It is scary and sad even more because my LO is the one who posted a hate note
at her best friends house. She had some unresolved feelings bottled inside
not to say that the other kid is an angel and he did few really ugly things
to my LO but whatever happened, hate note is NOT an option.
When I have been contacted by the mother of the other child that there
was "I hate you " note written on their wall.. My jaw dropped.
At first I wanted to believe there was some mistake of course..
then my LO admitted to doing it.
LO did it at the beginning of long and happy play date so
the harder was to believe for me that my LO was the author.
However apparently she did it right after arriving for what
she felt hurt before.
Help, what to do, I told her that she will be punished
for writing it, for using the H word and for damaging
someone elses property and I need to figure out what
punishemnt is the best for the situation and till then
she is on hold. We also need to fix the wall..
Please suggest how to handle the situation.
- the LO is 6.5 years old.
She is kind of sorry for what she did but not terribly sorry,
she was smilling when I told her that we have been contacted
about the note and hwen I asked if she did it she kept saying
"I don't know"... with a silly smile... like she did nor care much.
Then she said that she did it before the playdate went good
as she was upset about the past.
In whole honesty the other friend tends to be quite inconsiderate
of her needs and tends to be selfish, self centered and
inconsiderate great dela and I witness it crashing my LO
feelings in many ways.. but she kept coming for more
hoping each time will be better and she will get something
of the playdate for herself too, some fun.. she really
was fond of the friend..
so agian, I need to handle it somehow and I am at loss.
I am frustrated, disappointed and sad because of it
and I just felt like someone pulled the rug from underneath.
I fear that she might learned it at school or take it to school.
this atittude and what then? I know I have to address it
but how to do it best? I did not want to punihs her today
because I am so upset and angry that I know could
overdo it and not to the point as now I owuld just
like to ground her for life :).. sadly.