So I am now wondering whether perhaps we have reached the end of naps. 2 1/2 seems awfully young for that, and I'm very concerned that it's just because of the upheaval in DD1's life, but she has taken well over an hour when we have actually gotten her down, and we've only been successful about 1/2 of the time - the other times, we've given up and let her stay up since she CLEARLY was not going to nap and we just couldn't spend any more time trying.Ough. We REALLY REALLY need her to nap!!!!
Rebecca - we are tandeming. I've nursed both at the same time many times, but I limit DD1 to no more than a minute or two because I'm concerned that DD2 needs the milk (there is probably plenty for both, but I worry anyway) and I just don't like nursing her. She started nursing differently during my pregnancy and it made my skin crawl then, and I was hoping it would get better once I had milk again and it hasn't. During my pregnancy she was limited to a minute or two, so this isn't new for her. I do want to say yes to her any time she asks, but I just can't nurse her for very long because it feels awful. I'm sad to say that, but it's true. I have to grit my teeth sometimes. I've read of other mamas having that problem and I get it.
I can't wean DD1 now because I don't want to create any negative associations with DD2, but it's definitely on the horizon.