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post #41 of 71

Thanks for all the supporting responses.  I've looked at the Dr. Brewer's Diet and right now, it looks like A LOT of food!  So far, everything I've been putting in my mouth has been very healthy. 

 

There was an interesting thread on "I'm Pregnant" discussing how much weight was gained in correlation to birth size and there didn't appear to be one.

 

I don't know if the midwife will weigh me or ask or what.  I don't have a scale in my house, so unless I make an effort to weigh myself (like at the Nurses' Station at work or something) I never know which is fine with me.

 

In retrospect - I should have looked the doctor straight in the eye and explained that I have dreads down to my ass crack (they must weigh at least 7 lbs) and H-cup boobs (they gotta account for at least 30 lbs) so if we factor that in, my 242 lbs doesn't look so horrible... nono02.gif

post #42 of 71
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In retrospect - I should have looked the doctor straight in the eye and explained that I have dreads down to my ass crack (they must weigh at least 7 lbs) and H-cup boobs (they gotta account for at least 30 lbs) so if we factor that in, my 242 lbs doesn't look so horrible... nono02.gif

ROFL

post #43 of 71

Granola

 

OMG, when I read your story I thought once you can get out of putting out these fires, this belongs on a comedy sketch. What an epically bad day!! I'm glad DP is feeling better!

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Hi ladies.

        I think this is so amazing to be able to discuss our lives with one another and most of us going through it together. This is our first child and we both live very busy lives. I am a chef and he is a law officer. I feel like i am barely getting my energy back yet still lacks a lot from what i am use to. Anyone doing daily Yoga or activities that help??? I have found that i also begin to feel ill if i dont have something in my stomach. I tend to be a grazer rather than eat big meals...

When I start to feel crummy, I do a mental check list starting with when was the last time I ate something, have I had enough to drink. It's funny how sensitive our bodies are! As far as exercise the last 3 weeks I've had access to a pool. Even if I don't feel like swimming laps, just walking around or working my arms through the water feels nice. Really easy on the hips.

 

Spughy - I'm happy to hear you don't have food aversions anymore. I went out to Japanese food the other night, and I realized, "Wow, I can eat all this flavorful food and I don't feel sick!" Happy day!

 

scruffy- Silly, silly doctors. Please let us know what happens with your great retort if they bring up the weight thing again!

post #44 of 71
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Originally Posted by scruffy too View Post

Thanks for all the supporting responses.  I've looked at the Dr. Brewer's Diet and right now, it looks like A LOT of food!  So far, everything I've been putting in my mouth has been very healthy. 

 

I agree about there being a lot of food in the Brewer's diet. I can't eat all of it, but there is a check list & a reference sheet of what foods & amounts fall into what category. I check things off as I eat them throughout the day so I can visually see - oh, I haven't had much protein or Vit C foods today - and even if I can't (and I just can't) eat the suggested daily amounts, it's a visual reminder to go for something like egg, protein, or dairy when I might have binged on carbs all day. I also eat a pretty healthy diet, but  find that I tend to fixate on one food group throughout the day and need a visual reminder to expand my diet a bit. Hope that makes sense. 

post #45 of 71
Thread Starter 

Granolamama09-  It is wonderful when daddy is involved, interested and informed.  :)  Sorry you have to wait so long for the u/s.  21 weeks seems so far away, but I am sure the time will fly.  How are things coming along with DP's divorce?

 

scruffy too- That doctor is silly.  No weight gain at all?  That is not even the standard advice that doctors give.  It's usually in the 15-25 lb range for "overweight" women.  Not gaining anything would be ridiculous and unhealthy!  You are soo funny!  I always blame my H size boobs for my weight! lol.  With each child, they have gotten bigger... I am afraid what they will be this next time when I start nursing again.

 

beautifulnm- I agree.  What a crazy thing to say from that midwife. The doc I had with dd1 was a little more on edge about weight, but my mw for dd2 would tell me not to really worry about it.  And the mw I have now is COMPLETELY unconcerned.

 

scarletsmiles-  I had that realization when eating a delish homemade meatball sub the other day...  "Hey! I am not sick!"  I am still afraid to drink milk bc of how strongly my body rejected it earlier in this pregnancy!

 

maydaymom10- I like the visual that the chart of the Brewer diet gives me, too!  Although, I can never get that much food into me!

 

AFM- Had another spotting scare the other day.  Went to see the mw for a heartbeat check and found heartbeat right away.  I love my mw. She was so understanding about my need to hear the heartbeat and said if I start getting nervous again to call and we can meetup and do another check.  Looking forward to seeing her for a prenatal in two weeks!

post #46 of 71
Beagle smuggler, I was stalking you to see how you're doing, and I came across your news. I'm so sorry for your loss. candle.gif. I hope you're healing ok.
post #47 of 71

jodieanneanton - I know it seems so far away but in reality, it's only 7 weeks 2 days until the U/S.  I'm so bad at being patient so I'm trying extra hard!!!  DP's leg is finally mostly healed and he's walking without his cane now but doing it for long periods is painful.  The divorce is coming along - his lawyer has convinced her lawyer going to court is a waste of the lawyers time and they should just work it out between them.  They've gotten everything hammered out except child support.  We've got a 50/50 split so we're of the opinion you take care of them on your time and we'll take care of them on ours.  We're hoping divorce will be final by the end of the month!  We're actually going to his mother's tonight and we're planning on telling her (supposedly) so maybe we can finally be public about the baby!!!  AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

 

I'm sorry about your spotting scare but whohoo that you have an awesome m/w!  I'm glad that you've got such an understanding and supportive provider.  Do they have any thoughts as to what is causing the bleeding?

 

scruffy too - ROFLMAO!  You should've told the doctor that!!!  I feel you on the ginormous boobs.  I'm a little scared to see what size we reach with nursing this time around.  0.o

post #48 of 71

It's been a quiet week on this board - I logged in expecting to have a lot of reading to catch up on. But, I guess that means that everyone is doing well!! 

 

We had an appointment on Friday and everything looks good. The little one was feeling spunky and kept swimming away from the doppler. We were able to pin it down just long enough to get a reading - 150 bps. The bean was also still very low, which I guess is not usual at 16 weeks?? Don't really care. DS was always low as well. Everything else looked great. We'll go in for our 20-week scan in a few weeks... can't wait. Still don't know if we'll find out the gender or not. My energy is coming back and I'm hoping to get some more exercise in this week. We'll see.

 

On another note, I finally got to attend my first birth as a doula -- what a great experience! It was long. Mom was admitted for high BP after her bag started leaking, so I got there (on their request) at 8pm and mama wasn't even really in labor yet. Waited until about 5 am for her to start labor after the CNM finished breaking her water. She started active labor around 6 am and then baby girl was born at 11 am. So, after 17 hours I was definitely beat. DH was great -- took care of DS all day & no complaints when I came home and fell into bed for awhile. Only downside was that the hours left me with a killer headache last night that nothing really took care of but some good sleep. I have another mama due in about a month and then who knows. I'm definitely sticking to my plan of taking my "leave" from doula work after the end of the year. Time to get some good rest in and family time to make up for it all.

post #49 of 71

Hi all!  I've been lurking for a few weeks and finally got to post a couple of things over the past couple of days. 

 

Wow, I've just read all 48 posts here to get "caught up" with everyone.  I can't possibly reply to everyone so I'll just say that I hope

this post finds you well and that everything is going wonderfully for all of you!

 

As far as how things are with me, I'd like to get a few things off my chest as it's been a bit of a stressful week or so.  Last Mon. or Tue.? I had a tiny bit of brown "show"

one day and a tiny bit of slightly pinkish show the next day followed by nothing for a few days.  It's kind of involved but on Thursday we met with the Midwife

(I'm hoping to have her through this pregnancy) to review my medical records, which include two previous c-sections, and I had mentioned the show so she had me come in instead of just talking over the phone.  We'd hoped to try to hear a heartbeat but they'd had to take a Mama to the hospital a few days before so her better/main doppler was in the other midwife's van at her house and the one she had in her office wasn't working.  She opened it up and the batteries were corroded and the one "contact" point was broken off, just my luck lol.  I haven't heard the heartbeat or had any u/s' at all to reassure me yet and this is the first time I can recall having had any spotting and it's my 3rd pregnancy.  She said it *might* have been from aaaah (my words here) the "bedroom activities" we'd had and I think it's very possible.  Sat. night at around 3am I went to the bathroom and there was some red show that time. :(  I haven't had any since then though.  I've been waiting until Mon./today before I call the MW again.  I'm wondering if it's because I took something that was flavoured with Peppermint Oil (vs just flavouring) for a couple of days.  I looked it up afterwards and found that it's not good during pregnancy (even though the lady at the health food store said it was ok/just flavouring).  We haven't "done" anything since last week and I didn't take any of that stuff after the spotting and haven't had any spotting since - maybe coincidence, maybe not?!

 

I felt pregnant almost right away, my tummy started rising, lol, boobs were hurting/tender, I was bloated and was even queasy (first time) until about week 11 for sure and gained 4+ lbs very quickly.  All of a sudden, last week during week 11, I stopped feeling as bloated, had the spotting, had less aversions to foods and smells, got a really bad migraine, started feeling less pregnant overall (especially in my tummy) and I've lost all but .2 of the 4+ lbs I'd gained. 

 

I know that a few of those more recent things could be because I'm right at the end of the 1st trimester and going into the 2nd.  I've been trying to take it easy, just in case, like laying down on the couch while doing homeschool with the children, laying on my left side at night, etc.  I have been trying not to stress out and worry but I haven't been very successful.  I guess it doesn't help matters that I "had to know" and researched hypothyroidism in pregnancy and found some very disheartening possible effects on baby. crap.gif  The second-last time I had tests done my OB wanted me to see a specialist but after a month+ instead of having her retest (after me continuing/trying my natural thyroid stuff then taking myself off it due to how I was feeling) I went to my GP and got re-tested and he said based on my levels (even though one was so low and not even IN the range) that he thought I was fine and to re-test in 6 months.  Well, that 6 month mark would be right about now I think. 

 

DH has talked about it all with me some and has tried to help and be supportive in his own way.  We were talking about the possibility of m/c and he said that maybe IF there was/is something wrong with the baby that maybe it's how it's supposed to be.  He usually has some good/true/logical things to say and I think sometimes he's not quite sure how to handle certain situations.  I have appreciated his input and care and concern asking how I am, cooking a little, and watching the children so I can nap/rest, etc.

 

I hope it doesn't seem like I'm only focusing on the negative, because I'm not.  I've really been enjoying various aspects, including the children being very excited about another baby!  I'm mostly expressing the concerns I have.  I think I'm just in a sort of numb state until I know more and can't wait to know more!  I'm mentally and emotionally trying to prepare for the possible worst while somehow still hoping for the best.

 

Well, I think that will do it for now.  I'm really tired and have a headache so I'm going to try for some sleep.  If you've read this far and are still with me, thank you!  smile.gif

 

Blessings,

 

Arianne


Edited by malzimus - 9/19/12 at 11:19am
post #50 of 71
Thread Starter 

malzimus- Oh, no.  Spotting is never reassuring.  I hope you get in touch with the mw today and she can get you into the office for a quick check!  

 

maydaymom10- I am glad you got to hear your active little bean! :D  I am looking forward to the 20 week scan and I, too, don't know how we are going to handle the gender aspect.  :/  Time will tell.  How exciting to attend your first birth as a doula!  That would totally be something I was interested in doing down the road when the kids are a smidge older and I can leave them alone for a time...So happy you're husband helped out after so you could nap! What a sweetie!  :)


Granolamama- They have no idea what is causing the bleeding this time as my subchorionic hematoma should have "bled out" by now.  MW thinks it is prob cervical, but we hadn't had sex for like 5 days and THEN the red blood showed up.  I am just chalking it up to weirdness and trying to keep my head on straight. :)   How did telling DP's mother go?  

post #51 of 71

Those of you with spotting, I'll keep you in my prayers!  hug2.gif

 

I have been trying to pay attention to possible baby movement for a while, and have felt what I think are flutters for a couple of weeks (but so hard to tell, this being essentially my first).  Then, for the past few days, I have felt a couple little tiny taps per day...  I THINK!  lol.gif  But today during the meditative part of prenatal yoga class, I could ALMOST swear I felt a distinct "kick."  (I am 16w3d today.)  I mean, a small kick, but since I had been lying completely still for at least 5+ minutes at that point, belly really relaxed, and it definitely wasn't gastrointestinal in nature, I am prreeeeetty sure it was Buko.  I am trying not to stress about movement or even think about it too much for another couple of weeks, but... fingers crossed!   

post #52 of 71

Buko that's about when I felt kicks with DD.  It is most likely baby :D
 

post #53 of 71
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I have been trying to pay attention to possible baby movement for a while, and have felt what I think are flutters for a couple of weeks (but so hard to tell, this being essentially my first).  Then, for the past few days, I have felt a couple little tiny taps per day...  I THINK!  lol.gif  But today during the meditative part of prenatal yoga class, I could ALMOST swear I felt a distinct "kick."  (I am 16w3d today.)  I mean, a small kick, but since I had been lying completely still for at least 5+ minutes at that point, belly really relaxed, and it definitely wasn't gastrointestinal in nature, I am prreeeeetty sure it was Buko.  I am trying not to stress about movement or even think about it too much for another couple of weeks, but... fingers crossed!   

Yay for kicks!! I'm 16 weeks today, so you're giving me hope!

post #54 of 71
Thread Starter 

Buko!  How exciting!! I am thinking that was probably your little one in there!  I started feeling movement with DD1 at 16 or so weeks.  I have been feeling this one move since just over 14 weeks!  I love the kicking/moving, but can't wait until it is more common and regular cuz when I don't feel it for a day or more, I start to get a smidge freaked out! 

post #55 of 71

Jodie, I get freaked out too! I can't wait for the big kicks to start coming. Sometimes I second guess myself on whether what I'm feeling now is actually the baby or if I just imagined it.

post #56 of 71

Thank you jodieanneanton and buko!

 

Well, I saw the midwife today.  She was not able to find the baby's heartbeat with the handheld doppler. :(

 

She said it could be because of baby's size as I'm just now 12 weeks, could be my tummy padding/size esp. from first two babies, could be if my pregnancy has ended, could be if the placenta is blocking things - there are any number of reasons.

 

My choices are: 1. just wait it out more 2. have HcG Quant. blood tests a few days apart to see if levels have stayed the same, dropped (m/c) or risen 3. have an ultrasound.  I think I'm ready for an ultrasound just to know what's going on finally.  She said I could try taking another preg. test and I told her that I did the other day (Friday, day after I first saw her) and it still shows me as being pregnant/a positive.  This evening I left a voicemail for the lady that she refers ladies to for ultrasounds.  I'm hoping she can get me in sometime this week.

 

 

 

 

post #57 of 71
Malzimus-- I will be thinking of you! Do be assured for now that at 11 weeks, my MW said there's only about a 50-60% chance of hearing babe with a Doppler, so at 12, I'm sure that there's still a very good chance of hearing nothing but the baby being just fine.
post #58 of 71
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Malzimus-- I will be thinking of you! Do be assured for now that at 11 weeks, my MW said there's only about a 50-60% chance of hearing babe with a Doppler, so at 12, I'm sure that there's still a very good chance of hearing nothing but the baby being just fine.

 

Thank you for your support, buko.  My midwife didn't tell me percentages but I know and we discussed that baby could just be too small or low or hiding.  She said that with some women who are on the

smaller/skinny side she can often find a heartbeat right away because there's more direct contact vs like in my situation where I am def. not slim, ha.

 

I woke up at 5am this morning after just a few hours of sleep when my DD came and joined me in bed. :)

 

A few minutes later, I went to the bathroom and passed 2 clots and some other red blood.  I went again about an hour later but didn't pass anything and there was only a little bit of (not as red?) show that time.  :(  I haven't been able to get back to sleep and am trying to process some thoughts and emotions right now.  Part of me wants an ultrasound right away and part of me wonders if I should just wait.  I've been trying to figure out whether it would be better or worse for me emotionally/mentally if I have one and things are not ok.  So far I haven't seen baby or heard a heartbeat yet.  Would any of you ladies that have experienced m/c's be willing to weigh in on this?  Do you think it would be harder or actually help me with closure?

 

 

P.S.  If this is too "heavy" or hard for some to read based on previous or current experiences and/or stages of preg., I apologize.  I can just stop posting or try to find a different thread to post in if necessary, I'd understand.


Edited by malzimus - 9/18/12 at 1:04pm
post #59 of 71

malzimus, I am thinking about you!! I can't weigh in on your u/s question, but I just wanted to let you know that I don't mind you posting about it here. If you don't get a response here, there is a pregnancy and birth loss forum here: http://www.mothering.com/community/f/22/pregnancy-and-birth-loss 
Please keep us updated. I am praying for youhug2.gif

 

post #60 of 71
Malzimus - I have no problem with you posting here!! I've had two miscarriages and bleeding with both pregnancies now. I was around 12 weeks with the bleed this time. I had a quant done but honestly, it was scarier and less reassuring than the U/S because around 12 weeks the HCG levels plateau or even drop. This was my case - I'd hit the plateau. The U/S made me feel a ton better seeing that baby was fine. I had U/S with my losses as well and it still made me feel better. I got one last look at my angel and I had a definitive answer rather than sitting and wondering. It's obviously your choice but in your shoes I would get the U/S as soon as they could get me in. Hugs and prayers that it's just implantation bleeding and/or a SCH. KUP!
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