Anyways what did you do? Or any ideas on what I could do?
She will be 6 or about to turn 6. At first she wanted to be there, now since i have shown her some water birth videos she is a bit apprehensive.....she said that she just wants to be in the room but not see anything, but wants to see and be there when the baby is born. And its very important to my DH and I that she is there and we want to be able to spend some time with the two of them together privately before anyone else meets or sees him.
I don't have really anyone else that could be with her there or that i would trust not to cross boundaries while there with her. We are going to get a doula anyways, so im hoping that between her and my DH it will be covered i guess. We just dont have the money to hire someone else to keep her occupied.
I think the student doula idea is the way to go. A student doula would probably love to have an opportunity to see a birth and watch an experienced doula do her job. You might be able to find someone who was interested in doing it without cost or maybe you could just offer a babysitter's rate. Personally, I would want one adult "assigned' to kiddo duty so that you can have the full attention of your partner and birth doula without worrying about them needing to multi-task with childcare.
You REALLY stuck your foot in it with that.
Not only is it just plain a ridiculous statement to make, but also extremely insensitive given what this poster and her daughter are going through.
SympatheticDad, I'd like to refer you to our User Agreement. Let's keep the discussion civil and avoid what could be perceived as name-calling.
It is quite common to have older children present at the birth of new siblings, at home, in birth centers, and in hospitals. As a new doula myself, I do think a volunteer doula would be happy to be present at a birth center birth even if her duties would include babysitting.