now :) She was also fine with me skipping every other appointment. I felt like she respected me and gave me credit for being an intelligent and experienced mom. So, I am going to stay with her and I feel good about it. Yay! 

post #176 of 208

IronMam - that stinks! We had a similar experience with DD1 - I wasn't 100% positive how far along we were and didn't realize they had a u/s in office. DH didn't come with because I didn't think I was far enough along to hear a hb and had no idea we'd do a u/s... ended up doing a t/v u/s and saw baby was 11w (a week or two ahead of where we thought we were) Bitter sweet because I was excited to get to see her, bummed because he didn't.

 

cagnew - I hope you'll give it a try! It really does help so much!! Be warned though, sometimes it gets worse before it gets better and it usually takes 6-8 weeks to see improvement, so don't give up too soon!! Goodluck!

post #177 of 208

Oh, we're not too broken up about it. DH was just hoping for an extra little bonding moment before DD and I go out of town for two weeks. But he'll survive. He can come to the next one.

 

And I was able to record it on my iPod and play it for him later.

post #178 of 208

Firespiritmelody - I don't feel like we have a crisis with my cat anymore.  Things have really settled down around here and I'm glad.  It's good to see her happily lounging in inappropriate places (precariously perched next to a sink of dirty dishes!)  But after really thinking about it, I'm clear.  I don't need to rehome her immediately but I must rehome her within the next six months.  As long as the new home knows all about her issues, that will be the safest thing for her.  I know that her stress response is to pee on things and I know that sometimes her stress periods have coincided with times when I am less physically able to care for her and give her attention.  So I know it's likely that just at the moment I need her to be at her best, or even just her okay, (when I am taking care of a newborn baby, and possibly dealing with PPD - I have a history of depression and severe PPD), she is likely to be at her worst.  If my worst fears do come to pass, I think it's likely I will end up take her to whatever shelter will have her...and I know what that means.  :(  Up til now I've been super honest with the rescues, right down to telling them that I don't want to take her to a shelter because I don't want her to be put to sleep.  I think that is actually hurting her chances of them taking her, because to them it sounds like she isn't in danger.  But I know she is.  

 

I'm hoping that once kitten season is over someone will be able to take her, especially if they know she is waiting....  I also think that now I'm clear on things I'll be able to communicate in a way that will result in a good outcome for her.

 

Ironmam- yay for hearing the heartbeat!  I didnt' know you could hear it so early.  I'm excited to hopefully get to hear the heartbeat at my next appt.

post #179 of 208
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The midwives told me it was a loooooooong shot to find a heartbeat at only 9 weeks today, but lo and behold! They did!

 

Turducken is alive. :)  I wasn't particularly worried, but it's always a relief to know for sure. DP is really bummed he missed it though. He was going to call off work, and come with me to the appointment...but since they said it's rare that they can find the hb this early, we decided he shouldn't miss work. rolleyes.gif Figures.

Yay!  Congrats!  I picked up mine at 9 weeks on the dot too!  So nice to hear!

post #180 of 208

Congratulations, IronMam! We picked up ours at 8w6d, and I was so excited!

 

I'm not *terribly* worried about things so much anymore. There's still a nagging at the back of my mind that something could go wrong, but... we saw the baby, heard the heartbeat, and I've still been feeling Baby move. Plus, DF and a couple of my friends are really helping me to stay positive, and it's helping. Now I'm just excited to see the baby again.love.gif

 

ETA: I guess I've "popped" already. One of my friends commented on that last night. "You're showing, too. You're wearing hoodies to try and hide it, but you can totally tell." I wasn't really wearing hoodies to hide it, so much as I'm freezing, but I am kind of a bigger person, and I *was* hoping it would be a little bit longer before I would show, even though I *really* would like to have a baby bump this time.

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