oh gosh.. your relationship with your mum.. and your mum in general sounds like mine.. i am SO nervous about my mum finidng out.. as soon as she does it will be all about her as always.. even though she has had nothing to do with my life what so ever for 10 years, and barely for a further 5.. i dont even want to tell her, i know she will find out tho, and im going through planning for christmas trauma as my cousins just about to have her baby so my family want to go down to her to see her, her hubby and the baby at christmas.. but this means spending elongated amounts of time with my family, which quite frankly completely terrifys me!!!
Well, if it helps, while telling her wasn't fun it was better than expected. And I find that being pregnant has greatly reduced my bs tolerance and is giving me the strength to say no to her. We've already greatly reduced the amount of time we plan on being there at Thanksgiving and if she's going to complain about it too much we just won't go at all. I have to do what's best for me and my family, and if that isn't what she wants, that's her problem, not mine. So if you don't want to spend that much time with your family, don't. You don't owe them anything. Family is not an excuse to treat people poorly and make the thought of spending time with them terrifying. Easier said than done, I know, but you'll get there. Let me know if you ever need to talk.
He's been posting things on Facebook so he's not too terribly busy. If he can post on facebook he could at least shoot me an email. But no, nothing yet.