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Who have you told or when are you telling?

post #1 of 94
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I love hearing stories about people telling friends/family about their pregnancy!  joy.gif  Here is a thread to share all these great stories!

 

Who have you told?  Who are you waiting to tell?  When are you waiting until?  How are you telling?

 

With DS, we waited until Christmas to tell my parents (I was 10 weeks already) and surprised them with a gift that was a onsie that read "first grandchild".  It was a really great surprise!

 

This time, we told my parents right away!  They are very excited, but there were none of the tears like the first time!  My sister found out from my mom (who didn't tell her, but is waaayyy to obvious based on her goofy grin) when my mom kept asking if she'd seen us yet since getting back from her trip.  My sister figured it out in no time flat! lol.  We will be seeing DH's family in 2 weeks and we are waiting until then to tell them in person (so much more fun to share the excitment and see the reaction that way!)  As for the rest of our family/friends, I will probably tell a few close friends who knew we were trying as I see them but wait until after the first trimester to tell everyone else, includng work.  Last time, I held off at work until 23 weeks when I was obviously showing.  I now have a different, much less competative job where I'm not concerned that I won't get my bonus or something like that because I'm pregnant so this time I'll tell after the first trimester.

 

How about everyone else??  Especially for you first time moms, any fun surprises planned? 

post #2 of 94

We told both sets of our parents this past weekend as we were all camping together. They new we were trying again.  Ds is 5 and we haven't told him yet as we had the difficult job of explaining a miscarriage this past June so we are more hesitant to tell him too soon this time.  I have told my immediate supervisor at work as I was going to be off work for the odd appointment. I am sure the rest of my co-workers will figure it out quickly as well since they are expecting it this time.  I want everything to go well and can't wait to tell people.

post #3 of 94
We haven't told anyone yet, I'm liking having it just between DH and I IRL right now. We're heading out of state to my parents house the 3rd weekend in September, so we will likely tell them then, and then his parents soon after. I know my parents will be shocked. We've been telling them that we're not ready, as we didn't want pressure for grandkids (this will be the first grandkid on both my side and DH's side). Any clever ideas for how to spring it on them?

I really want to tell my best friend, as she just texted me and said she's pregnant again- and due in early May- same as me!!! But DH wants me to keep it quiet so I'm respecting that.

Once I get proof that there is a little baby in there (ultrasound or doppler) I'll probably be more comfortable telling people.

We won't announce it to the world (aka facebook) until around Halloween.
post #4 of 94

We'll tell my parents when we Skype with them on Thursday. (They are in Scotland and we're in Florida so Skype is how my parents get to interact with our boys.) DH's parents we'll tell as late as we can as MIL is soooo negative about us having children and is definitely not a hands on grandmother. They live only 3 1/2 hours away, yet rarely visit even though they are both retired and don't actually do much (except fuss over BIL's dog.)

 

Those who see us regularly will find out when I start showing, so probably in about 6 weeks.

 

Everyone else (ie FB) we'll make the public announcement around Thanksgiving when we'll be safely in the 2nd trimester.

 

We don't do anything creative, just let people know we have a new blessing on the way.

post #5 of 94

DS birthday party is in 6 weeks with parents and closest friends, so we plan to do a fun reveal there.  I'm so excited!  With the first I had so many people praying for us in our Loooooong journey TTC, that I sent a text of my positive pregnancy tests pretty immediately.  So, this time it is fun to keep it just between DH and I.  

 

Although... I have told my Doula (she is a busy lady and wanted to make sure she didn't plan a get away towards the end of April/ beginning of may) and I told my Wellness chiropractor who is helping me with some of the initial symptoms I'm experiencing.  Other than that... I'm very proud of myself for keeping my mouth shut! thumb.gif

post #6 of 94

I told my sister and two close friends so far.  My husband asked if he could tell his supervisor as they are very close friends and he is leaving the country on a work trip -- he wants her to "look out" for me and I think that's sweet of him.  DD 6th birthday party is in 3 weeks and I have family coming to stay with us for the celebration.  I intend to announce it to my family around that time, but will keep quiet with other guests.  I am a talker and have a tendency to be an open book about everything shy.gif so holding back will be a challenge!  However, I'm feeling like I just want to savor the sweet secret and work on not being so open all the time (it's come back to bite me a few times lately).  I'd like to hold off most people knowing until I'm showing.  I will not talk about it on Facebook till after 22 wks minimum.  

post #7 of 94

We haven't told any family yet. I have told three close friends, who I know will be positive and only have happy thoughts for us :) We will probably wait until I can't hide it anymore..not sure when that will be with this being #7. I am usually not too obvious for the first trimester..but I doubt I'll be able to go too much past that.


Edited by kikaaaso - 9/6/12 at 8:33am
post #8 of 94

We just found out today, so we're not telling anyone IRL for a while. Just DH and I know, and my OB b/c I had a follow-up from a sono today (history of ovarian cysts) a few weeks ago. So now you all know! I was too excited not to get online and talk to someone else about it. We are not telling anyone until at least October. My DH's sister, who I am close with, is due in November and her baby shower is on Sept. 30th, so I think I'll wait until after that to tell anyone on his side of the family. And since it's not fair to tell my family and not his, we're going to wait to tell my family too. Our DD will be 3 on Oct. 21st, and we'll probably have her party that weekend. I will be 11 weeks by then, so we might do a big reveal then. We'll see. Right now I'm praying for a happy and healthy pregnancy so we can announce it with confidence!

post #9 of 94
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Originally Posted by TwilightJoy View Post

We haven't told anyone yet, I'm liking having it just between DH and I IRL right now. We're heading out of state to my parents house the 3rd weekend in September, so we will likely tell them then, and then his parents soon after. I know my parents will be shocked. We've been telling them that we're not ready, as we didn't want pressure for grandkids (this will be the first grandkid on both my side and DH's side). Any clever ideas for how to spring it on them?
I really want to tell my best friend, as she just texted me and said she's pregnant again- and due in early May- same as me!!! But DH wants me to keep it quiet so I'm respecting that.

 

Good for you! I'm being a bad mama. My partner doesn't feel completely comfortable with me telling people, but he hasn't come out and said no, don't do it. So I told two of my good friends at work, but I haven't told my partner that I spilled the beans to someone else. redface.gif I just couldn't wait to tell someone who would be excited with me!

 

That's exciting that you have a complete shocker situation and you can be creative with how you break the news!

 

For us, we'll definitely wait to tell more people til the 8-week appt after we hear the heartbeat. (After a MC and chemical pregnancy, we're a little gunshy.) I haven't put much thought into how we will tell family, but it would be fun to do something creative.

 

I probably won't tell my boss til late October, after raises are decided and doled out. I don't want to be passed over for a raise because of some people's silly notions about pregnancy and maternity leave.

 

Speaking of creative ways to tell, this t-shirt is awfully cute.

post #10 of 94
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Originally Posted by snozzberry View Post
Speaking of creative ways to tell, this t-shirt is awfully cute.

 

  I absolutely LOVE this t-shirt!  I am totally buying this to wear for Halloween.  My second trimester starts Oct 31 so the timing would be good too orngbiggrin.gif

post #11 of 94

I am copying you! You don't live in California, do you? (I'd be so embarrassed if we showed up to the same party with the same costume!)

post #12 of 94

I can't keep my big mouth shut, so lots of people know already. My sister was chart-stalking me and getting the TTC play-by-play, so she knew a couple hours after I did. (And hubby, of course). Then that morning I told my boss and our secretary. (My boss is a working mom and super excited and supportive of me, and knew we had been trying. She's kind of like a big sister, not a normal boss-employee relationship. And she and our secretary and I are close; about 90% of my work time is spent only with one or both of them.) Then the next day I told my parents. We were visiting my dad and I wanted to tell him in person since we won't see him again for a few months. I was going to wait to tell my mom in person too, but I won't see her until almost Halloween, and that was too long to wait, so I called her after I told my dad. (She got to hear it first last time.) I swore her to secrecy to the rest of the family, though. And I told my best friend yesterday. This weekend if we see my inlaws we will tell them. Or whenever we see them again, which will be soon -- they live in the next town over. Also told DD (age 2.5) the day we found out, just because I couldn't help myself and she had been saying she wanted "a baby." She didn't say anything much about it all weekend, and then blurted it out to her daycare teachers on Tuesday morning. Ooops! Didn't think that was going to happen!

post #13 of 94
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Originally Posted by snozzberry View Post

 

Speaking of creative ways to tell, this t-shirt is awfully cute.

I was just telling DH that is how I want to announce it!! But I hadn't even looked for a shirt, now I know where to find one. Thanks for sharing.

 

If a bunch of  us do this we all need to post pics!!!

post #14 of 94
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Originally Posted by Mamma Mia View Post

I am copying you! You don't live in California, do you? (I'd be so embarrassed if we showed up to the same party with the same costume!)

I'm in Northern Arizona so you're safe!  winky.gif

post #15 of 94

We wold our parents last week - Mine live 1,000 miles away, so I called to chat and let them know once we got caught up on other things. We talked with them again last night for another reason, and thy are still getting used to the news. My mom is a very active knitter, so her first reaction was "guess I have to think of some new patterns!". I actually expect her to whip out a secret stash of baby blankets when we visit for Christmas. eyesroll.gif

 

DH's parents live much closer and we saw them this weekend for a pre-planned stay at their house. It tool a while to steer the conversation to a point where it made sense to share, but then DH told them and it was great to see the reaction on their faces. My MIL looked at me in a different way after hearing that!

 

We are holding off on telling anyone else for as long as we can. DH's brother and his wife are expecting their first in mid October, and since she loves being the center of attention we are definitely waiting to tell other family until November (which will be 12 weeks anyway). Friends will figure it out when they see me not drinking beer, especially since we are planning a trip to a distillery and brewpub with some close friends in a couple weeks.

 

Now that our parents know, it both makes it more real to me and takes some pressure off for when our friends get suspicious.

post #16 of 94

We told the in-laws after DS2's party on Saturday. We only just managed to get a few seconds with them as they were leaving (they left before some of the other guests) and all we had to say was that we had some news and MIL said she knew. They never mentioned it when they came back on Sunday morning. But that is about what I expected. She thinks we're too old to be having babies and she isn't exactly a doting grandma type.

 

My mum is starting to save up so she can come over from Scotland next year, but probably won't come until maybe Christmas when the baby is quite a bit older. She came over for Ds1's birth and almost missed it and then came over when DS2 was 2 months old, so waiting a bit will give her more interactive time with the grandbabies.

 

We plan to wait until Thanksgiving to share with everyone else, as long as I can physically keep it hidden until then. I do tend to show quite early, so we may have to break the news sooner than we plan.

post #17 of 94

Just DH and I know at the moment...and all of you.  

 

I suspect I'll have to tell my boss soonish as so far I've been blaming me not feeling well on allergies.  Some of it may have been but some of it may have been thanks to the little poppyseed in there.  I know he'll be understanding about letting me work at home if I need to, and hopefully will be good about possibly letting me "come back" from maternity leave while working from home a bit.  I will only have 6 weeks of time off saved by the time I'm due and I'm not sure we can afford to go too much longer than that since it'll be unpaid.

 

I suspect we'll tell my MIL and the rest of DH's family soon after my first u/s on the 27th but we'll wait on my mom as long as possible or likely until Thanksgiving.  My mom is crazy  (borderline personality disorder) and has made my brother so crazy since he had his first a month ago that he wants to cut off all contact with her.  She calls the baby hers and throws hissy fits because they haven't visited yet.  Plus she constantly critiques their parenting and tells them outdated info (she wants them to have the baby sleep on her stomach).  So yea, not looking forward to all of the "helpful advice" I'll get nor the constant checking in.  I honestly don't know if we'll make it to the due date without cutting her out of our lives.  I don't really want her anywhere near any children of mine and she will never, EVER be alone with them.  So that'll be fun.

 

Not sure when I'll announce it on Facebook.  I love the t-shirt and can't decide between that and posting a picture of my pup with a sign saying she'll be a big sister but will probably go for the picture since I'm too cheap to buy the shirt.

post #18 of 94

My sister found out this morning while I was Skyping with my mum. She has been having twin girl dreams for the last week and a half (about the same time we've known we were pregnant) and I'm the only one she could think of as being pregnant. So she asked me outright if I was, and I couldn't lie (never have been able to keep a straight face when trying to lie.) She has been sworn to secrecy, but I'm not even 6 weeks yet and its already beginning to spread, so I'm not sure how long we'll actually be able to keep it quiet.

post #19 of 94
We've told our parents and have told or will finish telling today all of our siblings and their spouses today. I'm not planning on telling anyone else until ~12 weeks except my OB and probably my boss again. I told him ~5-6 weeks last time when the 1st trimester fatigue hit as I didn't want him to think I was being a slacker if I was asleep at my desk. Luckily, my boss is very cool, so I didn't have to worry about him holding it against me. With everyone so far it's been phone calls just telling them straight out. Everyone is excited, though only the ILs were super surprised as for whatever reason they didn't think we'd have more than one.

As I said in the other thread, I think maybe a picture of DD with a big sis shirt may be how I announce it on Facebook & to my coworkers. I think that's cute without being too much.
post #20 of 94

told my mom with a birthday card (her birthday is in May) :) then called and told hubby, I also told my good friend today. 

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