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post #21 of 71

Whoa, that is just TOO much drama!  I hope you can take it easy for a bit, GranolaMama! 

post #22 of 71

Thanks mamas!  Things have calmed down quite a bit and DP's leg is healing.  We'd reached the point that day that it all just became funny because there was just too much to process otherwise.  Hopefully the divorce will be resolved this week so we can finally announce and start really enjoying baby.

post #23 of 71
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I am glad things are settling down for you, GranolaMama. You certainly do have a lot going on.  Hopefully you will have a much smoother pregnancy as you enter the second trimester!

post #24 of 71

Granola - so sorry for everything that you've been through, but am glad that things are looking a little more positive now.

 

AFM - I'm 15 weeks tomorrow, which is crazy to me. We took DS out to see Thomas the Train today, which was a lot of fun. He was so excited when we got there and he saw the big train. But, we ended up cutting our visit a little short. It turned out to be hot today - in the 90's - after a few days of being considerably cooler. I didn't dress for the heat and started really over heating after the train ride, where we were sitting in an open car. I got pretty dizzy while we were getting off, but it resolved fairly quickly. Then while we were waiting for our picture with Thomas, I started getting dizzy, nauseous, & crampy. I managed to make through the line, snapped a quick pic, and then we were out of there. I felt a lot better once I was out of the sun and then got a bit of a nap once we got home. I have an appointment on Friday, so I'll mention it to my mw, but I think I just got really overheated. I guess hot yoga is definately out of the question now (j/k of course).

 

Hope everyone else is well. Have a great week.

post #25 of 71

Hi ladies.

        I think this is so amazing to be able to discuss our lives with one another and most of us going through it together. This is our first child and we both live very busy lives. I am a chef and he is a law officer. I feel like i am barely getting my energy back yet still lacks a lot from what i am use to. Anyone doing daily Yoga or activities that help??? I have found that i also begin to feel ill if i dont have something in my stomach. I tend to be a grazer rather than eat big meals...

post #26 of 71

A lot going on on this thread. Like all I hope things are cooling down for you GranolaMama.

 

I'm trying not to have a mini-freakout. I will be 12 weeks on Wednesday (the 12th), and I get my NT ultrasound then. Which I've been counting the minutes to for about 16 days now. On Saturday I had a tiny bit of bright red spotting. And now today I'm having a very small amount of brown discharge. 

 

I know everything I see online says don't worry about it, but I don't seem to be able to take that advice. My anxiety levels are too high for my own good. I know. I'm just hoping we actually get to see the bean on the 12th and hopefully get to know there is a heartbeat. Then I can wait until the 18th for the official results. I really just need some peace of mind now. 

post #27 of 71
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A lot going on on this thread. Like all I hope things are cooling down for you GranolaMama.

 

I'm trying not to have a mini-freakout. I will be 12 weeks on Wednesday (the 12th), and I get my NT ultrasound then. Which I've been counting the minutes to for about 16 days now. On Saturday I had a tiny bit of bright red spotting. And now today I'm having a very small amount of brown discharge. 

 

I know everything I see online says don't worry about it, but I don't seem to be able to take that advice. My anxiety levels are too high for my own good. I know. I'm just hoping we actually get to see the bean on the 12th and hopefully get to know there is a heartbeat. Then I can wait until the 18th for the official results. I really just need some peace of mind now. 

Oh honey!  Big hugs.  I know it's hard and so scary - two losses and I've now bled with both my healthy pregnancies.  I hope you get to see the bean later this week too!!!!

post #28 of 71
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Hi ladies.

        I think this is so amazing to be able to discuss our lives with one another and most of us going through it together. This is our first child and we both live very busy lives. I am a chef and he is a law officer. I feel like i am barely getting my energy back yet still lacks a lot from what i am use to. Anyone doing daily Yoga or activities that help??? I have found that i also begin to feel ill if i dont have something in my stomach. I tend to be a grazer rather than eat big meals...

I'm totally a grazer too.  I haven't found anything to help with the lack of energy though.  

post #29 of 71

The lack of energy seems to be sucking the life out of me.  I'm just ready to be my old self again.  And there's lots to do before winter (and it snowed this morning, so I really need to get out of this funk.)

post #30 of 71

So much going on here.

 

Granola - read your update in the other thread and hope that things are working out a little more positive for you. Hopefully you'll get to share your news soon. Lots of peaceful thoughts are being sent your way.

 

BeagleSmuggler - I hope your NT scan give you some peace today and you get to see a strong little bean swimming around! I think the entire first half of pregnancy is so tough because you just have so little "proof" that the little bean is there and doing OK. It's not until I can feel the baby moving around that I start feeling a little more confident in the pregnancy. I just have to trust that everything this is OK and progressing as it should. Good luck and fx'd. Looking forward to an update.

 

AFM - it's quiet around here. I've been suffering from some backache and sciatica, which is affecting my sleeping. My appetite is back, but I'm still getting the occasional bouts of nausea :(  My energy levels are slowly rising, but then I have days (like today) where I just don't want to do anything. I think I could stay in bed all day if I didn't have a toddler to care for. I'll have to find something to motivate me. I am looking forward to my appointment on Friday when I'll get to hear the little bean again. It seems so far away!!

post #31 of 71

13 weeks tomorrow.

 

I feel like I kind of forgot I'm pregnant for the last week - it was so busy... my uncle came to visit, first week of school for DD... but it was good, I guess.  I got out for a hike yesterday for the first time in who knows how long - a good 45 minute uphill slog, turn around, another 45 minutes going down again!  The woods smelled so nice yesterday since we'd had a wee bit of rain the day before, and it was really nice.  My energy isn't back to where it was as I TOTALLY needed a nap yesterday afternoon, but I still managed to pull off a very nice dinner for my uncle and my sister came too, so it was substantial amounts of food.  (And delicious.  Fresh corn, fresh spinach, my sister's homegrown potatoes, and lovely lamb chops on the BBQ)

 

I need to get back into my gym/hikes routine.  It does make me feel so much more like a normal human.

 

Hope everyone's life settles out and runs smoothly for a while.  It sounds like we all need it!
 

post #32 of 71

maydaymom10 - Ow!  I've been having some round ligament pains and some hip pain but thankfully no sciatica!  I hope you get some relief soon!  Still the occasional nausea bouts here and yo yoing the energy, too.

 

BeagleSmuggler - How did your scan go?

 

Spughy - That sounds nommy!  We had a gorgeous fall day here earlier this week and we opened all the windows and I just felt SO ALIVE and energized again!  I'm hoping we get some more of that in before the winter hits and I'm a whale!  Good luck getting your hikes back in your routine!

 

AFM - I hit 13 weeks last Friday and had my appointment today.  We're all fairly satisfied that the bleeding was just the SCH and went over again what to avoid and when to seek medical help with the gallstones.  DP and DD1 went with me to the appointment today and they did a doppler for heartbeat.  I was incredibly pleased when the NP warned me sometimes it's hard to find via doppler this early and if we didn't hear it we'd pop straight over to U/S.  She was able to find it with the doppler and DP finally got to hear it.  (This is the first appointment he's gotten to go to and they wouldn't let him come with me to the U/S at the ER.)  It was at 156 and everything else seemed fine.  I did find out though my OB's practice requires you to be 21 weeks to have the big U/S done so I won't get to find out gender or have that U/S until November 6.  Not going to lie, I'm a little bummed - I was REALLY hoping to get to do it at my next appointment in October.  It's so incredibly amazing to have an active partner this time around!!!!  He's told me he'll support whatever I choose but he would rather I not do a VBAC.  I love that he's honest about it and his fears but will set them aside for whatever I want in this case.  He's also really concerned about problems with the baby because of his age (he's 40).  I keep trying to assure him that most of those are cancelled out because of my age (24; 25 in December) but I think it's adorable that he looks at this stuff on his own and comes and talks to me about it!!!!  Oh, and since I'm a fluffier mama, I was restricted by my doctor to only gaining 15-20lbs the entire pregnancy.  Well, I'm already 13 weeks in and have actually LOST three pounds despite all my eating!  I lost over 50lbs with DD so I'm not really worried about it either way but it still tickled me!

post #33 of 71

Granola - I'm fluffy, too, and at my first appointment with my Doctor she told me that she didn't want me to gain anything this pregnancy.  It's my first, so I really don't know how my body is planning on doing this whole pregnancy thing.  But it didn't sit right with me that she said I couldn't gain a pound...  Not that she asked, but I've lost weight this first trimester due to very strong food adversions, but I can't see continuing to loss once I get my appetite back.  And for what's it's worth - I don't consider myself *that* fluffy - I wear a size 16 usually... 

 

Anyone want to "weigh" in on this?

 

I have my first appointment with a Midwife in two days and I'm curiously awaiting what (if anything) she'll say about the "issue".

post #34 of 71
I'm actually larger than that! My OB was actually really nice about it. She just said she'd like to see me only gain 15-20lbs but didn't point out it was due to my weight necessarily. She even sympathized that she knew it would be hard but that it was doable if I ate smart. The information packet I received pointed out the weight gain vs obesity thing. I think it's absolutely ludicrous to expect you not to gain any weight the entire pregnancy!
post #35 of 71

Thx Granola - I was starting to think I was just being overly sensitive.  Especially since I've read you gain weight everywhere, not just in the tummy/baby area... So really, the doctor wants me to *lose* weight this pregnancy if she expects me to stay the same...

 

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post #36 of 71

irked.gif "staying the same" sounds rediculously unhealthy regardless of your pre-baby size!!  

post #37 of 71
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Granola - I'm fluffy, too, and at my first appointment with my Doctor she told me that she didn't want me to gain anything this pregnancy.  It's my first, so I really don't know how my body is planning on doing this whole pregnancy thing.  But it didn't sit right with me that she said I couldn't gain a pound...  Not that she asked, but I've lost weight this first trimester due to very strong food adversions, but I can't see continuing to loss once I get my appetite back.  And for what's it's worth - I don't consider myself *that* fluffy - I wear a size 16 usually... 

 

Anyone want to "weigh" in on this?

 

I have my first appointment with a Midwife in two days and I'm curiously awaiting what (if anything) she'll say about the "issue".

I really hate when doctors put too much restrictions on weight gain because I feel that it makes moms hypersensitive to what they are eating and could restrict the needed nutrients that the baby is getting. Here's my two sense (based on experience & some prenatal nutrition training that I have) - as long as you are trying to eat a healthy, clean diet that is varied and low on processed food, then you're going to be fine. This means fruits, veggies, complex carbs (whole wheat, brown rice, quinoa, etc.), lean protein sources, and healthy fats (avocado, olive oil, etc). Limit the processed foods, sugar, and unhealthy fats and you're not going to have to worry about putting on a lot of excess weight. I teach a prenatal nutrition class developed by Dr. Sears (LEAN Expectations) that is great if you can find one near you. If not, you might look at the Dr. Brewers Pregnancy Diet. I like it because it's easy to follow and she has a chart that you can use to check off what you've eaten throughout the day. I have a hard time getting it all in, but it does help me make better choices in my diet so that I go for things that I need over what I want/crave. Being active will help as well -- even just walking or doing some yoga. I wouldn't worry about losing or not gaining so much, as just focusing on eating healthy and moving a bit. Doing this during pregnancy can even help postpartum on losing the pregnancy weight (and more if you're inclined). I'll be curious to your midwife's view on this, as I know many midwifes approach nutrition in a much more holistic way than medical docs. Good luck!

 

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 He's also really concerned about problems with the baby because of his age (he's 40).  I keep trying to assure him that most of those are cancelled out because of my age (24; 25 in December) but I think it's adorable that he looks at this stuff on his own and comes and talks to me about it!!!!  

DH is 40 & I am 38 (almost 39). Our scans came back wonderful. In fact, my adjusted risk (after the scan & blood work) of having a chromosomal problem with the baby went from those common for someone my age to that of someone in their 20's. So, please reassure your DP that even us old people can have perfectly healthy little ones!

post #38 of 71
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Granola - I'm fluffy, too, and at my first appointment with my Doctor she told me that she didn't want me to gain anything this pregnancy.  It's my first, so I really don't know how my body is planning on doing this whole pregnancy thing.  But it didn't sit right with me that she said I couldn't gain a pound...  Not that she asked, but I've lost weight this first trimester due to very strong food adversions, but I can't see continuing to loss once I get my appetite back.  And for what's it's worth - I don't consider myself *that* fluffy - I wear a size 16 usually... 

 

Anyone want to "weigh" in on this?

 

I have my first appointment with a Midwife in two days and I'm curiously awaiting what (if anything) she'll say about the "issue".

you know, my first time around I weighed about 150-155 when I got pregnant. I put on like 30 lbs and my MEDwife told me basically it was the end of the world. She told me that because of my weight gain the baby would be too big to birth naturally. Ridiculous logic, so you want me to restrict my food intake to the point my fetus does not gain any weight? Maybe I should start smoking since that contributes to reduced birth weight, medwife? Additionally, you have women who gain 60 lbs in pregnancy and have a 5 lbs baby and people who barely gain anything and have a 10 lbs baby. Her argument was a non sequitur. Of course you don't want to eat a big mac for every meal but at the same time it is ridiculous to tell people don't gain any weight when you consider the amount the baby weighs, the increased blood volume in your body, increased fluids stored in your body, amniotic fluid, the placenta.. Weight gain during pregnancy is GOING TO HAPPEN and I think it does far more harm than good to make the mother worry about every ounce.

 

k, I am stepping off my soap box now, thank you for listening..

post #39 of 71

I didn't want my midwife weighing me because of the opposite reason - I didn't want to feel pressured to GAIN weight.  Actually, I'm probably fine now - I think I packed on a LOT in my first trimester - but I doubt I'll put any more on for the rest of my pregnancy, and I am ok with that.  I'm not skinny, I was a bit overweight going in, but I am very short and once the baby grows past a certain point my stomach shrinks and I just can't put enough in it to keep the weight on.  It probably doesn't help that my DH is over 6' tall and large-framed with a ginormous head, either - I'm doomed to big babies no matter what I eat - I'm just thinking of my own recovery.  With DD I only put on 15 lbs (and I was NOT overweight at the beginning).  My midwives were ok with that but in retrospect I would have been better off with a little more - I weighed the same when I came home from the hospital as I did the day I found out I was pregnant, and I had a hard time recovering from my birth trauma I think due to lack of nutritional stores.  Well, this time around I'm not caring how MUCH I eat or whether I gain any more, I'm focusing entirely on nutrient density from here on out - quality protein (pastured meats, good eggs, lots of fish), lots of good organic brightly coloured and leafy green veggies, fruits and cheese for snacks, good raw milk, and no filler foods like grains or beans and stuff like that that just makes me full without giving me any nutrition. 

 

Fortunately my nausea has almost completely abated and I'm not having any food aversions.  Today I had a good smoothie for breakfast (raw milk kefir, 1/2 banana, blueberries & melon, protein powder), fruit & cheese for a snack, and spaghetti squash with tomato-sausage sauce for lunch.  Dinner will probably involve a pork chop and lots of veggies.   I will just eat as much of that kind of food as I can (which is already not much, I had a smallish serving of lunch and felt way too stuffed after) and not worry about weight gain (or loss, which may well happen) - I just want to make sure that *everything* I eat makes me stronger, if not bigger.
 

post #40 of 71
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Anyone want to "weigh" in on this?

 

I have my first appointment with a Midwife in two days and I'm curiously awaiting what (if anything) she'll say about the "issue".

This seems a bit absurd to me as well. I don't know how you would not put on any weight while growing a healthy baby. It just doesn't seem logical at all. Hopefully your midwife will agree that weight gain is going to happen and it will be a non issue for you. 

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